Why you locked yourself?

It really not all that complicated to figure out.

• Someone wants to try chastity
  
• They don't have a keyholder
• They lock themselves to see what it's like
• Some enjoy it and stick with it, others do not.

If you are asking why on earth would anyone want to be locked up to begin with, then that's a whole different animal with a wide spectrum of reasons.

 

I am married and was told years ago that i would no longer be a part of her sex life. We both expressed my lacking to satisfy her sexually and agreed it was best. Naturally chastity for me was explored and when it was accepted as normal she had already made changes. I was moved into the extra bedroom and began doing the housework while she stayed out later and later. Many other changes were done which i gladly accepted.

 

My reason fits into the points I made. I wanted to try it, I liked it, I continue to do it.

 

Because people want to.

 

Because it feels good.

 

Maybe because you masturbate too often and:

• You want to become a more outgoing person
• You want to have more energy for day to day actiiviies
• You want to get ahead in your job / career
• You want to leverage your sexual energy for meeting and being more kind & caring of other people
• You want to connect with someone and experience pleasurable intimacy that's far better than solo sexuality

 

I was masturbate every single day at least once and decided to stop it.

 

I like the feeling so I kept going

 

It feels good, I like the look of it on me, its kinky and invisible, and I lack of self control and want to control that.

 

I masturbate too much and decided to use chastity to control it. The WIFE had no interest to be a keyholder. UNTIL YESTERDAY!!!!!!
Hopefully I will not be a solo player anymore

 

Thats awesome! What changed her?

 

I read your Journey post. But what happened to her? Why now? Have you asked her?

 

I don't quite know myself. But the wife has an interesting unpredictability character. We did talk about it a little and my guess is that she has some time to think about this and has done some research online. Guess she thinks that this will spice up our relationship, which has not been going too smoothly of late. This is probably due to both of us spending too much time together during these COVID times.
We both agreed that we are not looking for an FLR as we are both from very conservative families and we live in a VERY conservative society here in Singapore. But we are not ignoring it completely as well.
Maybe this is just her way of helping me stop some of my vices through suggestion, and reward.

Like I said, will be taking this one day at a time, enjoying each day as it comes.

 

The reason i self locked was to initially try it. I'm submissive and it was one of the few things i could do by myself to get some experience as a sub

 

i do it because i didn't have anyone else to do it with.
plus to me its like a form of bondage i can wear out in public

 

That is good answer, I also like the feeling and get the added bonus of practicing discreet bondage in public.

 

I’ve always had a fascination with chastity, going back 40+ years, even before I understood what it really even was. I self lock mostly because my wife, while occasionally will hold my keys, just lets me out if I ask. So I use chaster and a combination lockbox to self lock. I don’t do it all the time, but I do like the occasional session. the feeling of not being able to touch myself is incredibly satisfying, more so than the inevitable orgasm at the end

 

I do it because i.like the feeling of the metal cage pulling on my knob and balls. I also.like the rub of my penis inside the cage and the way when its straining to become erect it oozes out of the gaps in the side and end. Also when it comes off how the imprint of the cage remains.
I do have a wife who participates but isnt fully into my kink, but she is becoming more willing to engage.

 

I think this works for me too.

 

For those of us into self locking, there are great resources out there, like emlalock.com, and chaster.app
Chaster has a good community of keyholders if you want. I created a group on fetlife for those who want to lose some control by letting you share links for others to vote on your lock. It’s still in its infancy, so mileage may vary, but you can find it at https://fetlife.com/groups/248184

 

My reason for self locking is I've always been curious about chastity love me some chastity porn lol so the curiosity and appeal has been there for a while but also I felt like I was masturbating to much and not able to focus on other things in my life I have a high sex drive so chastity is helping me with that I'm still new only going on a week locked but I've noticed a difference in myself already

 

It helps with nofap. That's really my main reason right now. I'm trying to get my porn addiction under control and it's a physical barrier that makes it harder to relapse as long as it's there.

Well . . . that's my main reason at least. There's also the thrill of walking around with the thing in my pants and nobody knows about it. It's a dirty little secret, and something about that just turns me on

 

I get what you mean I love walking around with it on being turned on for having a dirty little secret that's exactly how I feel I love it