Curious- how did you all find chastity?

I was a very shy, quiet boy that was always eager to please to try and please my Mother. This carried over into my teen years and I allowed the few girls I dated to decide the extent of any petting or making out that might occur. After dropping my date off I would proceed home and promptly jerk myself off. I never ejaculated with any girls before I was married.

 

I'd been interested in chastity, in some form for more than 40 years. It messed with both my natural submissive desires as well as my lust to be feminine. Didn't particularly like the plastic, clear chastity models, so only got beyond fantasy when I saw relatively inexpensive metal cages. Liked the altairboy site and others, where chastity fiction was featured. Stumbled across CM during random searches. Once here, my participation in chastity and other forms of submission took off, fueled in part by being owned by @MistressS . Now I feel like i'm committed much more to chastity and a sissy lifestyle.

 

My sub introduced me to it. I was into kink, but as I used to be a switch (mainly sub) before I had focussed on the female side of things. Now I have become a chastity domme I don't want to go back, and so my husband is my sub. And locked.

 

Curious- how did you all find chastity?
I found it in the dictionary between Charity and Chat

 

I wanted to cut down on masturbating and in searching for ways, I came across chastity devices and did some reading. There are some pretty good books about male chastity that are not hardcore dominatrix type stuff that can get a vanilla wife interested. There are kind, loving ways to use male chastity. I got my wife to read a book like that and she said she would try it if I really wanted to do it. We tried it and both enjoyed it. I am not locked all the time, but when I am, it is for about 2 weeks at time to give me a good "reset".

 

My madam found it first, and introduced me to it, one day when I was at work madam was watching some femdom clips on the net, and she saw one where the Male sub was wearing a chastity device, she googled it right away and found the cbx website, (well, cb2000 in those days!) and she was hooked, as soon as she knew you could lock a cock, she had to lock one!

 

I’ve posted this before but it’s been awhile.

I was attending a CFnm tea party. The host was wearing a CB2000 not long after they came out.

It was a topic of conversation, and a lot of fun was had. That said, I thought it was nuts. But it grew on me, a few months later I ordered one and have been messing with chastity on and off since.

 

My GF learned of it 10+ years ago from a very happy friend. She got me into it after we had been dating over 5 years (I really was clueless). She even had me believing it was my idea at first...

 

I was into cuckolding and the wife was not. She was putting in the effort to try, but she read me her conversation and I started to realize how much damage my kink was inflicting in our relationship. I decided to look into other kinks and found female dominance. She likes being in control so that excited us both.
I started to read about the benefits of Chasity in relationships and it I am hooked.

 

I felt I was having a hard time connecting with my wife sexually and one of my online buddies said, "You are probably still too busy wanking it to know what she wants anymore. You should have her lock your peepee up so you can't touch yourself".

It sounds like a joke but he went on to say what male chastity was and I had honestly never heard of it... So I looked into it a bit and the wife thought it sounded like an interesting idea.

 

I found it thru cuckold porn and became very interested but was always afraid to bring it up until recently. So she agreed to try it and I think she is coming around now.

 

The first couple decades of my BDSM experience were as a straight male dominant, and during that time I had chastized a couple of my partners short-term (a few days max). When I started accepting all kinds of things about me (I have a feminine side, I am a slut, I like men too, looks like I’m a switch…) it started me thinking of trying submission.

A couple years ago I began seeing someone who had been a sub all their life and wanted to see how they would like to be a dominant. I encouraged them to express it any way they liked and we’d see how it went. “Well” is an understatement, and I found myself feeling more free as they increasingly exerted their benevolent control.

They locked me. I’d had no idea how long my first interval would be - it was about a month. There were sleep problems and some swiftly-managed fussing. Once I accepted I no longer owned the weeny, things got delicious. The cage puts me in a submissive mindset and keeps me there. It frees me from my need to express masculinity, which is a delight. And I love love love my dominant, they have made me really free and happy. They made a big space for me to increasingly claim femininity and sluthood.

 

I first came across it in the blog Male Chastity Journal that the Caged Lion and his wife both post to. After a few years of reading I wanted to try.

 

That is exactly what a few books have in them. The male masturbates so much, he isn't leaving mental energy for his wife. Not that they couldn't perform, but it makes you lose the desire to be close to your wife and not pay enough attention to her. The book I read and did was to be locked for 2 full weeks. I did that and my wife said she could tell a positive difference. No begging or asking for sex, it takes sex off the table for a while and let's you become a couple again without the sex part.

