Have You Defeated orgasm too?

I do not want to cum, and she has decided to keep me from it ... - possible for good..

Almost a year has past since I popped the question….

This lifestyle seems to have Defeated orgasm for me! - And I could not be happier . I must be crazy - but so be it ... My wife has reached the conclusion that we are having a better life - a much better life together, more intimacy , better sex, better services standards, better everything, when I am Permanently denied ... , and she is oh so right - . again!

(And add to that: we do not practices milking, ruined orgasms, no self touching for me , etc… Today - I have not had any release since 8 March , - and I - because of the Steel tube, I can not touch myself, - even if I wanted to, (- which I don’t - its is her property!! )

What would You say, if she reached that conclusion in your relationship? Or are you already there, and how do you feel?


For me, I Did not think it would be possible to reach to this - that I really would rather give up release to be where I am : in a bubble of joy , pleasure , desire, affection , admiration , love, and an uncontrollable desire to wait on my beautiful wife - in every possible way . But that is exactly where I am.


I have on the CM and other places read about how - after a month without release You where almost crawling on the walls in frustration at the lack of release - and how You every minute was hoping that she would allow one… Even I assumed that chastity was all about adding kink to our sexlife - to revitalize it, and I never Thought that it would lead for me to have no O’s, - and that I would be thrilled and satisfied more than a hole bunch of orgasms could ever giver me…

I Do not crawl the walls - It does not seem to work quite in that direction for me -, for us.

How about You? Can You defeat it, Do You want to, Does She want to keep you denied ?


Of Course I am filled with lust and desire for her! If You could only see my balls .. (Yes, the cock you can’t see, - it is tucked away in a fully enclosed steel tube)

But I love this state of mind and what it does to me. I even do my job better, with much more joy and dedication.

I have become a very manageable sub, I foresee her demands - I hardly need any “education” or punishment - and that's - bye the way - not a problem for me. Not that I fear it- (I used to be a pain slut) - but it is not a thing that would add more intensity to the seance - to this life! I have already completely surrendered myself to her and to this way of life. I have found peace, affection and love… in horniness and desire. Imagine that!

Last night - just before wonderful sex - for her of course , she locked me out - and spoke to her cock - which she has acquired the habit of doing :

"I know that I have said that there is a minimum 60 days before you are allowed to go, but the past month has gone so well , so I've decided to extend the period for - maybe indefinitely ! - It will be interesting to see how you 're doing all summer - I believe in you " - and then she began to slowly suck her cock - which throbbed merrily ....

Have we come a long way in just one year! Has she come a long way !!

It makes me so happy and so proud. You can call it " topping from the bottom " or anything else if you like , but no : we have opened these doors together - and we have together embraced this way of life . Completely voluntary , because we could see what lifesaver and gamechanger it was .. Now she has taking over and I’m confident in her every decision…


She stopped sucking - and squeezed my balls hard and lay on her back and spread her beautiful legs . Time to go to work! Wonderful. The session was interrupted only by her desire for penetration, - now that the bird still was out of the cage. It was a wonderful gift , even though I knew the conditions . No release for me ...

I do not think there will be a need for any Strap- ons for us .. She Craves cock- real cock, and thank lords it is mine. No Cuckold fantasy here! She makes use of her property , and why should’nt she?. She enjoys it quite openly, and indeed even more now when she is in full control and now that I may not cum at all . She is turned on by her power over me. Unbelievable turned on…


I love and enjoy intimacy and her desire for me - on her terms. I know that this lifestyle will develop further, we will discover - I guess at a slower pace - new sides to this, - but we are so pleased with where we are. She tells that and shows me that, over and over, so of course I believe her… It is not my opinion alone, it’s a joint statement of our life…

Her “sharing” me with a girlfriend in Berlin was a pleasant detour, - a kink, -and I like kinks like that… - I have to admit, and some more of that seems to be heading my way this summer… But kinks are NOT ANYMORE THE OBJECTIVE - its has become pleasant detours, - on a steady course to a wonderful revitalized togetherness…


Yes, of course it is a work in progress, - but it is a kind of work - you would die for…

What Do You say, - Are You ready to give up Orgasm? For her?

Sincerly

 

@philfred - You are oh so right, She can anytime decide to see me cum. I doubt however that it will happen in a long long time. BUT I have for now - ( everything is for now - since no one knows tomorrow;-) defeated the urge to cum, in order to be a better servant to her...

P.S today is a special day, She has finally decided to join CM, after having read most of my postings, -( and others too of course) and have found that this forum is in general kind, informative and joyful, and not flooded entirely with unrealistic sex and slave fantasies. Real people are dealing trustworthy with chastity and FLR, offering insights and a helping hand... So please welcome @DREWife - my beloved and powerful wife and Mistress.
Apart from making her avatar - as ordered, I am curious how much she will take part in CM. She does not have the same space during the day as I to contribute, - but only time will tell...
Her only reservation seems to be that this forum is in English, and she is not trained in written English, but I am sure, she will do just fine...

