Hello all. I am new to this site and have been reading about chastity play for a little over a year. Here is my story. I am currently deployed overseas 8000 miles away from very beautiful wife. We are very limited to the kind of porn we can find on the internet to entertain our needs. I don't know what the rush is but I'm sure most of the people here share the same belief that chastity play is very arousing without achieving orgasim. I have sent text messages to my wife in the past mostly after drinking about wanting to wear a CB for her. Her response was that I could do whatever I wanted when I deploy because she won't be around. A few months ago I brought it up again but this time I bought her the Keyholders guide book from Amazon. When I asked her if she received the book she told me that it didn't seem her thing but she wasn't going to throw it out. I just recently purchased a CB-6000s and had it sent here to me overseas. I put it on last week and have been wearing it only for a few days but it is surprisingly comfortable. I even wore it to the gym and ran on the treadmill while wearing it. Here is my question to everyone especially to the beautiful Mistresses and Keyholders on this blog. After wearing the belt for a few days I decided to tell my wife about it. She isn't into the whole Dom/Sub thing but is extremely aggressive and powerful. Instead of talking to her on Skype about what I was doing, I chickened out and did it via email. I told her that I had bought a device and was currently wearing it for the 3rd day straight. Stupid me I know. I had also explained to her my reasons for wanting to force myself to wear it. I admitted to her that I have an obsession with Internet porn and that I should be considered a chronic master baiter and that I needed to police my urge. That was very hard for me to admit to her. Secondly I told her that usually when we have sex, she does not reach an "O" and one of two things happens, I either cum way to fast or it takes me forever because I have poisoned my mind looking at images online. Sine I have an iPad, I am able to text msg my wife which is great for when the Skype connection is bad or she is not home. I texted my wife the next day and asked her is she received my email. She did and replied that she didn't know how she felt about it. Then she said "I'm not into it I don't get it but I'm not into the whole Dom sub thing either it's not me." She said I can wear it over here and enjoy it and we will figure it out when I get home in a few months. Her final response was that she will think about it. How do I approach the situation from now on? Should I continue to wear it over here? How do I bring it up to her when I get home? Thank you all in advance for the help
Having been deployed myself, my only concern would be how it might interfere with you job. I also know what kind of strain being deployed can put on a relationship. It's difficult to maintain communication about 'normal' life when you're away for so long, and adding an unknown like chastity might put added stress on your wife. I obviously don't know what your relationship is like with your wife, I'm just speaking from my own personal experiences having been deployed to Iraq several times. As far as her apprehension about chastity and how it might fit in your relationship, that might be a conversation best left for when you get home. My advice would be to experiment with your device (when it makes sense to do so) and have a good understanding of how your body reacts to it. Finding the tricks and techniques to make it the most comfortable usually takes some time. Then when you do get home, if your wife is interested in pursuing this interest with you, you will be properly equipped to deal with the physical aspects while you explore the emotional and psychological aspects together. Stay safe and best of luck!
While you are overseas you can do anything you want, but it sounds as if your wife is not pleased regarding your developing interest in chastity. When she says that you two will figure it out when you get home in a few months, she’s biding her time until you (pl.) can have face to face discussion. Your comments regarding having an obsession w. Internet porn, being a chronic masturbator, needing to police your urges, cumming too soon, and poisoning your mind looking at images are all probably turn-offs to her because none of the thoughts involve her and they fail to motivate her toward having an interest in chastity. Then there’s the question of helping her grow an orientation of desire for your chastity. It’ll start, not with a device but with focusing on her sexual needs and fulfillment and ignoring your own. Chastity is an extension of that, not the other way around! Sarah Jameson has some excellent material on this topic and a blog—readily available on the Internet (Search for Sarah Jameson chastity). Now is a time to nurture her desire to be close to you and excited about your return. I fear that the focus on chastity is injuring that orientation. Good luck!