 

Yeah I wasn't spending enough time making that emotional connection so the sexual connection meant next to nothing...

 

We found it whilst browsing the CBT section of an online adult store and thought it could add to our BDSM / spanking games as an occasional toy.

 

I found it by being in to kinky things and playing with toys - an activity that I started to do more and more on my own after my wife’s sex drive deceased and children took more and more of our time. It was a new way of playing on my own and bought huge excitement. I used a time lock safe so I could let my self out before driving to work in the morning and my wife was sleeping in a different room at the time as she was nursing during the night.
When we moved back to gather I was disappointed I wouldn’t be able to play any more so brought it up!

 

I dound it looking for ways to stop masterbating. To be true to my wife between sex

 

I found it mostly as I was looking for some sort of long term wear toy that was discrete and not constrictive.

I have previously worn the oxballs cock/ball sleeve for short periods (30-60 minutes) as I like the feel of the constriction around my penis/balls, but being wary that they are essentially a cock ring designed for blood restriction, I knew they weren't a long term solution.

There were a few threads of chastity and cock cages on another sex toy site's forum, a mix of long term wearers (similar to those here that are in extended periods of caged / denied) and others who were more casual. They had a few cages for sale on the site (Lovehoney), mostly the CB range as well as a few metal and silicone ones. I decided on the metal one as per my avatar, Dominix Delux Steel Chastity.

When I first showed a pic of the cage to my wife, she looked at it sideways, not quite sure what to make of it and even less sure why someone would encase their penis. I talked about the control side, that she would be in charge of orgasms, this seemed to spark a bit of interest, so I took the plunge and ordered it.

I am now wearing it more often than not. Still partially for the feeling of its physical presence, but also as a way of re balancing our home life. I am being far more attentive to her needs, taking on more home duties (cooking, washing up etc) and have also re prioritized her sexual satisfaction, offering "just her" sessions with oral / toys bringing her to orgasm with no expectation of reciprocation.

She isn't an active keyholder and has only a few times commented about the device and whether or not its on. I keep up the viewpoint that its her key, her decision when I get unlocked and she goes along, but hasnt really exerted any control yet (denied orgasm or removal of the device), but I remain hopeful.

 

My college girlfriend sent me a short story from Usenet rec.arts.erotica about The Chastity Belt. It was femdom fiction where a guy agrees to be locked for a year. I could not get the idea or chastity out of my head. It’s stuck with me ever since.

I married her. I’m pierced and in chastity, and she’s my keyholder.

 

I came across the concept of chastity in Penthouse Forum letters when in my 20s. Granted, many of the stories were very over the top, probably fantasy, but it planted a seed in my mind and became part of my vivid fantasies.

In my 30s, I met a life-style domme turned pro. We played with the idea of chastity, but it was always a scene fantasy.

Then in my 40s, another prodomme introduced orgasm control full-time. It was her idea, but given my proclivities and fantasies, I was a suitable & "willing" subject. Eventually, this became full-time chastity and our dynamic became more than pro. i took breaks from seeing her and from chastity, off and on, but each returned to her. Now, in my 60s, at her decision I've been locked for about 8 months, 24/7 (with a couple of medical exceptions.)

So, my chastity was instigated and enforced by others, but obviously I am drawn to this. I've found enjoyment & satisfaction from being controlled by a dominant woman, even if it is sometimes frustrating.

 

I think maybe 5 years ago I saw someone wearing a CB on Fetlife. Had no idea chastity devices were a “thing”, even though I’ve been interested in bondage since my early teens (I’m now 58). Looked online, found the CB6000 online and thought it’d be a fun addition to our occasional bondage play. With wife’s okay, ordered one.

It was so fun! And we both liked it. But one night early on it broke (like they often do) and when I showed my wife while pouring coffee she said “don’t they make one that won’t break?”. Well THAT sent me back online where I learned so much more about chastity play from some of the well known blogs, and then found Mature Metal. Now have two MM devices and chastity is routinely but periodically part of our life as a couple. She likes having me locked, and enjoys the look; my “penis jewelry” as she calls the cage.

 

Something I stumped into and got curious.

Start with homemade chastity with what I found around my house.

Eventually I start to buy devices from internet and wear them.

 

I saw a male chastity movie and was curious what the male was wearing. I "googled" male chastity and found out about the cages. Read up on them and thought it was a good way to spice up my Wife and my sex life. It took me awhile to get up the nerve to show her and ask her if she wanted to give it a try...The rest is history...