What is your reason for chastity? What is your kink?

For me, it is the control issue. I love the method of control, and the effect extended lock ups have on the operation of my mind and body.

 

For me it's the surrender of control. I find it very relaxing and therapeutic for my wife to have control in the bed room it's the change. She tells me it's the same for her in reverse

 

I am doing it to get some action with myself without going all out. Wife is going through menopause and I am trying to quit porn. So I like to wear this to get a feel on my cock and balls while not pulling it to release. It is awesome in public. Including religious events.

 

yes, my wife also just entered menopause and doesn't want to fuck. I don't want to look for other women, I prefer the pleasure of chastity, feeling my cock closed and not allowed to have erections and only allowed ruined orgasms to always remain horny.

 

Ruined orgasm and closed in castity cage.

 

Caged after ruined orgasm.

 

The desire to serve the Goddess as a submissive sissy.

This was her condition when she offered me to move in with her to serve as her domestic submissive sissy, after several years of dating as a submissive.

After a few years of dating, I had come to love being a sissy and serving during Goddess encounters, so when she offered me this arrangement, I was happy. However, in her opinion, every submissive sissy must be locked in a chastity, so if I wanted to be her domestic sissy, I had to agree to be permanently locked up.

I didn't like chastity during meetings with Goddess, but the strong desire to become a domestic sissy won and I have been locked up for 2 years and I don't regret this decision.
I love chastity, although sometimes I lack freedom in this aspect.

 

The anxiety and excitement of being pushed to do sexually scenarios that I may have fantasized about but never thought I would do. The longer you are locked up and forbidden a release the more willing you are to do it. Imagine the first time your KH shared sucking your first co*k at a glory hole if you wanted to be unlocked so you might just get sucked off too.

 

I keep myself locked because I'm a better husband when I'm not getting hardons all the time. My wife is having a bad time with menopause, and putting my cock in a cage makes it easy for me to both not pester her for sex and explore other types of intimacy with her. I spend more time with her because I'm not off somewhere else looking at porn.

I've been enjoying cockrings, ball stretchers and glans rings for years. Chastity cages were a natural evolution for me.

Other guys might be able to accomplish controlling their hardons on their own; I'm not that sophisticated or mature. I need a physcial/mechanical element. I initiated and maintain the chastity play; she likes it a lot and has said things like "All married men should wear those things, there'd be a lot more happy women" but she's not interested in driving it or making it into the centerpiece of our sexual relationship. Neither of us have any interest in her being the keyholder.

I keep myself locked 24x7 except for cycling, swimming and runs longer than 15k.

We're also working out how to make out so her physical issues don't get aggravated but I get turned on and postponed*.

We're still experimenting with the right intervals between my ejaculations. My first lockup was seven days, that was really easy but the ratio of "pre orgasm buildup" to "post orgasm drop" was too big. We just wrapped up a 16 day lockup, and the ratio feels like it's a bit too far in the other direction. Something around 10-12 days is probably about right for us. Also, I'm a cumslut and I miss eating my loads if we go too long.




*My wife uses the word "Postponed" because, and I quote "You're not getting denied, you're just waiting a little longer".

 

Denied

 

If I were to summerise it in one word, it would be Productivity.
I confess to being a chronic masturbator. Being locked in chastity pervents that and helps me to get stuff done.