I found out about this site when researching a prospective new chastity device for my sub. Thanks to the comments and advice from the members here I felt happy to proceed with it's purchase. He is now safely locked in his first full belt,a lovejail . Chastity has always been a fundamental element for any D/s relationship that I have been involved in - I love the control and power gained from deciding if,when and how my sub gets to cum. :spank:
may be you could give me some ideas. How long have you had your sub locked up for? What do you do when your sub becomes really uncomfortable under lock and key
Thanks for the welcome messages, most appreciated. Now I need to sort out so that I get the notifications that someone has replied!
Hi Mistress Andrea, ofcourse happy to help if I can. buzbuz has been in chastity since New Years Eve - we have used a cb3000, a curve and now a lovejail. The device comes off for a weekly clean, always supervised by me!. I would add that before lock up began, which was his first time in a device, we spent time trying various spacer and ring combinations and then built up how long the device was kept on for. Its difficult to answer your question about your sub being uncomfortable without knowing a bit more info (feel free to pm me) when buzbuz is uncomfortable I don't feel a thing
The sky's the limit. Assuming there's no issue like the device not properly fitting then the sub needs to learn to adjust, if necessary the hard way. But in the short term, you may want to make a short release subject to conditions, to extract things you want out of him he's not let you have so far. I guess it depends where you are with your relationship with him.
Mistress Andrea was asking about a sub - personally my take on things is that earning your release is not submission, as the things you do would ultimately be self serving. I would much prefer that Miss Red Dragon let me out or even let me orgasm because she wishes it than because I have earned it through some preset conditions. Perhaps if the sub did not know these conditions then it would be a valid idea but if they know what they are then they may very well be doing the to earn release rather than to serve their dominant. But everyone is different and everyones take on D/s is also different - do what feels right to you. Miss Red Dragon allows me out as she has said under supervision and graciously let me out when issues with the device caused soreness that would have only got worse with extended wear, but I would never expect her to let me out or to orgasm just because I was finding it difficult etc nor would I ever ask under those circumstances.