Advice on introducing male chastity to a female partner

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    #1 Mistress Jules, Jan 20, 2017
    It’s amazing how quickly we forget. We all visit here posting and chatting and thoroughly enjoying ourselves in a place where we can talk freely about our preferences.

    However, there are many out there who have no idea about male chastity or the benefits it can bring. Unfortunately for females especially, their first introduction to this preference is normally from a partner who has been fantasising for quite some time.

    He has prepared himself to take the plunge and try to introduce male chastity to his partner. They sit down, he starts talking and it ends up a muddled mass of information which overwhelms her and it all goes awry.

    This is such a shame because I am sure many more females would enjoy male chastity if they were just introduced to it in a measured manner.

    Gentlemen, if you are thinking of trying to introduce male chastity to your partner, please take your time and introduce one basic aspect at a time. The inability to masturbate to porn is a good starting point and the point at which to stop with a first conversation.

    No female wants to hear you have been fantasising, let alone about her being dominant, you being submissive and how fabulous it would be if she became this totally different dominant Mistress.

    Take it one step at a time and make those steps very small.

    Not everyone understands the way we do in here and better to go slow than lose the opportunity altogether.

    Good luck
     
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    #2 Dumb1, Jan 20, 2017
    Great advice i know from personal experience though once you have broached the subject your mind tends to think that your partner will have absorbed the initial information quicker than she has and the urge to strike while the iron is hot mostly always ends up in a backward step.
     
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    #3 njboyincb6000, Jan 21, 2017
    Last night, i had a first date with a Female that i had met on a vanilla dating website.

    She is one year younger than me (37, and i am 38). Obviously during a first date you try and find out as much as you can about the other person to see if it is worth moving forward to a second date.

    When She had asked me to describe myself, i had told Her that i believe Women should be treated with utmost respect, and i was raised to always treat Women a certain way (which i always do, of course). i also told Her that i really appreciate a confident Woman who knows what She wants.

    my point here being that i am slowly embarking on a quest to let Her know i am submissive and enjoy a Female who assumes a dominant role. Would never come out and say that i enjoy being locked in a device on a first date. But have started to drop one or two hints that i believe Women are superior and it is natural for them to lead in a relationship.
     
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    #4 wastlander2002, Jan 21, 2017
    ugh this is a hard one because ppl are so different..some you can read some you can't...In my case it started after about a year...I bought one and just put it on and put the key in a card for vday...no mention of permanency or nothing like that just a Vday game. over time It just developed she would take it out and play with me for a day the day turned into a weekend etc...note that during that time I played games with her as well so it wasn't one sided and well frankly I wanted to. in the end she started likeing the feeling of power it gave it her and it developed into what it is now. We are by no means a 24/7 couple in fact the longest it has ever went is 57 days but we are definetly no strangers to a week or two here and there and definitely a lot of weekends.
     
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    #5 Shawn Frank, Jan 21, 2017
    that is one way of doing it
     
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    #6 DarkKnight, Jan 21, 2017
    Man, always a tough question. Relationships and sexuality are complicated and nuanced. I would resist any idea of just putting it out there, unless your at a munch or similar event with like minded people. Even dropping hints or comments to spur questions can be defeating if done to early - its a lot to digest and makes it easy to hit the eject button. They have no investment of time or emotion in you. I would just get to know them on a vanilla level first - their hopes, dreams, common ground items they share with you. After you have an idea of comparability, then you can start with more intimate details.
     
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    #7 Noorgasm4me, Jan 24, 2017
    This is good advise. I have been trying to finally get to a point where I can come clean about chastity and my enjoyment of it with my wife. I dont know how to go about it, but I am trying a little at a time. For now I only where it when our schedules keep us at a slight distance. I would like to be open about it. I hope it can happen in time
     
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