No , I have not given Up Chastity, I Think it is the must wonderful game changer of my life. No, - I have not left my Wife and Keyholder. No, I do not want to top from the bottom. However I thought I needed a Mistress to set me right, - to lead, to tease, to deny and to punish me. I Thought That the magic could only evolve if I had a Mistress to empose her total control over me. I Thought that my submissiveness could only blossom in the hands of a MISTRESS. But I was wrong - dead wrong. After just 9 months my WIFE has taken a stronger position then I thought possible! It is because of her that our D/s lifestyle has evolved with remarkable pace, - - not because I haven guided her. Well, of course I have to confess that I was the one who introduced her to this, - and then she pick up, and took it the directions that pleases her.) You can see how far we are - here. I have called her Mistress, and I have used "Mistress" in my postings her on CM, because I thought I had to in order to show her my devotion, admiration, submissiveness etc… But she does not need it. She can see all of that and more in my eyes, in my pleasing her, in my ever ongoing effort to fulfill her needs even before she expresses them. She knows I have declined any saying in our relationship. She owns me, My WIFE owns me. It says so in our wedding bands, - It shows in the steel cage that completely covers my sex, it shows in her unconditional VETO to everything I do. When you know that - that she accepts this gift, and utilise and exploit it in any way that she sees fit, I need not to call her "Mistress" anymore. The magic has taken place, the power has shifted, - pleasure is all about her... I fully accept that others find it more appropriate, more submissive to call her Mistress etc. I You are not in a physical relationship I can see that "Wife" is out of the question;-) I can see that physical relationships with a "non-relational" Keyholder or just Domme - controlling more than one subs suits "Mistress" a lot. But when You are in a fullscale Wife Lead Relationship - I think that "WIFE" is definitely a straight forward choice… And A very powerful one indeed! We taked it over last night. My wife said to me that she found "Mistress" to be very misleading in her perception of our relationship. She asked me if I meant that "Wife" was not - doing it for me?" Aucchh, -that really made me think it over…. I did….. and I did good So from now on I will not name my beautiful powerful wife with anything but "WIFE", - and I feel the inherent power and my deepest admiration, devotion and total surrender - every time. So long Mistress - And welcome WIFE , How can I serve You?
It's interesting how we dress up our urges in fantasies, and how much better things work when we let go.
I'll refer to my Wife as Mistress at times, mostly during heavy play periods. It still isn't a term that has "stuck" for either of us during normal day to day times though. She will always be my Mommy. "Yes Mommy" or "Yes Ma'am". Maybe that will change as our marriage continues to evolve and move ever more down the path of a D/s relationship. Which I believe at this time, is what She wants. If not, okay. I too realized I don't need a Mistress. I have my Wife/Mommy to always serve, obey, and devote my life to.
i calls my Mistress Mistress cos im a maid and that's what maids does, calls folks Mistress, oooh only Ladies tho.
Hey - I Want to be sure of your latest statement. I Think You mean that we hide ourselves behind Titles and facades, because we are afraid to face - or to cope with reality - is that it? Sorry for being such a nerd…
Yes. Submission is such a disconcerting urge to have, we dress it up with latex and protocol and so on. Anything to avoid being your real self submitting to your real partner.
Thanks! - And I a agree. In another thread I commented on the matter of being exposed, - and I replied that I do not haven such an urge, but on the other hand - I do not fear it. I-m not ashamed of my lifestyle. I'm proud of it, - and looking at what a dramatic game changer to the better for both my wife and me this lifestyle and my submissiveness has to offer,- what is there to be ashamed of? I love the constant urge to please, I love to see how my pleasing and serving brightens up my wifes life, and makes her blossom like never before. That's so rewarding and all I need to see - to stay in this "bubble". Of course the Steelcage keeps me on track when the physical needs are getting Oh so present. and - Ok , I confess, the weight of it, - and the shinny look of it, and the fact that no stimulation is possible adds to the feeling of submissiveness. But that is also about it…. - for me - and for her. She knows I have gladly surrendered - without a fight
Hmmmm I don't know whether others agree but I find the word wife somewhat boring??? What is a Mistress? What is a wife? Are they the same? Are they intertwined? Mistress to me is a word that conjours experimentation , excitement , exhilaration and submission. Surely more interesting... than wife
I have an INTERESTING wife That makes it for me. My point is that You sometimes can trick yourself into believing that you have to act in a certain way to make it to the other side - in this case to a truly submissive mindset. My wife challenged me on that, and I had to agree with her. However, I have absolutely no problems with "Mistress". If it works for You, if it sets the stage right, that's perfect! If it gives the D the authority, and the submissive the devotion, fine with me…. In my journey I have learned that experimentation , excitement , exhilaration and submission, can all be united in a FLR governed by my WIFE. I Do not - anymore - see myself as a lowerClass submissive because of that. I could be a pet to my wife , if she so demands. I can take the beating from my wife etc. etc.. My wife is my master, my mistress, my teacher, my everything. That's a WIFE to me… … and not a boring one…
I mentioned our conversation in this thread to my wife ( as I'm instructed towhen it somehow involves her ) I was asked to give her regards to You Have a really nice day Sincerly