Hi there. I’m a self-locked sub sissy who has been playing on my own with chastity for 8yrs. Recently I paid a dominant woman to hold my key for one month and she tormented me with embarrassing tasks and humiliating messages on a daily basis. It was the most exciting month of my life and made me realise I am meant to be locked permanently. I’m married and desperately want to tell my wife about this side of me so we can play together but am not confident enough that she would accept me. If anyone can help with some advice on this or just wants to chat please hit me up xx
How did you manage to be locked for a month without your wife noticing either the cage or the amount of money you spent on a dominatrix?
It wasn’t that expensive actually. Our sex life is non existent so it was easy to hide. I did feel guilty though. Would prefer to do with her
I'd recommend finding a carefully selected moment to open up to her about your chastity desires. I would go easy on the humiliation you've got off on, and focus on explaining how you would like to give her control of your sexual interactions, including your ability to masturbate. Make it clear that you would like to focus on pleasing her without any obligation for her to reciprocate. She'll probably not trust you on this so offer to take it slow without putting her under any pressure to do anything for you. I wouldn't confess that you'd paid a dominatrix. That might be best kept to yourself for a long long time.
Tis the season for finding gifts under the tree. Keys in a box could be a great conversation starter.
Truthfully this sounds like an awful start. You trust a random woman to talk to about keyholding but not your wife of many years. With the texts it's basically cheating emotionally. How have you wear a cage on and off for nearly a decade without her knowing? Better to pick a moment and mention it then risk ruining a relationship if she had saw those texts.