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    Dude you are whipped! lol
     
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    Day 13

    Today D decided she had gone long enough and allowed me to explore her garden again with my hands. It had been 11 days since her last O, the longest by far she's gone without since we started our journey in March. She was whimpering quickly at just the slightest touch so I tried to go slow. But slow for this guy is still much faster than my neighbors want me driving thru our neighborhood. When we were done, she commented it was so much better after waiting awhile. That was something I suggested we explore earlier in this journey but at the time she didn't want to have anything to do with T&D for her. The thought hit me this morning that I would just tease her a little and stop, but I couldn't do that to her and I think I wanted it for her more than she did. I don't think she's into the idea of T&D for herself. She wants it when she wants it, and doesn't want me fooling around down there when she doesn't.

    These 11 days seemed like a long time and has gotten me simmering at a low boil. I thought finally accomplishing this would help me relax & calm down a little. But I'm still straining in the cage despite the growing irritation from too many attempted erections.

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    Day 18

    Life has been busy for us, especially D, and things have slowed considerably. And she is feeling a desire to wait longer between O's to increase the pleasure of each. That, I can understand. I, on the other hand, have been selfishly feeling a bit neglected since she's teasing me rarely right now.

    Yesterday, we had a long overdue conversation about the "consequences" section of our chastity plan. We outlined my behaviors that are unacceptable in our relationship. We categorized them into sexual and behavioral. Things like masturbating, viewing porn, teasing myself, flirting / secret conversations with other women, etc fall in the sexual realm. Anger, raging, lying, being rude & irritable are in the behavioral realm. Punishments are a minimum of 2 weeks for sexual transgressions and 1 week for behavioral subject to D's review after she's had time to get over her emotional response and think rationally. Any sexual transgression will require me to share what I've done with a trusted friend, a certain embarassing propostion. These give me serrious pause since just the lack of physical intimacy is something that will be difficult. I was surprised by her expansion of the list of behaviors she wants to hold me accountable to, but in hind sight, I guess I shouldn't be. These were things that damaged our relationship in the past.

    So yesterday, after a long week, an early morning trip to volunteer at a food pantry, and this discussion, I was exhausted. D left to go shopping. I needed to work on a project but was feeling worn out, a trigger in the past to masturbate and make myself feel good. I was thankful I had my Guardian on, but thought about the vibrator in the bedroom in D's night stand. Knowing the penalties we had just put in place were a strong deterrent and I drifted off to sleep instead. It's been 5 months since I've felt a strong trigger like that and our conversation and agreement had come just in the nick of time. I shared my struggle with her late last night before bed and she wasn't impressed! It's hard for her to understand the compulsion that was wired into my brain for 55 years of my life. She thinks my devotion to her should completely override those thoughts and desires. I guess I'll save that conversation for another time.

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    My wife is the same, she has yet to understand why I can't "just not touch it". I laughed when she said that and replied "honey, your ignorance is sooo cute!"
    Is this compulsion we both feel a part of our fallen nature or a God given but wrongly placed compulsion? With the cage on the compulsion is still ever so real, but now I redirect it to something that would bless my wife, usually a romantic gesture.
     
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    Day 21

    Life has been busy and I hadn't been teased since Friday night but D got around to it yesterday morning. Afterwards, I let her know how much I appreciated it. I said I had been feeling neglected but then realized it had only been 3 1/2 days. I told her she has spoiled me! She was surprised it had been that long. Later she apologized for not making me a priority! I told her that was the furthest thing from the truth.

    My sister is coming for an extended visit; likely a week or two. This usually occurs about every 4-6 months. The last time 2 times, D struggled with how she felt around my sister. This morning, she said she is in a much better place for her visit. I asked what she meant by that. She said "You know!!!". I replied again "What do you mean?" She said "My love tank is filled up. I'm not worried about anything discouraging me!" That felt good!!!

    14 more days until my next release.... the calendar really crawls during these longer lockups. I think I may resort to begging to be released for a little play time although with my sister around, that's not likely to happen.

