Forced in to Chastity?

My comments were gender neutral.

 

You are the living definition of coerced into Stockholm Syndrome....

 

And importantly, happy to be so!

 

Legal beagle huh?

 

All victims of SS are...

 

I asked for this, so not forced into it, but now five years into it, my Wife has said multiple times that even if we stop using the cage, that doesn’t mean we go back to me getting to have piv and cum every day like pre cage use. So apparently I’m now stuck under her control to a degree. Of course I could jerk off I suppose, but living under her control turns out is much more fun and addicting, so I’m just gonna keep rolling along with this lifestyle

 

If someone knows it's happening and they are happy, are they a victim?

 

Very sensible post. Sadly, not many people are truly into CNC.

 

This thread has made it clear just how few people here actually even get the concept of it.

 

CNC scenarios are one of the things I really miss from our pre cage days and I was the dominant one

 

Yeah, I used to be that 14/7 guy ...

 

Google Stockholm Syndrome...

 

As I’ve mentioned before in other posts chastity was all my Madams idea. we have always been in a bdsm/flr relationship, Madam discovered chastity early on in our relationship (about 2002) when she saw a slave wearing a chastity cage in a femdom video she was watching, she then searched for male chastity/cock cages and found the CBX website.
The next time I could get to see her the first thing she did was show me the video and point out the slave in chastity, and told me she wanted me in a cage! I said I wouldn’t know where to get one and she promptly bought up the website.
Madam then told me there would be no fun and games of any kind until I had ordered a device and it was there in front of her. So I did and 2 weeks later it had arrived and for the first time I was locked.
We had a good bdsm session, and I was kept locked and denied, as it came for me to go home madam wanted me to stay locked but I said I couldn’t because of work, so she begrudgingly agreed!
Then I had a week off, I finished on the Friday and went to hers, as soon as I arrived I was ordered to lock up and I did, we had a good weekend with no release for me and then she told me I had to go home Sunday night as she had sessions with other slaves booked.
but I was to remain locked. I managed it and it all went well, but I had to go back to work for one day before I could see her, she told me she wanted me to go work locked for her, saying it was only one day!
And if I was devoted I would do it! I agreed and I did and it was all ok, the next day I asked to be unlocked and Madam said no. She said I’d done a day locked at work so I could do a week or even a month!
And if I was to keep being her slave I was to continue to be locked/caged for here 24/7. So I submitted to her request and it went from there!

 

It’s a made up “syndrome” used to explain away and invalidate relationships that other people think problematic. Or a way for someone retrospectively to excuse themselves for a course of action (like Patty Hearst making out she was “brainwashed” when she did those robberies).
Basically pseudoscience.

 

You got lucky she took the initiative, since ladies are usually not that into kinks.

 

Not so much "forced" as "coerced".
I had a pretty severe urine infection at one time. So obviously I was left free.
After I had finished my antibiotics and everything had settled down again, Mrs Chaste enquired "Are you ready to be locked up again yet?"
Well, it was strange, as on one hand I was but on the other hand I still felt a touch worried after such an unpleasant experience.
I explained to Mrs Chaste how I felt.
She was very understanding but was of the opinion that I "needed" to be relocked as soon as possible. It was a bit like the falling off the bike thing, where you need to get back on.
Anyway, she persuaded me that it was "for the best". I know Mrs Chaste would (could) never force me into doing anything I didn't want, but she certainly put forward a series of very valid reasons why, in her opinion, it would be far better to be locked back in chastity. Not least the threat of being at the mercy of all those wicked women who wanted nothing more than to take advantage of me. It was a very good way to get over that initial apprehension. I know full well that Mrs Chaste knows what's best for us.

 

“Forced” is a fantasy. We live in a free society and no one (baring edge cases) can be forced to wear a chastity device. I think the real question is: what are the consequences? Are they worse than being caged? Here are some that I assume people live under:

• The response may be “OK, sure”, in which case you are now out of chastity and that was not what you want either!
• It may mean breaking a commitment you make, which you don’t want to do.
• Your key holder may be very displeased.
• Maybe so displeased as to stop sex or something until you are back in chastity.
• Or maybe they would blowup the relationship.
• Which might be attached to many other things in your life, such as shared home ownership. Very messy high cost.

We are always free to revoke consent. Our key holder is free to respond to that.

I’m fascinated by women who are insistent on keeping their man in chastity. Is a dominant intent sufficient? Maybe if I’m submissive enough. Am I that submissive? Not sure but I’ve lost every tussle of will with M.

But M is not that insistent about chastity. If I ever really wanted out, she would let me. And she would not blow up the relationship or cancel sex. So I’ve created a situation where there is a cost to revoking consent: M is holding a significant amount of money of mine which she gets to keep if I revoked consent. M has told me she is not going to let me out of that deal. I’m free to revoke consent and the cost keeps me from doing so. I was not forced in to this at all. It was my idea. But now I’m subject to what M chooses or else…

 

Tell that to someone you allowed to blackmail you.

Edit:

Actually, instead of leaving it at that, how about you NOT assume things and rather just accept that you don't understand these more intense dynamics (which you clearly don't)?

 

Then you were not forced if you allowed it, lol.

 

i know I got lucky! Madam is into kink just as much as I am, if not more. there is nothing I’ve wanted to try she hasn’t taken to!

 

Funny how the word "Forced" incites arguments almost as much as "Permanent" (but not funny how many times these turn into personal attacks). Forced, per Webster can mean "done or produced with effort, exertion, or pressure" - it does not have to be law breaking or violent or resented.

I do believe I was "forced" into this (not fauced, although I like that phrase). Chastity has made me realize how strong women are and how weak our penis makes us guys. My wife can, with a look or a touch or a smell, turn my brain into mush, at which point I am pretty defenseless despite my bigger biceps.

And if you want to argue this is w.r.t. bedroom play only, then you need to read the history books about all the times an influential woman changed the course of civilization with their looks, wit or charm. And do you think almost every ad out there features sexual inuendo because the producers are stupid? Sex sells at a much deeper level than we think about.

Coerced certainly is a safer term and doesn't evoke the slavery connotations that "forced" does, but I was replying to the OP arguing that a smart woman very much can force us to accept or even embrace chastity, when we would otherwise prefer to be free, just by manipulating us. And a really smart woman will keep it fun/fresh/captivating enough that we can't get away - the only blackmail needed being the threat of losing that woman's attention.

In my case, when/if I do get out of chastity I enjoy my freedom and don't want to go back in the cage. She then uses her charm and wit to lock me back up. She is so good at it that I have little to no choice in the matter and accept my fate almost immediately. It would be an insult to my Queen to say I was anything less than "forced".

This may or may not be the "forced" the OP was looking for, but even in the case a guy was caught cheating, or volunteered for a blackmail picture, the process is the same: The woman pulling him in strongly enough that the escape options are just not worth it, i.e. done with effort, exertion or pressure.

 

Touche!

 

I was never forced into permanent chastity, however it was my Goddess/wife’s suggestion to make it permanent. I was already wearing it about 90% of the time.
I agreed with her, and it is in the seventh year now.
Not forced, but strictly enforced

 

I'm not forced. I'm not a slave. I've just been well trained to want to do the things she wants me to do.

 

I didn't force husband into chastity. Since OP asked about being given a choice and rather not, that's pretty close to husband. He submits to chastity because he knows it pleases me.