Ruined doesn't give me a drop. Unfortunately all she allows is prostate orgasm. A ruined one would be a wonderful treat.
One would get locked and edged anyway to increase the control of the keyholder. So I would choose a perfectly ruined orgasm because it is such a mean and punishing thing to do. In my case it would also mean eating all cum involved.
Honestly I don’t even know what I want anymore. I can’t have sex with my wife due to her illness. And if I masturbate I always feel like I have to masturbate to femdom porn. And if I’m locked I just feel horny but obedient. But if I get around orgasm from her I’m usually forced to eat it and I stay very horny afterward. None of these options are as appealing as making love to my wife