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    Congrats and best of luck on how the next couple weeks go for you. Seems like you guys are doing awesome and she's on a roll with it
     
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    Why isn’t there a thread just devoted to this?
    Either way I’m gate crashing with hot thoughts about my wife. I could write all day…
    1. The cute little freckles she gets in summer either side of her nose.
    2. She’s pretty silent when it comes to all things sexual, but suck gently on her ear lobe and she moans every time.
    3. The way her little toes curl ever so slightly. The nail points a little more outwards than the rest. (I think I have a foot fetish)
    4. Her perfectly round ass. She gains and loses weight readily, but her ass never changes.
    5. The way her harness looks as it frames her perfectly round ass.
    6. The innocence in her eyes. She can just give me a look and I melt. While practicing fellatio one moment of eye contact pushes me over the edge.
    7. That she goes out her way to make experiences more pleasurable for me. While sucking she’ll ensure she’s positioned with the mirror behind her so I can watch her body. But she’ll brush her hair aside so no other view is blocked too.
    8. The way she mischievously smiles while playing with my little guy. Massaging moisturiser in with both hands pretending she’s doing me a favour while I’m begging her to stop before it’s too much.
    9. She styles her hair differently everyday. She has a certain style I know she prefers when it comes to sexual matters. She does it in the morning and I know she’ll be dressing up in the evening.
    10. She complains that shaving is such a chore. If she does once a month it’s a miracle. Despite this she’s insecure about having herself on show for being too hairy… but no one would ever know. She has the palest hairs in earth. I think I prefer when she hasn’t shaved. Think that makes me weird…
    11. The provocative yoga-esque poses she puts herself in while playing with our toddler. This should not be a time for inappropriate thoughts.
    12. The way she can’t stop herself laughing at her own predictability.
    Wife: “I’m hungry”
    Me: “We haven’t got any hash browns”
    Wife: Can’t help but laugh as she questions how I know she wanted hash browns.

     
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    Day 26

    D and I went to the beach for a long weekend with my sister who came for a long visit. After 2 days of amazing days of perfect weather, I think we were both ready for a release of sorts.

    D asked me yesterday morning if I NEEDED some attention. How do you answer that question? I'm always ready for attention.... 24x7! But who ever NEEDS attention? Right? The right thing would have been to say, something like "Living with a beautiful creature like you has me in constant need of attention!" But I just kept my mouth shut and held her close until she pushed me off into an exposed position with my arms above my head so she could tease me without interference. After about 10 minutes, I was ready to cry "uncle" and asked if she brought the key with her knowing full well what the answer would be. She replied "No, it's not October 5th" (my next scheduled release date). It's clear she's never tempted to let me out to give me pleasure because she feels sorry for me like in the early days.

    After a teasing session like that, it takes a couple of minutes for my nervous system to settle down so she's content to hold me tight. I used my excess energy to begin foreplay in the other direction and she didn't deter me this time. She was in the rare mood for "special treatment" and just as things were reaching the boiling point, she got a severe cramp in her calf. She jumped out of bed to relieve the stress on her calf to get it to calm down. What horrible timing for both of us!

    She managed to get things under control though she is still feeling soreness in her calf a day later. She wasn't going to be denied and allowed me to manually stimulate her after returning to bed. We kept trying several different positions and speeds, but couldn't quite get her over the edge. She finally let me try oral again being very careful to avoid placing her leg in a vulnerable position. Mission accomplished!

    The combination of being teased to my limit & denied and giving her the ultimate satisfaction had me revved up for the day. I poked my head in while she was showering and told her I loved her, then came back and said "Let me rephrase that. I'm so in love with you!" Thank God for chastity to keep me from ruining the day and teaching me to love my wife like I ought. And I thank Him for an incredible wife who has learned to play me like a violin to make beautiful music in life together!
     
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    Loving the realness!
     
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    I've got my Vice Mini dialed-in, or should I say "Locked-in", with the various sized components. It's snug and comfortable with little to no room for growth when I get heated up. Because of that, there is little opportunity for skin irritation where the anti-pullout presses in beneath the glans which happened in the past with frequent attempted erections. With the ability to clean myself without removing the cage, my only valid reason to ask for the key now is to shave occasionally.

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    Day 29

    I woke up this morning and was browsing the New Posts. I came across one about being locked or unlocking during periods of tension in your relationship. This one stopped to make me think for awhile. I realized that it's been about 8 months now and we haven't had one of those experiences during that time. Could chastity be a signficant, contributing factor? Here's my post. I struggled with whether it should be in my journey or a response to that thread. I decided on both.

