I've been a lurker for the most part and figured time to check in and a bit about us. Going on 19 years of marriage with my beautiful wife. Over the last five+ years we've jumped into quite a bit of kinky play with the Lit forum being the used forum. I've always had kinky / submissive desires; we'll switch occasional but by nature I'm submissive and She enjoys the Dominate roll. We're both open with each other regarding communication and trying things for the most part but still sometimes have reservations disclosing fantasies - ie; I was very tentative bring up Pegging, only to find out She has wondered about it and discovered we both enjoy it... We're not 24/7 by any stretch - we have teenage kids and normal life routines; we'll have our play nights on weekends where She's usually the Top. I do LOVE worshiping my Wife and do as much as I can during the week. I'll find myself fantasizing about being locked & controlled and thus end up here lurking. Today while in the midst of some Teasing text from my Wife I decided to go ahead and broach the chastity idea - started with a very cryptic text that only committed me to at least having a conversation when home. Being impatient I gave a very direct clue of the following copied text someone else had posted: "Hell, I'm impatient - here's a clue someone on forum posted. Only thinking for occasional play. ↑ I love to wear my man's key around my neck. I get to caress it during the day and smile thinking about him at his job all locked up..." 10+ long Minutes of no response and I'm thinking hell I've gone too far this time... Finally the following reply: "Ah! I've been wondering if you would do that for me." This response went straight to my core and felt like my blood was coming to a boil - I could not have been more elated... Next step is picking out a device, right now leaning towards a cheap Chinese stainless - time to research. Don't foresee more than kinky occasional play for us. Felt like sharing and saying hello. Best,
Hello @CZSteve and welcome to the Mansion. So nice to hear your Wife is so open to the idea. Have fun and enjoy the ride.
Great job CZSteve! You've accomplished one of the hardest parts of the journey. I remember when my husband first introduced me to his fetish for chastity-play... I was shocked but tried to keep an open-mind. He had already introduced me to bondage and I was an instant fan of that. Like you, we only play for short periods of time... (8 days locked was his longest, I think) Sometimes it's just for 1 night but I always keep him guessing and that's what makes it fun! (plus I like to tease him a lot too and I know he loves it). Take it slow and have fun. Be patient with her, she might not always be in the mood to be a KH, (it takes a lot of work to do it right).
Thanks all. And thanks bnd2plz for chiming in from a KH perspective and reminding me to not be too pressing if She is not in the mood, it's easy to forget given men and Women are wired a bit differently. I'm not sure if she'll join here but I did give my sign-on; we're obviously at the initial stage of trying to decide on type of cage - metal VS silicone/resin - name brand VS knock-off.
Update: ordered a couple metal Chinese knock-offs to start out cheap to test the waters; arrived today @ my Wife's office. She texted that they're very heavy and asked if I'm sure about this while including a few wickedly devilish emoji's - mentioned she had a lot of thoughts going thru her head; I asked if she'd share her thoughts - response: Well, wicked, nervous, curious, crazy, and quite pleased.
Doing this on my phone and posted too soon and ran out of edit time. Also plan on a Friday date night to include picking out a chain / necklace for the key. She also found a pendant of a Queens crown and maybe also a symbolic key pendant - I Love the Queen symbolism from a couple perspectives...
Welcome! Sounds like you're off to a great start! You're very lucky to have such an understanding wife. Keep us posted!
Hope I'm not wearing out my welcome in this thread. Yep, She's pretty great. Beautiful in and out and bonus that's she's been open to exploring my kinks as we've grown even closer over the years. Fantastic Mother and Wife. She's already playing head games... Arrived home this evening and asked where the cages were; She normally puts our mail-order packages in my closet. She said I have to wait until Friday before I can even look at them. I had previously mentioned I wanted this to be just a little special; don't need to have a big ritual, just a little something - She said if that's the case then I should wait; no peaking until it's time... As mentioned, bought a couple cheap knock-offs and they each came with three size solid rings; mentioned maybe I should at least try on a ring to verify what fits - "No, we can figure that out together on Friday" Yep, already getting into my head!
Not wearing out your welcome thread at all. Pretty awesome actually! I love reading new about such great journies such as yours. Hope it's a great ride for you both!
