Real FLR is not a sex game. Anything less than total commitment is just another fantasy play. She takes control of everything because you have offered Her nothing less than total commitment without any expectation other than Her needs and pleasures. You don't hand over the keys to the castle just to get a boner, She takes them because your status is no longer one of peer.
I certainly can't argue with you jackcage, but one of the things I've noticed here on CM is that they all different. Every Mistress has her very own style. Some seem pretty scary to me. I've also come to realize mine is pretty easy on me. She is not much into punishment spankings or corner time, though she certainly could. I do my very best to keep her happy, and I happily serve her, so all is well.