Surprise for my wife - Thoughts?

this is a good thread & I'm invested in Shaun's outcome already!

we're 7-months into this here & still feeling our way. several of the above angles have come into our discussions too, but I agree maybe your best approach is around your masturbation control. if you already know she doesn't like it, can you text her and say something like;

"can't stop thinking about our last time - wanted you to know 'I'm saving myself up' for next time we're together again ..."

you'll know a lot more based on her response. my GF has bought into this quality-over-quantity approach (which I genuinely mean myself too) and is since slowly beginning to enjoy the control aspect I think

 

Whoa. This whole thread and my only input was facetious…

As the ‘surprise chastity’ idea probably is a non-starter, I feel I should follow up with some proper advice.

The ‘caught in the act’ approach.

This one takes some balls. Find some time when you’re at home to set the scene. Get your laptop out and find some suitable material.

Depends on your partner but think about what she might be ok with you viewing, the most vanilla approach would be to get up some old pictures of her on the beach, swimwear shots. For a more drastic introduction into what you want perhaps find some extreme BDSM porn…

Right, so laptop open. Inappropriate imagery on the screen. Scatter some dirty tissues across the bed.

Time it correctly and when you know she’s almost home take your trousers off. Do some major cardio so you appear short of breath. Star jumps or something of the like.
Now, lay back and will that penis to stand to attention.

When she shouts hello pretend you haven’t heard her… rock the bed so she can hear it, make it appear as you are up to no good. Take your hard cock in hand and wait…

When she walks in, quickly shut the laptop and fling your hand from your penis. She’ll be angry I’m sure, but this is the key to making this work:
Look ashamed of yourself and tell her “if only I had a cage around my penis so I couldn’t masturbate!”

Honestly, I can’t think of one way this approach could fail.

 

Bahahahaha! I'm laying in bed next to my wife waiting for her to wake up suppressing an outburst of laughter!

 

It looks like we've lost the OP. He hasn't been on CM in a month. I'm guessing his surprise didn't go over well.

 

Don’t worry, when he signs back on we’ll have found the right solution to his problem…

 

Sounds a lot like you need to go with the ‘caught in the act’ approach.

If that goes well, I can fill you into the ‘mistaken cuckold’ trick.

Trust me, follow my advice and coercively deceive her… your life is going to change drastically!!

 

Hmmm...you could have a consulting career emerge here.

 

The people need me

 

Ok, explaining this one may take some time. All I can say is this…
You will need a blindfold.
An evening with expectations.
An accomplice.
Internet dating service.
A cactus.

 

I'd be inclined to get her in a nice mood with a couple of glasses of wine....then say to her "you know how you dont like me masturbating, well i bought this, (show her your caged cock and show her the key) this way darling you can keep a key and you'll have total control over my masturbating "

 

Or describe for her the benefits she gains by you not masturbating. More focus and attention on her, you want to learn to understand her better, her needs and desires and help support and fulfill them. And these are things you need to commit to doing. A cage isn't going to do them for you.

Masturbation is a symptom of an issue, not the issue itself. The issue (likely in her mind) is need for communication, intimacy, connection, and understanding her needs...which are likely wildly different than your needs.

Also, YOU Need to control your masturbating. She can hold the key, but that should be a passive activity for her. She is helping you, but not doing the work.