How can I ask the flirty hot neighbor to let me be her slave?

In a situation like this...words matter and so do actions.

First do not yet use the word "Slave" when discussing.

Try "servant" or "someone to help you out"

"well I couldn't pay you"

"Being with you is payment enough" ;-)

You must plant the seed with a tweezers not a bulldozer.

Never mention Chastity, unless she says "I can't have sex with you"

Then you can reply "Well that's good because I can't have it with you either as I am sort of ummm (be shy LOL) under lock and key" and then see what happens

Good luck and report back we are rooting for you!

 

Why not just talk to her in a usual way? Get known to each other, make her compliments, help her out. Be a gentleman. Show her her superiority over you. Let her slightly feel your pervy thoughts. Talk dirty.

And you could lock yourself and put your key into an envelope together with a nice letter. Simple words. Not drastical things.
No creepy stuff. Nothing that leads to you.

Dont tell her it was you. Again only give her teasers.

She will recognize it by time.

Never fall into the house with the door. (directly translated from german)

And if she shiws you miscredit take it and be careful not to stalk her.

 

Why don’t you determine if she’s Kinky or not.

“…are you just a flirt or is there something more here”’

“…are you kinky as well as cute? Because if you’re not I’ll just get bored”.

That’s an low risk ask. If she’s not kinky move on if she says yes, Her kinks might be more fun than chastity and if you explore hers first she might indulge yours.

 

crazy idea... ask her to spend a day at someplace like the Renaissance Festival somewhere during theme weekend....how she responds may give you a good idea to her deeper world and an opening.

 

She is mid 20s and all over the place...

She might not have a maturity or mental capacity to be your key holder. Yet alone some that you could have an actual relationship with other than just the occasional hook up.

 

Start slow. For example, if you can cook (or take the time to learn to cook), ask her what her favorite dishes are, then go learn how to cook one of them, then offer to cook her dinner.

Relationship first.

 

Rule #1. You don't stick your dick in crazy!!! No matter how hot she is !

You say she's all over the place mentally but you want to be her slave?
Lock you down and make you her slave?
You answered your own question.

But if you must. Get to know her first. Don't let looks and lust cloud your judgement..
Or your next post will be asking how to get out of device xyz with out damage to you or it because you like the cage and want to reuse it. But crazy ex girlfriend threw the keys away.

 

^^^^ What this wise man said~!!!

 

So you have two different problems.

The first is, forming a sexual relationship with your neighbour without being creepy or pushy, or making things hard if things go wrong. You've already hooked up with her before. Simply try to replicate the situation. If she's not interested, she'll say no. Simple as that.

The second is, trying to do the above on the basis of being kinky. Kink is an entirely legitimate topic of conversation during sexy time. You can joke about sex toys, or ask about them. You can share fantasies. You can just tell her you have a fantasy about her.

Really, it's best to do things in that order.

I suppose, if she's really in your face flirty, you could joke "I'm immune - I'm wearing my chastity belt!" and see what response you get. But that's a highrisk strategy.

 

The last paragraph is so great. Thanks fir this.

 

You say you got close, but never completed the deed, did you tell her anything about your kink or fetishes? If you did it might help in how you progress in the matter.

 

Good to see you back. Think for many younger women it’s more natural to be a little more dominant. Probably the age that makes her all over the place. If you would give her the key you could do it discreetly say it’s for something special. If you have a more anonymous key that don’t scream chastity or put the real key in a lock box and give her the key to the box. Anyway ask if she could keep the spare key and invent a story maybe later tell her the truth. I wouldn’t go to the slave part first think it would be something that could develop from her side. I mean if she later like the idea of having the key. If she freak out about the chastity it would be even more weird to offer slave part. But if she like the key part maybe you could start to “please” her a little more to show your gratitude. Maybe would be less weird. You could also straight forward with the key at first but most find it weird at first then later they start to like being in control and you please them.

 

That's a very boring rule.

 

Stay away from mental cases. It’s just not worth it. Believe me. Crazy women can be fun to play with, but they’ll make your life hell. And the last th8ng you want is a mental case holding the keys to your cock.

 

RIGHT!! LOL

 

Exactly this

 

The question was how to approach her, not IF to approach her, right? I would ask her if she has ever heard of alternative lifestyles, or sexuality, and talk to her about what alternative even means. "What turns you on? and What turns you on about me?" might lead to her asking what turns you on about her...then just saying "being bossy and me helping you do stuff" is a pretty tame intro. Gradual, in my mind, is best for success. But if you are into base jumping, wingsuits, and no real parachute, well...just go for it. Listen to your heart though...

 

The threadstarter is just a keyboard jerker. No need for further explanations.