In our dynamic I'm allowed to ask to be spanked for some relief. I'm never allowed to ask to cum or get out of cage though. Wondering what others where allowed to ask for and not to in their relationships.
That sounds fun! Kids in the house prohibit me from asking for a spanking for relief. Apparently I can ask for whatever I want, doesn't mean the answer will be yes
I can ask. But obviously she can just say no. If I ask too many times or become needy there are consequences. But I think a part of her enjoys hearing that even while Locked up I want her all the time.
I can ask to pleasure Her with massages, pedicures, oral service. I am not allowed to ask for anything for my own pleasure.
As some had said above, asking doesn’t necessarily mean getting - I have been told recently to be more clear about how I’m feeling / wanting, I think so she knows specifically & doesn’t have to guess (again, not an automatic ’yes’) - when I am locked however our one rule is she decides for how long / until when & I’m not allowed to ask for out as it’d be game-over
I can ask anything, predicting the results is not always straightforward. It’s similar to letting her discover me in self bondage. She may choose to reward me with an enjoyable session or turn it into something much more challenging than I was hoping for.
"You can't always get what you want, but if you try... Sometimes, you get what you need." Mick Jagger is a wise man. I ask less and less these days, but I can ask. The more she has embraced locking me and keeping up the intimacy the easier I'm finding it to relax and trust that she will look after me... In the end. I'm not very patient, so keeping my 'fucking' mouth shut is hard. The better I get at keeping schtoom the more empowered she naturally becomes.
Begging is fun, and she likes me to beg. But again, early on it would trigger her guilt, so it's a double-edged sword. Even now, only the other day, I warned her in a text "I'm going to be very convincing that I need to come. Are you gonna let that happen" Followed by... Today, I told her, I'm at the point where I'm really on edge, and could do with some positive reinforcement...
She hates begging and I don't like doing it. She's usually pretty giving with a spanking or some teasing in cage. I ask to get off or get out though isn't a good thing.
I can ask for anything, no limits or restrictions. She is only going to allow whatever she wants and she might deny it even if she did want it just for kicks.
When this got into serious territory as opposed to just cage play, I expressed to my Wife that I didn’t think it was proper for me to ask for orgasms or piv, or really any attention for my penis. I am allowed to ask for spankings, pegging and of course if I could pleasure her in any way. Technically I could ask her for anything but I know it’s all up to her what actually happens. I think she enjoys when I’m starting to really get desperate and I beg a little, her immediate response is usually “that’s too bad”, or a simple “NO”, and if I’m lucky she’ll tease with something like “your penis is too little for that” just because she knows it makes me strain in the cage. I have yet to push boundaries with my begging, so I haven’t been punished for it
My wife and DOMME me hates begging and it leads to longer denial and her reminding me who is in charge. I am not allowed to ask for anything sexually specific. I am only allowed to ask if I can get or do anything for her. She is the Alpha and makes the rules and the decisions.
The mistress likes to hear frustration and occasionally the predicament I have asked for. I can ask for spanking, or any other kind of play. I can ask to give her a massage, rub her feet, pretty much anything and everything I have to ask for but will instigate in the mornings with no permission and occasionally she will accept with a good morning. Her style works for us
Just last night, I was told I would not be able to ask if the cage can come off, or how much longer it will stay on. This has never been an issue previous. She just said it's how She wants it now. So more fun fun fun!
I may ask for permission to unlock for certain medical exams, occasional hygiene/shaving episodes (although hygiene is pretty good without unlocking), or to inspect skin irritation should such occur. I am NOT allowed to ask permission to unlock for any sort of self-gratification: orgasms, erections, or to simply "handle" it. Those are only for Mistress to grant, if ever, at her discretion.