I Don't Think I Like Cock Cages

So, @Thatguyontheinternet actually wrote this yesterday, but i guess didn't hit the right button to post it. Since talking about it, and him posting his feelings on being cageless that he's developed since being uncaged all this time, I decided now would be a good time for a little reminder. Since I don't want the submissiveness he has developed to slip too far into the Ether, he is now wearing his leather chastity belt with a large vibrating plug secured to the belt's strap, I have the front of the belt locked and the back zip tied, so he even had to ask permission to use the restroom...and to really drive it home, I had him take a 50mg Viagra about 45 minutes ago. I'd imagine it won't take long until he's begging for a nice, custom fit device again.

 

I wouldn't say I 'enjoy' wearing my device but I wouldn't be without it. I do feel very naked without it on and much more grounded and in control of my desires and attitude when I am wearing it. Unlike @Thatguyontheinternet I am not dominant in any way and want to put it back on as soon as I can after any period of being unlocked.

The thing I enjoy about this are all the associated benefits. Like @Thatgirl my Wife is exploring and developing an entirely new assertive approach to our intimacy that I absolutely love. I get to have so much more fun with her than I ever did before I asked her to let me wear a device. When my Wife teases me it leaves me in such a glorious mess.

Back when I started I read someone describing how they would rather feel horny all the time and not have orgasms than to experience a brief, wonderful orgasm but pay the price of loosing the constantly horny feeling. I have reached that point myself and totally agree.

 

my sub said this same thing to me last night why do we have to take it why can't you just surrender?

 

I have to say sometime I get a feeling of cramped space. Like being on a long haul flight in economy class. You get desperate just to stretch your legs. Though obviously it isnt your legs in this case.

 

The feeling of losing control, rather than giving it away, has a lot of appeal to some.

 

I enjoy the feeling of it. It's almost like having my manhood tied up full time without the circulation being affected. My wife isn't dominate at all though so I have to give her the control versus her taking it.

 

I like to be locked.
But when we had a week left of our holiday, suddenly my wife told me that she should take my cage off. My response was "why?" and her response (I like when she express herself that way) "That is up to me to decide". I want to see it and you should know what you're missing when I lock you up again!

It was a wonderful week, my little friend got much attention and it was nice to have some private contact with it . Of course I was forbidden to cum.

I thought I'd be locked again on Sunday, but on Saturday after a bit of teasing I got to find out that now was the time. I was not prepared ... and it felt like I had no control - lovely! And yes, she's right. I miss being free and it makes it so much more glorious to be locked.

Next Monday I will weigh myself and the only times I will get out under the autumn is for T & D sessions when I reached various milestones in my weight loss (decided by my wife). Otherwise I think I will be locked until the 13th of December when we have flighttickets booked .

 

I find the cage comforting, having it on and knowing my mistress owns me, ties a mental and physical comfort together for me. Sometimes after I'm released she'll leave me unlocked from a couple of days to a week. I feel like I'm always waiting and am anxious to be locked back up during that time, she knows I want it and it's a form of torture (I think). I guess after living this lifestyle 24/7 for well over a year my cage symbolizes my commitment to my mistress and her control and must be worn.

 

@Thatgirl Hello and with respect I have spent and bought so many cages now it's mad. When I started I was advised on here to get a full belt, I did but at the time it was the wrong belt I now have a full belt from @behindbarz and they are forever increasing their designs now , although some are not on their website. It frustrates me and I don't complain to Mistress as there is no discomfort so she gets me locked when required with no moaning except frustration
Hugs
Lucy x

 

My Mistress and I have tried just about every possible way of using my chastity cage to achieve the dynamic we are both looking for in our relationship. Personally I could take or leave the cage, as I suspect my Mistress could. But everytime we would stop using it, or spent a week with me out if it, we would get reset back to square one. I spent a year and three-quarters with no orgasm but with plenty of tease and denial. For me this just changed the old problem into a new one with the same results. Waiting for my "sex". Finally our Dom/sub relationship devolved so much I thought it was gone when my Mistress begged me to orgasm like the old days back in January. We were both miserable for about a two months after that until about mid March of this year she told me she was putting the cage on and it wasn't coming off for a year if ever. Well things have never ever been better between us no matter what type of relationship we have had. So while the cage is the facilitator of that, it isn't something I am attached to or anything. What I am attached to is being married to a nasty selfish sadistic bitch that has a soft touch. Without the cage, she would not exist.

