Serious question

The Female keyholders forum only had 92 threads and has been around for a LOT longer than this forum.

What does that tell you?

I wonder if why that's contributor criteria has been widened somewhat

 

let the men speek

 

I have been locked in chastity for the last 12 years and not penetrated a women in any manner with anything for over 20 years. My wife is bi but for sex she prefers women and men for everything else. She treats me good and is a great wife except for not finding men sexually arousing. My sex life depends on when she masturbates or more aptly put when she feels like letting me watch her masturbate.

I will admit that we tried cross dressing but I look stupid since I look like a big mafia hitman. i am an ex jock and combat vet with scars on my face and body. Do not look very feminine at all. We try a lot of stuff but feminization did nothing for either of us. So I just wear my cage all the time and when my wife feels like letting me watch her masturbate, about 3 times a year or so, that is my sex, just watching. I do have to wear a nightgown though as she does not find male bodies aesthetically pleasing.

 

Maybe

 

Vinnyfl

That sounds pretty unique to me

 

lol!

 

Serious question. I'm single and I believe I'm a sex addict. I can spend hours and hours playing with others and myself. I tremendously enjoy chastity and I owned several cages (metal, plastic). A few months ago, this sexual overdrive caused major difficulties in my life. I decided then to become 'sober' and treated my addiction like an alcoholic: I stopped my sexual activities (most of them kink), threw away thousands of dollars of sex toys, including my chastity cages.
However, its becoming increasingly difficult to stay sober and I wonder if going back to chastity would help me. However, chastity makes me really horny, all the time. So i'm stuck. Any advice ?

 

If it’s causing real problems and you feel like you can’t manage it alone perhaps it’s time to see a real therapist?

 

Sound advice. Thank you.

 

First off more than 90% of guys quite chastity after a short time so few remain. I have been at this over 12 year and can count the number of people I remember on one hand. They come and go despite what they post about doing it for a long time.

Most guys are not into chastity alone. They use chastity in a larger fetish like cuckolding, feminization, etc.. Only a few of us are into chastity as the main fetish. It is kind of boring without it being part of a larger fetish but it can stand on its own. I am very alpha and look like a Mafia Hitman. I used to compete in various shooting sports and taught self defense with guns. I am. combat vet and look ridiculous in female clothes. Plus my wife is bi and she prefers real women to me dressed as one.

My wife also does not want to dominate me. She wants me to lead our marriage since I was educated in gifted student classes my whole life and ran a few international businesses. She went to trade school so I handle all finances and other issues that fit my skill set. We are not about to ruin a great and successful marriage for a sex fetish. However, my wife is in charge of our sex life and my orgasms. That is it. Boring stuff.

Let's face it, how many posts you do saying your still have not had an orgasm?

 

This for me too. I'm having a hard time finding the non-feminization sites related to chastity if I were ever to tell my wife. She can't stand anything remotely related to pornography. She makes me fast forward any movie which even has topless nudity in it.

I don't have a problem reading stories about guys who do this it's just not my thing.

 

This thread is more about discussion of feminization, or lack thereof, and chastity. You should probably start your own thread on this. I have some suggestions for you but didn't want to de-rail this conversation.

 

I’m eager for your input

 

You can try : teamlocked.men.

 

Yeah, I have a serious question. Been in chastity and service for a week. First time out for having private time with my wife, I lasted a total of 10 seconds. This is not an issue I have had in the past. Clearly it's got to be chastity related. So, WTF? It's as if the whole concept is laughing a bit and saying it's all or nothing. Don't think you can be chaste for a week, and then go wild on the weekend. If you're going to org*sm, it's gonna suck. What's the serious question? What works? Should I ask to be let out in the morning so I can be better prepared in the evening? Seems to be against what I'm trying to do. I guess I'm hoping it's just going to get better as I settle in.

 

You'll settle in, once chastity is no longer an exotic new exciting kink and becomes the new normal it'll all work out

 

@atxmtb that happened pretty fast, I must say, but there are a few options:

1: your partner teases you several times demanding you not cum (i.e. training endurance)

2. You accept instant orgasm on 1st go, but follow up for round 2, then 3, then...

Either option can be fun.

 

Makes sense but only to the more vanilla relationships it would seem which I think might be the majority. Silent majority.

 

I think the appropriate title is, "Husband into lots of kinks, loves things like tease and denial, cumplay, bondage, pain, but wife is much more traditional. Husband decided chastity is fun, wife likes it, he's growing and learning stuff."