FLM without Cuckolding

I have been in an FLM for two years now. At my wife's insistence it is a sexless marriage and always will be. She has the option of cuckolding me, which I enthusiastically support, but she says that given our ages (71 and 70) and her present lack of desire for other men, that it is unlikely. Our FLM is more about my desire to submit to her completely. Sex is only one aspect.

 

No cuckolding, Goddess has no interest.

 

We are similar ages but in spite of some health problems she still enjoys cuckolding me and it usually works well for her and me. Our relation seems to be better when she has a lover.

 

FLR, but Miss A only plays with women. Neither of us want to involve a man.

 

One of the unquestionable rules of the FLR with my wife is that she can have sex with whoever and whenever she wants.

 

As much as I beg, my wife will not go there.

 

No cuckolding; hard limit for both of us.

Some times I have fantasies about watching a guy do him or him suck off a guy while he's in lingerie, but, I'll never act on them.

I had a hard enough time during the end of my pregnancy watching other women discipline him. I just didn't have the energy, he needed discipline applied to his bare bottom, so I had someone else do it a couple of times. In the end, we agreed if I get pregnant again, we won'r do this. We'll just have to figure something else out.

 

Are you sure? Who wouldn't?

 

Take it to the next level, you won't regret it

 

Wow facinating. I am relatively new to CM and cuckolding but am shocked women are claiming to have no interest. Certainly chastity and cuckolding do not have to go hand in hand and it is not for everyone. That being said if your chaste husband tells you he wants you to take another man and it turns him on I can honestly say i don't know why any woman with a heart beat doesn't go for it. I get the fear, the risk it is enormous however.... It has taken us years to get here. Constant communication, respect no sudden movement. Life is short find what makes you happy and embrace it. Let's be honest with ourselves and our partners. I don't mean to judge I'm just not sure these women are all being honest. To each his/her own.

 

No matter how fascinating you might find the following factoid to be, truth is that many women struggle with the much simpler concept of denying their man an orgasm. Even when they've been told, over and over again, that he actually wants to be denied.
People tend to enjoy making the person they love happy, but the thing you have to remember is they base their actions on what they *feel* will make the other happy. So if a woman loves her man, and enjoys making him happy, and if he's making her happy too, why would she do something she feels is likely to decrease her happiness? Cuckolding is such a minefield that she might simply prefer to avoid it altogether.

Let me flip the genders a bit here, so I can use other concepts that should be familiar here on CM to illustrate. Some men simply love going down on their women, to the point where they'd often rather stay locked and lick on then get unlocked and fuck. Making the person they love happy makes them so happy too that they prefer that happiness to their own orgasms. Sure, fucking their woman might give them more pleasure. But pleasuring her makes those men more happy, so that's what they do. Even when they know she's vanilla and only keeps them locked to make them happy.

I'll grant you that hypergamy is a real thing. Some women are always thinking about finding a better man than the one they have, and cuckolding can certainly help with that. But not all women think that way.

 

Thank you for your response, I agree with you. I myself have struggles with the denial and the need to do what I think will make my husband happy vs what he tells me will make him happy. That being said this is a journey and why it has taken us years to get from vanilla to cuckolding. My point is however if it is a fantasy for the men don't give up your woman it just may take a while to get there. Slow and steady with some consistent reinforcement of your needs and wants. Women often need time to process and grow comfortable with and figure out a path forward. The path to cuckolding is complicated and unclear but there is a path. I don't think this is an issue of hypergamy it certainly wasn't for me. It was more just simply variety. Happy travels people I hope those of you that want to find the path do so.

 

Thanks, because I certainly wasn't trying to ruin your fun or accuse you of ulterior motives.

But you mentioned you're newbie-ish here, and that you're surprised by women claiming to feel no desire to experiment with cuckolding even if their man wants to. I was just trying to point out that many people can have many good reasons to avoid cuckolding altogether, and many will never desire to give it a try, no matter what it does for other people.

 

No fun ruined. People and their perspectives certainly are interesting. I get it, like you say it is a minefield. Yes I am new to CM and very much am enjoying all the opinions that we are all entitled to.

 

Indeed: once my wife has overcome the limits imposed by judgments and hypocrisy, she has felt free to offer her fantastic femininity to other men who have been able to develop her erotic side like never before.

 

Well said, I like your style.

 

Because I love him more than any man I have ever loved and that has completely dissolved my interest in any other men.

 

I get that. I guess for me it has nothing to do with love. Loving my husband and cuckolding are very able to coexist in my world.

 

A friend of a friend has sex with other guys with permission of her husband. Huge turn on. Hubby gave ok. She was like great. Ok. Guys are seriously vetted...

 

Sure, whatever floats your boat. But you asked a question so I answered it.

 

I totally get where MrsBR_Saiph is coming from. My wife is much the same, easily separating love -- and our 35-year marriage -- from a night of sexy fun with a "boyfriend." It is something we both get in to and turns us both on.

As I said early in this thread, we realize that many FLR couples don't engage in cuckolding. My wife had to eventually give herself "permission" to indulge in this little hobby.

 

Absolutely agree. We have been married 47 years, cuckolding for 20, and her boyfriends are just living sex toys, though we do regard them well.

 

Here the nuances are much more than 50: the even more exciting thing about my wife going with other men is that she does it without asking for any permission.

 

My keyholder/Mistress/Wife and myself have no interest in cuckolding at all chastity/Bondage and crossdressing are our kinks

 

I hear that!