Where to start... So last night after I was allowed to orgasm I kind of had a realization. I've been spending the entire last week utterly obsesed with sex and my dick. I've not been able to think or focus on anything else. I've been neglecting work, and been detached from friends. As much as I love being locked up, I can't do it if it's going to overtake my entire life. Atm I've decided that I'm going to limit myself to looking at porn and browsing here to just for an hour or so at night. I don't really know what else to do Has anyone else gone through this. How do you guys deal with being so horny 24/7. What do you do to take your mind of it and focus?
I am the horniest when reading chastity stuff. So it clearly does not work. Wearing a cage also makes it worse. So right now I have the honor system with my girlfriend. Since I do not wear a cage, I am not constantly nagged about it. When I do not think about it, I can go days without even missing anything. When I start thinking about it, I come here and read a bit and it just gets worse from there. The only way I can suggest is to stop looking at stuff although you are horny. Then over a couple days it will just become the new normal and you can concentrate on other things. Not sure how well it goes with a device, I have never worn one for more than two days because the CB 6000 is not the most ergonomic design ...
Being constantly horny to the point of distraction will probably fade with time. Which isn't a bad thing necessarily. For me, I'm not constantly horny but I'm constantly in a receptive state and easily aroused. Gone the days of "but I'm tired" or "I have a headache."
Things do get better over time. When you first start your mind is in a whirl with every new experience and you struggle to remain calm. You just have to ride through this period. It never completely goes away but you do start to get used to it. I work as a consultant away from home. When I am in in discussions, training sessions and dealing with clients I never think about my chastity. It only starts to be an issue when I have gone back to my hotel and take a shower. I always travel locked so the sudden appearance of the device reminds me that it is there and what I am doing. Stay with it, in the long run it becomes a part of your life and you won't want to live any other way.
Wearing a cage has definitely made me more horny. There are times I can't believe it's taken me so many years to discover the pleasure of being locked. I think the first few weeks, the look and sensations are so new, it's hard not to concentrate on anything else - particularly when you get the fit of the device right so it's snug but not painful. I have found it difficult to concentrate on work at times, whether I'm aroused or not. Let's say SlaveDan, I sympathise. I was at work today and concentrating on a key meeting but occassionally I would move in my seat and feel the cage. It was kinda distracting because I wasn't wanting to be horny at that point of the day. I guess it depends whether you want to get so use to the device long term that you start to forget about it. Apparently (and there are much more knowledegable people out there than me) the male body will go through various phases in chastity (so long as it's allowing good bloodflow) over days and weeks. Some people report that their sex drive does decline with very long periods of lock-up. So I guess there's a balance between short term chastity (say for a couple of days) for fun and then going long term and accepting a degree of unsatisfied horniness until you adjust. Providing any keyholder agrees, there's nothing wrong with taking it off and having a break for a bit.
A lot of it depends on what you are looking for. Some want to keep horny and using a device under 7-10 days at a time will do that. Once you pass that period, the excitement levels off and it starts becoming part of you. By 30 days, I notice it only when I move just right or get excited. However after 30 days, I don't get all worked up each night in bed when looking at porn, in fact I can enjoy the porn and still stay soft in my cage. After that point, I only trigger on my wife, which I prefer the most.
The longer I'm locked, the less I even think about porn or sex. That is, until She teases me or tells me I have three minutes to send her a photo confirmation of being locked up still.
Oh, that sounds so damn hot! I have edged yesterday morning, got edged my her hands yesterday evening and spend most of the morning in bed edging more. Now it is really hard to concentrate on work. I guess I should just start with the work but I really wanted to write some posts here. At least I am not just taking the shortcut of having an orgasm to make it wear off. I would hope my girlfriend would not be amused when she comes home and finds out.
I'm waiting for acceptance and a feeling of serenity after 3 weeks, and I hope it doesn't come. The feeling of constant denial and a strong desire to somehow pull of her cage and masturbate is a prolonged sex act in itself. It started 3 weeks ago with a prolonged teasing, a serious ass flogging and then a really mind blowing ruined orgasm. Pinkie, my Domme and wife, doesn't usually go more than 2 weeks without giving me release, so last weekend was a surprise. After teasing me up off came the cage. Lo and behold, she was able to force me to have 2 ruined orgasms in a row! This past week has been a morning hard-on fest with one graphic dream so exciting I nearly had a wet dream. Nearly popped, the feeling was crazy. Now this week has been no go, my dear Pinkie has a nasty cold. I'm hoping for another ruined orgasm, I thrive on the feeling of being prevented from achieving completion. Constant stimulation with no release is a sex act in and of itself. More than the physical feeling is the reality I have no control over my penis, I can't even fall back on the simple act of jerking off. Completion to orgasm is wonderful, but it's over in a minute or two. Denial is there with you constantly, turning up the volume on anything vaguely sexual, say like, eating breakfast.
yes that right. men huffs and puffs and when they cum its all over and then all they does is get grumpy and moan. well some do.
I'm can't speak for everyone, and it see it's been mentioned before, but at least for me there is a timeline. A progression of headspace based in the duration of denial. Initially it's all that's on my mind. In a few days to a week and a half (all of these vary based on how much I'm teased) it moves on to just perpetual arousal. More physical than I my rustics thoughts. Another week or so and it starts to shift to a sort of active desperation where I'm more productive in hopes of earning an early release (even though I know for a fact it won't happen). After that everything settles. Usually by a month I'm just clike mats toy horny and well motivated. But it I have a firm grasp on priorities. Some of them shift. Work keeps up at the front of the list because I have to maintain a functioning house, followed immediately by the family, then friends/social, lastly my own. At least that's how it works for me in a mental front.
Well done you for being open and honest x I'm sure the subs here have more first-hand advice, but have you tried reducing the chastity period down to just a couple of days and seeing how you go from there? There's no need to give up, just build up x
@HollyC makes a really good point; experiment try getting used to it for short periods so the distraction is lessened. On the other hand I have found that the excitement of being locked up at the start of a session means I think about it a lot more and as time goes on I relax into it and become less focused on the chastity. So from my perspective you just have to normalise being in chastity rather than considering it as an exceptional circumstance. I know that's conflicting advice but have a think and see what you think works and is more relevant to you.