Why does everyone try to keep it secret

Social interaction. I actually would be fine if it were her friends or social circle. But if my work friends (also my real friends) found out it would change the whole dynamic of friendship and not to mention working there.

We taunt each other,give each other a razzing every chance we get...would never be the same again.

Should it matter if I am happy? Probably not, but it would make work a lonely place, and the time I do get to be with friends would be gone too.

 

What bike rally can you walk around wearing only your chaps and cage

 

I too have a desire for my mistress's friends to know about our relationship. The aweful stories my mistress tells me about the women she works with and some of their home lives with their husbands or boyfriends which in some cases what I've heard is appalling. If they only knew the life we led and how much respect I have for my mistress.
The issue with not keeping it a secret is that people (men) won't understand this as a lifestyle change but take it more from a sexual nature. Most people don't like it when you throw sex in their faces, they consider it TMI and I agree. Now if it's a woman explaining the dynamics of this relationship to other women that is different because more than likely the women having chastity explained to them could see the relationship/life benefits versus only the sexual part of it. I think a lot of men would jump to conclusions and look at the chaste man as weak and unable to be a "proper" alpha male for his woman. As nicoftime said your co-workers would look at you differently and probably respect you less as they wouldn't understand.

Think of it this way, suppose you did tell a coworker and they came to CM to find out what it was all about. Instead of understanding the intense bond this creates between couples they would look at the cross dressing, cuckolding, cum eating, pegging etc... and only see as what's perceived as the darker side of chastity and judge you on that bases. They would come to work the next day wondering if you had a fist in your ass the night before, Judy like I did a couple nights ago

 

Just like I did a couple nights ago.

 

Dude, I would have a roughset life ever. Probably work in the one of the manliness places possible and would never, ever live it down.

Doesn't mean I wouldn't love for my wife to let a friend or two in on the secret. Dangerous though as secrets tend to come out!

 

I would have no problem her bringing it up to one of her friends, I doubt it would come up in casual conversation. But if they were close enough to talk about their sex lives, or complain about relationships or what have you, then bringing it up would be an example of sharing what works for her...not just "do you know what we do?" Kind of conversation lol

 

. You guys don't know much about women and their best female friends.

Let me tell you they share stuff over coffee that would turn you beetroot red !

You guys might brag a lot but it's about engine sizes or who has the biggest chainsaw. The girls ...........OMG
They know everything.

Xx Wendy

 

It depends on the female. Mine doesn't have close knit friends. She has coworkers that have become friends but they don't live close enough to be everyday girlfriends. The few friends that are close by have grown apart due to marriage, kids, etc.

Women are a sharing bunch, but they certainly do not want to say anything that would embarrass themselves, or let something slip that would affect their career. They also want to be able to go in public with you, and having everyone know some of our bedroom kinks would make that difficult.

Mine told one of her friends on like the second day of holding my key. I think she just wanted someone to tell her it wasn't weird and be reassured. When asked about the key around her neck she said it was "to a cage on his...you know. He wanted to reassure me that he would not cheat" and her friend said it was sweet. They didn't talk about it again. In fact they haven't even gotten together since.

Personally I could care less if her friends or coworkers knew...my friends on the other hand would make life unbearable. It's very blue collar and I've been there for 25 years.

 

lol I work as engineer on the railroad.

 

I have always known that my wife confided in and sought the opinion of someone that she is extremely close to however I did not realise until quite recently that this confidence also extended to explicit details of our personal relationship.
Whilst it was difficult enough knowing and accepting that someone who is extremely close to my wife and who she has always referred to as her Auntie knowing intimate details about our relationship but professional colleagues or close friends would be too humiliating to even contemplate.

 

I don't tell people because I wouldn't want to make them uncomfortable. I don't think everyone wants to know.

 

I guess I never tell anyone because I'm afraid on how they would react. I don't we're my belt to work or my hobbies because I have an full Carrara belt and it's not as easy to hide.

 

Locomotive engineer Canadian pacific

 

I'm in highway maintenance and part or an dirt track race team in the summer

 

My Owner and Mistress has told her closest ones about the key she has visible.
Feel good about Her closest friends knowing about my status. Still, I',m worried since this matter is out of my control.

 

What are you worried about? Let things take their natural course. Only when more couples like us become more open about the natural beauty of our female-led relationships and female-controlled sexuality will the attitudes of society change and the way we live will become accepted and will grow. Become part of the change.

 

My Wife is utterly uninterested in sharing the details of our arrangement with other people. Our close friends and family are very aware of the dynamic we have, of how Elle is in charge, but they don't know about the chastity or the formal arrangements of our FLR. Those details are private.

 

my wife and i live in a very macho society, so i would get a lot of shit from every single male i know with maybe just 1-2 really good friends that would understand, so we dont have much of a choice, i know my wife would love to tell her friends about it, but i asked her to keep it a secret for now since most of her friends a very agresive women and i know it would go bad if they knew