    Shortly after, our alarm went off. I rolled over to be the big spoon because D was still on her side facing her nightstand. We cuddled for a little bit and then I started scratching her back which she loves even more than a massage. I've had an allergic reaction to the shingles vaccine so my back gets itchy from time to time. She asked if my back was itchy and needed to be scratched. I told her that it wasn't because I had applied some cream a couple of days ago. But then I told her that my little guy was really itchy. Without hesitation, she replied firmly "I DON'T CARE". After we both giggled for a little while. she added "I'm NEVER goiing to scratch him!" (I think I need to post this on the "Hot things your KH said" thread - sorry for the duplications!)

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    Day 34

    Sometimes the reality of life disrupts the experience of your fantasy.

    With my sister visiting for 10+ days, my focus on priorities started to slip. I could feel things were sort of amiss. I had made myself vulnerable. And then I had an accident Friday morning. It was terribly embarrassing and humiliating for me. My wife and I had to deal with the "clean up" for 2 days which kept my accident at the forefront of my mind. I was in a dark, depressing place mentally & emotionally. My wife handled it well without heaping any further shame on me, but I was set up for a fall.

    Friday night was one of my daughter's birthday and the whole family went out for dinner to celebrate. As is our custom, my daughters, wife & sister asked me to select wine for the table. (No one else likes to choose; in fact, two of my daughters ask me to keep their wine fridge's stocked.) Our server was really slow. The restaurant & parking lot were packed when we arrived for our reservation and both were empty after our dinner which took 3 hours because of the service alone.

    I selected an expensive bottle of wine and told the server I only wanted one until we had a chance to taste it and see if it was good enough for a second. She wanted to just bring both but she went and brought a sample in a water glass without bringing the bottle; very odd! It tasted alright so I said okay. She then showed up with a much less expensive Chianti that I can by in the grocery store for less than half the price of a Brunello. I told her that wasn't the wine I had selected and she said they were changing the wine menu and this was the substitute and the price was the same. I told her I didn't want it and she said, "But you tasted it and you liked it." AARGH. The rest of the story involved the owner/manager, a promise of a different Brunello that didn't materialize, and settling for another wine that I wouldn't have ordered at that price point. To get to the point: I was visibly angry and frustrated and created an awkward moment for my family. I knew immediately after the conclusion that I had blown it and figured I was in trouble with my wife.

    She handled it with grace which was shocking. We were finally able to fully deconstruct what happened last night after my sister left to go home. I asked her what the consequences should be since I had violated one of our stipulations in our agreement / guidelines and she said I need to apologize to each of my daughters. Our guidelines stipulate a penalty of no physical intimacy for 1 week but she felt the apologizing would be more of a significant consequence. And she's right! Besides, lack of physical intimacy would be a consequence to her.

    I asked her why she wasn't mad at me. She told me that she was able to deal with this without anger because she doesn't "hate me" anymore. OUCH! My behavior has changed significantly over the past 8 months. She was only saddened by the fact that my slip happened in front of the entire family (OUCH!) and they don't have as much opportunity to witness the new person that I've become.

    Chastity helped bring about change in my life and behaviors. And it's helping me recognize my mistakes almost immediately and address them with my wife right away. But it doesn't help you deal with the emotional pain and trauma of your mistakes. This is where I need to lean into my spiritual life to find healing from a source outside of myself.
     
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    Day 35

    D made several comments over the past few days about this being the day of my release trying to amp up my anticipation. The pressure I felt to remain locked for the month of Locktober did weigh on my mind and I hadn't brought the subject up because I knew it wouldn't appeal to her. I had done the math and our current locking dice game will have me locking for 4+ weeks on average about 5 times per year. So we'll be celebrating Locktober regularly.

    My pain, humiliation & depression from last Friday's episodes had taken time to lift. We had another discussion about my apologies to my daughters and D didn't like my approach so I had to modify it a bit. I finally reached out to them in the morning and got that taken care of. My feelings were lifting but I had a long day of physical exercise & work and was exhausted while making dinner. I needed to sit down and rest a couple of times. I didn't know how I was going to be able to perform in bed under the conditions.

