On New Year eve a few nights ago, my Wife (KH) told me my year was going to start off with something new she had thought up. I was thinking, an orgasm, a blowjob, a hand job, more teasing. All good ideas for me, but she had something else in mind. I have not been allowed to cum since May of 2022. My Wife (KH) told me, she would really like to see me go a full year without a orgasm. Only 4 months to go. It's not really so bad. I get regular teasing and I'm allowed to take my cage off and get hard when my Wife wants to see me hard and play. She gets a kick out of seeing me leak so much So Jan. 1 rolls around, and I'm all excited on what's going to happen... My Wife thinks it a great idea that she stops all teasing, touching, rubbing, or any other type of touching for a full month. My only release will be for cleaning and shaving. During this time, I have to try and stay soft, with no extra rubbing or pulling (Masturbation) of any type. Cage is on 24/7, with no teasing of any type. Feb. 1 my Wife will begin the teasing again and I will only have a few months to go to finish a full year of no orgasms. I know this sounds harsh, but, I have gone so long without a orgasm, I don't think I will have a hard time with this. Time will tell.
I tried something similar with hubby once for Locktober, and it didn't work well for us. I was so focused on the idea of a "strict lockup" that I stuck with it for the entire month - no teasing, no edging, basically no attention at all. But in retrospect it was a mistake. For both of us, the teasing is an important part of what makes everything work. I don't have to unlock him every time, but a month was definitely far too long. And even while remaining locked, attention is important. This past Locktober I tried a middle ground of keeping him locked for the month while finding other ways to tease him. That was a little better, though still a mistake overall. But every couple is different. I'm sure 99% of the men out there would find hubby's "normal" completely unacceptable. Perhaps this will wind up being a memorable experience for both of you. My only advice for your wife is to not let stubbornness get in the way: notice when something isn't working, and be willing to change the plan. That's a personal weakness of mine.
No orgasms is one thing that my keyolder and I can both accept... the tease and denial for us is at least a necessary part of the chastity experience to keep that aspect of our intimacy ever boiling. The total lack of attention is not fun for a prolonged period of time for either of us. I feel neglected and irritable, she becomes aloof and preoccupied. That is us though. Staying locked 24/7 is electrifying when that tease is offered, whatever form it may be.
You've gained some incredible insight just from great observation skills and trial and error! My wife has done similarly but has really perfected her ability to tease me unlocked without ever playing around my cage. She started with my nipples and has perfected her teasing technique to the point she could probably give me an orgasm once in awhile. Here's an article that explains a lot of what she's tried even though she hasn't read it but probably have written it. As my nipple sensitivity has increased, so has the sensitivity of other erogenous areas. My stomach, armpits, behind my knees, inner thighs, and scrotum are very responsive. I've started waxing or shaving these areas once a month because it increases my pleasure from her touch. My ears are also as sensitive as my nipples. When she kisses and tongues my ear, it drives me wild. She only unlocks me and plays with my manhood when she wants to give me an orgasm. PIV is off the table for us so she doesn't unlock me for her own pleasure. She COULD keep me motivated and on edge with very few or no releases, but I'm not going to tell her that. She's smart enough she easily could already have figured that out. I'm grateful she has no interest in reading this forum.