Another post got me thinking and I'm aware it's not an one size fits all answer. What constitutes a flr relationship? In my arrangement anything sexual in nature, when cage comes off, when I get off etc is all 100% in her hands. It's fair to say lately I do the lions share of household chores etc as well. That said I'm largely in charge of bills, house/property maintained and control my own money. It's more of a 50/50 relationship in most aspects. She has no interest in handling the aspects of our daily life I deal with, don't see that changing. So besides the obvious control I submit to gladly in certain aspects of life I'm free to do as I want. Is that really a flr relationship? More of a curiosity bored at work question then are we doing right or wrong.
In every relationship one person has the upper hand. Usually this is the man. When it's not, that's a FLR. But, the term 'FLR' is only really used in the context of kink, in which case, the above is formally acknowledged and serves as a power transfer.
Every relationship is different. An FLR can be only sexual in nature or it can mean complete control over every aspect of the male's life, and everything in between those extremes.
Yes I have always looked at women in my life as equals and always ended up cuckolded. If theres a vacancy at the top someone will take it.
My Queen and I have been a team since day 1. Always sharing the duties as needed, as well as the sex. Until recently it’s been pretty much 50/50, but now with male chastity she has full control over the sex. The transfer of power has lightened the load on me mentally, and has given her a surge she had never experienced before.
My madam is in complete control of everything always. l do as I am told always. If something is unsure I ask and await a answer. Never assume and never progress without permission.
Sexualy my wife and I definitely have a flr and in some ways in other aspects of life as well, I generally deal with the insurances, car MOT's etc, not because I'm leading the relationship in that aspect, just that my wife has enough on her plate to worry about that stuff, so it's kind of delegated to me. I've always been the one to apologise first and yield after disagreements so after thinking about it, I guess I am in a flr in many aspects of our marriage. My mum is a strong woman in every way, I was raised to respect women, I think I've just taken that into my adult life.
I for one would advise against giving this any thought. Are you happy in your relationship? If so, does it need to evolve to something entirely definable? I know I live in an FLR even if we don’t define to that way. Like you describe, you do most of the housework etc. I do all that. That’s not what constitutes my own assessment. I know I live in an FLR because it doesn’t matter what happens, her opinion is always at the forefront of my being. I am constantly lead by her. She knows I’m submissive, she won’t admit to being dominant… but she is.
We talked last weekend it's basically what it's always been. She just wants me to be more patient shopping stuff like that. She still wants me to make the "man" decisions and do the traditional male stuff. So no real change at all. I'm happy where we are so all fine with me.
In our FLR, Di has complete control of our sex life. She decides when or if the cage comes off, as well as the sexual activities we will have, and ultimately, if I will have an orgasm or not. In other aspects of our relationship, I have assumed/been given the responsibility of preparing our daily meals, laundry, household cleaning chores, and vehicle and house maintenance. She keeps track of our finances, but I'm tasked with the actual paying of the bills. She decides our vacation and entertainment/social options, while I'm tasked with bringing all of the details together. While, I do not cross dress (she would never allow that) she does choose all of my other clothing. I guess, to others we are a normal couple. From our outward appearances, the would never guess that in reality she is the leader in our relationship, and I am the follower - and I wouldn't have it any other way...