Bit of an update. Thursday night we played around a bit. I did a lot of Worshiping of my Wife along with some very intimate time inside Her but was informed I was not aloud to cum; She kept brought me to the edge multiple times but held strong to not allowing any relief - this was hard (sorry...) as I think She enjoys making me cum more than I even do. I assumed I would get her off with the Hitachi but She didn't want to have an orgasm (she's gotten very good at have them BTW... ) - she wanted to keep her edge until Friday. I thought it was VERY sensual and erotic the way she was already controlling me with her verbal commands. Friday nights date was great - she looked awesome in a recently purchased dress and discovered she was not wearing panties when I hugged her and grabbed her ass; she was hoping to surprise me with that fact while at dinner - she was also letting the 'girls' run free that night... Stopped at James-Avery to get a silver chain, queens crown pendant, and a heart/key pendant. At one point she subtlety took out the lock key to see if matched well in size with the pendants, pretty sure the girl helping us noticed... Had a very nice & flirtatious dinner. It had been almost 6 weeks since we really played as a result of some surgery recovery, assumed tonight was going to be simple sex and a lock-up - mentioned I hoped we can have a play night next weekend; she looked at me during dinner "Who said we're not playing tonight?" Went home and had the kids in bed by 10:30 - busy day on Saturday and we were horny! Relatively simple play strapped tight to the bed with some intense flogger and Violet Wand play. She loves using the V-Wands body contact cable for indirect play, the intensity from just Her fingers is incredible - She was wearing her chain and began using it as a contact, at one point I finally called out our Yellow/pause safe word when She was touching the pendants to the head of my dick. She once again would bring me the edge and stop, rode me over and over but never over the edge. Back to hand edging, telling me I could cum but then stopped saying she changed her mind... Back to edging again and told me she does want me to come - I was blindfolded and felt a spurt hit all the way near my neck but no orgasm; she knew I hadn't had an O and kept stroking while I'm apparently oozing and then one of the most intense orgasms I've had; we've had quite a few goods ones over the recent years. Proceeded to reciprocate with the Hitachi (She need's clitoral stim) and had a very impressive O on her own right. After relaxing a bit She asked if I was ready to be locked up? "I guess so..." Went with the 1.75" ring and the Bird Cage version to start, obviously felt strange being the first time especially after putting on briefs and the size/length of the bird cage. I didn't last that long before asking permission to take it off - this was the first time to see as previously mentioned and being cheap plated Chinese knock-offs there were a few sharp spots from the chrome that needed to be buffed smooth; felt a little bad that I had to take it off but also knew there would be some trial and error. Saturday was a busy trials & tribulations type of day during the first half and had am Indy Car race to attend that evening - didn't attempt to wear a cage at all on Saturday. Sunday morning I polished up the rough spots of the shorter cage shown below; put it on w/ the small 1.5" ring - I'm average+ in length but have a trouble with my balls slipping thru our parachute when we use it - so it seems the smallest ring fits best. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01I0XLZ6G/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o03_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1 I've been wearing this cage for just about 12 hrs now and feels quite good! I love the feeling when my Wife teases me and I feel myself strain against the cage - I'm allowed to Dine tonight but She won't tell me if I'll be released, I'm assuming I won't be. I'm going on 51 and generally take a 100mg Kamagra (Viagra) when we play - right or wrong I decided to take a 1/4 (25mg) tab. I fold my wife which made her look at me ask "Are you sure that's a good idea?" She's been wearing my/Her key around her neck all day which as y'all know is such a turn-on knowing she own's me! If this continues how it appears I'm sure we'll be trying different cages soon - already ordered another cheaper but supposedly it is actually 304 stainless and not plated, we'll see. It's also a 60mm long and 30mm inside diameter. The one I'm currently wearing is 70mm and 36mm dia - when very flacid I'll just fit in the 60x30, but just a little growing will fill up the 36mm and start to reach the the 70mm length - we're about to find out how a lot of attempted growth will feel... Question: For folks like us who will be using this as a teasing kink type of play - Do most find a cage that allows for 'some' growth to be fun? The bird cage type seemed way too big; this 70x36 seems just about right - wished the next one that's s/s had a wider diameter then 30 but maybe it'll be fine, it'll be here Tuesday. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01GQENLDG/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1 Sorry for the long post, just felt the need to share.