DLB

 

Today is only 4 days in lock up, but it seems to be changing our marriage quick! It has been a wonderful 4 days! I don't like being locked up but if that's what it takes to not jack off and turn all my focus on her and not take her for granted than so be it!

 

The idea of a cage excites me. Well, the idea of a cage locked by someone else. The reality of a cage is less convenient. I have limited experience. I've worn a HT2 for a day or three on several occasions. It is too small for me and the enclosed plastic uncomfortable. I've worn a MCM Contender for most of a month. It fits and is comfortable but the cage is large and inconvenient at times. I got pierced and am hoping that that a Lori tube (coming soon) will prove practical enough.

If we can make the cage practical enough then I think that I'll both love and hate the effects: no access, frustrating, denial, and teasing. That love-hate is the exciting part for me and for M.

 

As I wrote, I am excited about the idea of chastity devices or other forms of control. When single I would force these on myself a little bit, but not very much because there is discomfort and inconvenience. I fantasize about my partner doing it to me. As M and I have explored various forms of D/s play I've written out my fantasies. I describe what excites me and how I feel about it. I debate with myself about describing how I imagine her feeling. Why she would do these things to me. Her motivation. I don't just want her to do them to be because I've asked. It gets exciting when she is doing them for her own reasons. I would like her to find her own reasons - or not. If I write about them I may be guiding too much.

A while ago I asked how much guys were actually controlled. I mean, like, could they get out of their situation? As long as M is doing things for my reasons I'm not all that controlled. When she starts doing things for her reasons that is a big shift. With the first, I just tell her my preferences have changed. Since she is accommodating my preferences then she may change to accommodate my new preferences. I'm not that controlled. With the second, she has her own reasons and I may not be able to negotiate a change.

I think, well, I'm 80% sure that M has found her own reasons to tease and deny me. She tells me she likes to see me squirm, that begging makes her happy. She likes that denial makes me want her and she likes being wanted. Because I've suggested these things I have a little doubt. A little thought that she is doing these things for me. I also think that if my preferences really changed - if denial made me angry rather than aroused - I could convince her to change the way we played. But my sexuality has been consistent for 40 years and I doubt that I'm going to change and I think that M likes teasing me.

She really wants the control of having me in a cage. She has been patient about me getting pierced, healing, and working out the problems with fitting a device. I think that when these are solved I'll have little chance to get out.

 

My boyfriend, Nicoftime, was pieReed just over a week ago. I know he misses the cage and even expressed that the temptation is strong without it. While his penis is healing, however, I feel he has been just as submissive as he was with the cage on. I can imagine that his thoughts of satisfaction and the temptation is stronger because there isn't a physical (though pain is surely physical) barrier to keep it at bay. Throughout his healing process thus far he has been really attentive and has focused on pleasuring me, which has led to pleasure on for him as well. I look at his cage every morning, but for me, his piercing is a way to totally eliminate the temptation and give me full control. I bought him an 8g titanium ring with a single ball to get him ready for his new cage. He does miss wearing a cage, but not necessarily because he likes wearing it...we both like what it has done for our already amazing sex life.

 

HI there...i am Thatguy's girlfriend. Believe me, when the piercing feels better, there will be nothing to stop him from doing whatever. We tested it out just a week after getting pierced and was able to finish him with a gentle hand job without even touching the piercing. Get him a plastic Kali's Teeth...very effective. In fact he wrote a full review of it here: https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/new-ktb-3d-printed.15307/#post-171857. It looks small, but read a little further down. I wrote some after he wore it and he did too.