Need advise from more experienced chaste men/KH

Hi Everyone - thanks for being open about your experiences here, I've had a completely new experience to chastity that I'm struggling to explain to myself or understand. I'm hoping someone might be able to point me in the direction of some resource to help me understand, and ideally how I can go back to a previous emotional state.

My wife and I played a handful of times with the devices we have - never for more than 10 days or so,basically on the premise of very extended foreplay, I enjoyed those sensations, but this time was different, as the days passed I lost interest in my own orgasm (i'd really grown to accept the idea that when it's the thing she wants, it'll be the thing that happens - no sense worrying about when that might be) and derived more pleasure from seeing my wife happy, I'd become attentive in so many areas of life I'd forgotten about.

Forward to day 8 and after being teased for a little while, without being touched, without gaining any physical size down there and without ejaculation I experienced a several minute full body orgasm, it came like waves of the sensation of the last second of build up before orgasm playing over and over again, when it finally passed It wasn't like the usual frustration but one of complete contentment, I think my brain described how i'd like my body to feel and my imagination made it so... but with zero feeling from my genitals. I was absolutely able to do this multiple times, and my desire to do it again didn't dissipate - usually more than one isn't pleasurable for me - I need lots of downtime.

Initially I was very overcome and scared about what was happening to me, we took a break for 20 mins I apologized profusely, and we carried on playing for a bit, but I realized I wasn't able to derive as much pleasure from her enjoyment as I was previously, we wrapped it up and ended the evening, today I feel totally lost... My brain escaped from the cage - i'm still in it.

Q1: I desperately want to go back to how I was feeling before this happened, I want that feeling back of needing to make my wife happy, to find every way to demonstrate how much she means to me, in and out of the bedroom. It was effortless to do for me before my brain orgasm-ed - nothing was too much trouble. - Has anyone any advise on how to get that back, does it come back naturally, do I keep going knowing it'll grow back?

Q2: I'm in a small cage (still), minimal touching, and I thought this would be enough to keep me orgasm free and devoted, I had no idea what happened, could even happen - I feel like my brain cheated me out of the situation of serving someone else's needs and experiencing the contentment and joy that was bringing to my life.
I learnt I could do something amazing to me, I've never felt anything more intense, but I don't want it - it was a fun few minutes, but I'd rather have the days of contentment, happiness and love There's no mind cage to stop that from happening again. Anyone that managed to conquer this - I'd be very grateful for a jumping off point on how to control it.

Thanks from a man who's just a little lost on the journey.

 

Thank you Tom and Monnica, I think the newness of the sensation might have been a bit overwhelming.

I like the idea that I should share the experience, guilt is probably a correct assessment of a lot of my feelings,
that's a great opportunity to show my gratitude.

Thanks for sharing your wisdom and experience,
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