 

I have received a question involving some confusion or even conflict between my stating of total denial - defeat of orgasm and her crraving for real cock instead of strap-ons...

Let me try to explain:
"Real cock" - is real - meaning in flesh and blood , opposed to an artificial Strap-on. Also - "Real cock" does not imply that my member is more "real cock" than any other male cock in flesh and blood. But it implies however that her property is quite useful as real "meat" if she so desires. No - it is NOT a little dickie! - to put it in CM terminology... Lol...

When I write that I have defeated orgasm it does not imply that I have defeated her use of my member ( her property) to satisfy HER needs. It implies that I have traded release for the good of serving her in all, without any decline in standards.
I am not saying that strap-ons and other means of setting me straight will never be part of our lifestyle. She has developed in this lifestyle tremendously already, so who knows what measures she will introduce me to further down the road.
But in my humble opinion I think that if it were to happen, it would most likely be because she would feel, that she experience lack of total surrender, and decline in service... and not because she wanted to edge and/or humiliate me. Edging works better when I - hormy as hell - am ordered to penetrate, but also ordered not to cum...
She has toys ( some of which she made me go and purchase for her, and sometimes makes we watch when she plays with dildos, and vibrators. That is certainly one way of edging me!

For the record, I do not expect penetration of any kind - to be on the agenda that often. She seems most of the time quite happy with me serving her, orally , licking and rimming, when and where she pleases.. And for edging - it is the same. It does not happen that often. I guess she does not see a need for that, as long as my services and submissivness is to her satisfaction.

I understand that many FLR also is about teasing and tormenting the sub , to make his denial even more intense. That seems to underline his status as sub. We are not there I guess- She does not seem to be heading in that direction.
A very selfish answer to why not? - could be - that she is just as pleased - if not more - than I am with her subs current behavior, submissiveness, devotion, and service

Sincerly

 

Another Question came in: " How Do You manage to not cum during penetrative sex? Du You use some sort of numbing cream?"

It is in general not good behavior to be too cocky, when You are a sub;-) - but I have always had a very strong self control - when needed, and when a higher goal had to be achieved...
Not necessarily to compare chastity with a marathon, - but - as an example of my self control: when I started to run the marathon distance, I discovered the ability to lock out pain from my mind. I managed to separate mind from body, running legs from head, - and therefore the pain that my legs ended up feeling , was no pain of mine. I was fresh in my head, and someone else than me = my legs had to carry the burden across the Golden Gate of San Francisco or wherever I was running... ( Yes, I worked there for almost a year to build up a branch of our company)

That gift came in handy when I started - in the dark to pierce my member. I did it a lot, and pain was never an issue. It was almost too damn easy. Now, thank God, - all these play piercing games are over, I have no secrets from my wife and I now only hold a small PA- ring as part of our non-eescapable chastity solution...

That ability - to numb my mind from exhaustion and pain has been a stepping stone for me and my new life in chastity. I endure a lot, and have great self control, - and when I set my mind on not to cum, no matter what stimulation I receive, I still haven't failed. My wife is very well aware of this gift of mine, and she sure knows how to take advantage of it...
So - no numbing cream for me!
Hope that explains why it works for us...

 

A little further explanation seems to be in order:
I know it can be hard to comprehend - such an ability to numb my mind - but It occurs. I'm not a freak. Well, I hope not;-)

Obviously , We are not that many, but I am certainly not the only one who has this ability to sidetrack pain and other "stimulations". Once You start to look into this - You will find it well covered in for example meditative literature. And You will find that besides that some of us are gifted, others can be trained to achieve - to a certain degree - this filtering.

It comes in handy in this lifestyle, ( No need for numbing cream etc.. ;-) ) - but it can also be dangerous - if it is overexploited or overlooked. How come?

You can exhaust or harm a body if it is not responding adequately to the usual warnings that this body signals. So You have to be careful after all. Just like BDSM games can turn ugly in the hands of a strict master if no stop word has been agreed upon, so can this "ability" inflict unintended harm if the Domme is not aware of possible missing signals from the sub...

But this Domme - my wife - knows... - ( even though she was dumbstruck - once I led her in on this;-)
And one of the great advantages of this compared to numbing cream an such, is that this self numbing can be turned off, just like that... That flexibility can come in handy, when it is allowed to led "all systems go!"
and for the record, - it is not something that I manage to do every time, just like that. But good practices has
given me a fair amount of control.

From a Domme perspective that could be seen as a problem, - because control is something that is supposed to be reserved for the Domme, - and not for the sub, right? On the other hand - once the Domme knows about this ability, it can be put to play, - and open up another level of domination, teasing, and denial...