I currently don't have a KH so I self lock and deny myself on orgasm, but it's difficult when it's just me...does anyone have any tips or tricks for me? How can I make things more interesting?
get a safety deposit at the bankk,lock the keys in there. you can only get to them duriing banking hrs
It's a site you can choose a key holder with his lock. Or make one by yourself. With a lockbox ore lock with numbers you secure your key, make a picture and load this into your lock. Better your look yourself. https://chaster.app/explore/5f64d4e5c53d1667d1e290b7 Here's a example
Sorry to say that in my 12 years of chastity I never met anyone who self locked who lasted more than three months. Why? Well, first off, self locking is not chasity, it is celibacy. In chastity you have lots of sex but no orgams. In celibacy you have no sex at all. So the two experiences are very different. I get sex from my wife. Just no regular orgasms. Even then, with a keyholder you have the added excitement of not knowing when she will let you orgasm. When you self lock you can cum anytime you want. Also it is impossible to be both the prisoner and warden. Sooner or later you will give it up as you are missing out on all the fun of pegging, being submissive to a woman, punishments, cross dressing, humiliation, degradation, cuckolding, BDSM, and all the other things chastity with a keyholder can lead to. Self locking is a valid fetish but not the same fetish as chastity with a key holder. You are doing celibacy while we are doing chastity since we get regular and sometimes daily sex. You have no sex at all. Big difference and add the lack of all the other fetishes that chastity is a part of and you are in a different ball game than the rest of us. The key to a great sex life is to date a lot and be upfront with what you like sexually. I dated over 30 women to find my wife. I also let women know what I am into and do it in a joking way so that they laugh but also know what I like. It is a numbers game. Keep asking and sooner or later you will find what you want.
I get what you're saying about the differences between chastity and celibacy. Being a self locker I get sex by myself but no erection being caged. It's fun and kinda' kinky. The whole chastity domme thing isn't for me personally. To me the ultimate goal is to insert your erect penis into a womans vagina and ejaculate while you both orgasm. I can't see being denied that while having to serve all her other needs. To me that's a very one sided relationship. Men SAY they're happier but are they just saying that to keep the only thing they have from leaving them? To me a 1 in 30 numbers game isn't a game I want to play. pegging - Anal is fun being submissive to a woman - Not interested punishments - In a fun way cross dressing - I already to that humiliation - It depends degradation - Not interested cuckolding - Not interested BDSM - Very limited I'd rather go without than waste a lot of time and money. I totally respect your views on this, we just don't see it the same way.