Hi everyone! We are completely new to the scene, got our first chastity cage in February, picked up a few books -some good, some bad- and decided we needed more 'real life' input and perhaps occasional guidance than the extremes on some sites we have found. After some lighter play we are now exploring longer term lockups.
Welcome to the group. There is alot of helpful bit of information on this site. And alot of friendly people. Enjoy your journey!
Thank you Caged! We are looking forward to new ideas, and new online friends / mentors to help us get started!
What type of advise are you looking for? We can all tell you to lock it up and throw away the key! lol... just kidding.
LOL, yes, we have heard or read that on dozens of sites. We are simply so new that we don't know what we don't know. We have played a bit, locked up for 3 days here and 4 days there, but currently we are trying our first extended period. I have been locked and denied any form of release for 11 days as of today. We were hoping for some ideas for some games we could play, advice on how to deal with my frustrations or how she can increase the frustration levels. Basically everything a newbie should know!
11 Days is pretty long for someone new. Congrats on that milestone. Games... I am not sure of any honestly. But I am sure many on this site will chime in with suggestions. I can only speak for myself. My wife and I really dont do the game thing. She just keeps me locked up. But every situation is very different. I am sure many people here will give you some suggestions. I just suggest you stay locked and enjoy your wife. Give her alot of attention. After all, your being locked up for her benefit in the end. So, let her know how much you appreciate and worship her. Make you feel like the woman she should feel like.... Loved.
I am starting to realize that to be honest. Until this lockup it was kind of still all about me, and even the first few days of this run were as well. However knowing I have to wait for her to produce the key has made me focus much more on all the non PIV aspects of pleasure between us.
There came a point with us that my mistress had to be authentically in control of our sex life, including my erections and orgasms, or it would be me picking from a very playfully sexual menu. We're game board geeks and often she just wants me there as her caged gamer boyfriend. Sometimes she doesn't even want bedtime oral these days. Sometimes she'll peg me, whip my bum or torture my balls. I never know but time is on my side. No matter what we do or don't do is another day in chastity for me. This is not something you want to start if you are fixated on PIV or other vanilla sex.
Thanks M@rcellus! We have started exploring chastity as she is post menopausal and finding PIV more uncomfortable now. We have discussed a number of the things you mentioned, I am not sure I would enjoy anything truly painful, but I am willing to try pegging if the right mood and timing work, however I think that would be another topic... Right now we are just exploring tease and denial level play to keep the fires burning as our types of interactions change. Like all things I expect our play to evolve, we are just not at the level of experience you are yet. Like you we have agreed that she needs authentic control for the psychological effects to work on me. Even though I don't intend to 'cheat', the option to do so takes away from the thrill for me.
Not at all! She has been so awesome about exploring options that she truly does deserve every special moment I can give her.
My mistress is postmenopausal, has a voracious appetite for oral but not so much for piv. She has stronger orgasms knowing I am caged and don't get them. I would say we are beginners at long term but this lifestyle plays to our needs. The s and m part isn't for everyone but we both like it and it's a surprisingly bonding experience both during and after. My advice is just go with her being in charge. Glad to have you here.
Hello and Welcome to the community, I hope you Enjoy your time here. You'll get plenty advice and chat here in the Mansion.
??oops.?? Apologies I must have misread this as a new post. I thought the name sounded really familiar