I am a 29 year old Alpha Male who owns his own business and has been generally successful. I am very dominant with everything I do. I have a 19 year old partner who recently moved in with me. Sexually I am very dominant and she loves it and has all the toys / bondage etc. She’s very attractive natural E Boobs / Skinny and very pretty. This all started after I organised to go on a stag do (frat party I think is the US term) she was quite protective as always. She made a joke I wish I could lock your cock for the week. I was surprised she knew what it was! I just laughed off the idea. Last night she told me she’s ordered a device after doing some research and it arrives tomorrow and she has some ideas for me. So I like to be prepared and speak to like minded people. As I’ve no real idea what I’m getting myself in for. Which is strange as I’m so dominant and this is me giving up control of something very important haha.
It seems like you are about to discover a whole new world! Get over the idea of being “alpha” and “dominant”, it’s just you and allow yourself to explore this new sensation, labels aren’t really important. It’s just the other side of the same coin which will most likely allow you to get hold of the whole coin itself. And since the contrast is great, having that old labels, the feeling will be great too. It’s important to understand if she does want your cock locked up because of anything else of the positive psychological and physical reasons (about which you can read in these forums) or because of jealousy. I can imagine that that extra feeling of “security” underlies lesser or more in every key holder but if that is all about her then please remember that to my opinion chastity is about giving up control due to trust, not fear. Maybe you should discuss with her openly about your worries and feelings and get to know hers, you have some time before the device arrives. Maybe you will discover that a Female Led Relationship is even more intriguing, try it and find out yourselves. I wish you good luck and welcome!
Thank you for your reply. I perhaps wasn’t very clear. The topic of a cage got brought up as a joke about me going on holiday. But that’s what started the topic off. She’s told me it’s payback for the things I’ve sexually done to her. She informed me this morning “remember the time you held the vibrator on me a few days ago for ages even when I said I couldn’t take anymore payback time is soon” I know it’s only a sexual thing and not a thing of jealousy etc.