    D was obviously looking forward to this and started to ask what was wrong with me. "Why aren't you more excited after 5 weeks of denial?" We had a discussion about being emotionally ready and I told her that a woman should be able to understand that. She told me she didn't feel desired. WRONG! I told her I desire her constantly. Dinner and a shower had me feeling much better.

    D started to suggest that maybe we should wait and was obviously disappointed in me. I told her I really wanted to please her; after all she had waited 5 weeks for this as well. She quickly responded "I haven't had to wait 5 weeks. I've had my orgasms!" I told her I'm ready to do this and we started kissing, something we don't usually do in the mornings because we haven't brushed our teeth. This is the one thing I knew would be the key to getting her going if anything would. And she was clearly enjoying that.

    We cuddled & snuggled for a long time before she turned her attention on me. D refuses to let me near her first. This is clearly her taking the dominate role in the bedroom. It doesn't come natural to me but I'm learning to let her set the tone and have free reign with me. This requires me to get relaxed and in a submissive posture with my arms overhead and my legs bent & slightly spread so that nothing gets in her way. I've teasingly suggested that maybe we need restraints but found out she expects me to cooperate fully without that.

    Before she went too far, I asked if she wanted to be pleased manually, orally or by PIV tonight since I didn't want things to progress too far if she wanted PIV. She said we're not going the PIV route since she was sore for days afterwards.

    D took her time with me and made it a very special experience. After cleaning up my mess, she indicated she wasn't in the mood for an orgasm herself. I told her I wasn't ready for this night to be over with and we cuddled for quite awhile. This was more enjoyable than the orgasm!!! Feeling her body all over mine was like skinny dipping in the ocean, only infinitely better.

    Eventually she gave in and allowed me to please her and she shuddered hard! At that point, she was done and ready to call it a night. I ran to get the dice and made her get out of bed one more time to roll. She rolled a 4. I groaned. Unlucky. She asked how long that meant... it just so happens that's 4 weeks. She said "Is that long?" I responded "Yeah. It's more than 1, 2, or 3 weeks." I didn't bother to mention that the odds are in favor (66% chance) of a roll of 1-3 weeks. She seemed pleased with that roll. Maybe I'm lucky.

    We laid in bed for awhile... D was reading and I was just staring at the ceiling. She finally looked over at me and stated "Aren't you going to put that "thing" back on?" That obviously was not a question because of her tone & the word "thing". The last 2 times I had release she allowed me to leave it off for the night; but I ran into difficulties both nights with raging hard-ons at around 3 am. I got up, put my Guardian back on, came back to bed and drifted off to sleep before long. I slept like a log... 8 1/2 hours without waking up... can't remember when that happened last.

    5 weeks without an erection. Only 2-3 releases for cleaning / shaving. A trip away from home for 3 days where she didn't even think about bringing the key with her. Unless my resumption of running starts to cause an irritation, I think I should be able to go the next 4 weeks without using the key; that will be a new record.

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    Congrats @littleguy3 , sounds like quite the experience, best of luck on your next 4 weeks and thanks for sharing
     
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    Day 3

    As the week progressed, so did my mood. I definitely have managed to recover from the emotional distress I was feeling from the events of last Friday. By yesterday, I was positively giddy and on top of the world. I can tell I'm not experiencing any sub-drop after orgasm Wednesday night. I think the 5 week denial prevents that for me. Yesterday we had an extremely enjoyable evening over wine and later dinner. D is so much more comfortable now talking about our physical intimacy and is clearly enjoying herself in that arena.

    Yesterday morning, after cuddling together or 20-30 with no sexual stimulation, I told her that the last two times we rolled the dice and I saw 5 weeks and 4 weeks come up, I was initially very disappointed. But that the feelings that follow with enduring denial are more than worth it. I told her I enjoy being able to love her selflessly and it greatly increases my desire for her. Though she was busy getting ready to leave for work, she smiled and seemed pleased with things.

    After the day / evening we had yesterday, I so wanted to make love to her last night. But we watched a couple of TV shows while relaxing on the sofa together and by the time they were over, we were both really tired. That didn't stop us from falling asleep with a lot of physical contact, something that doesn't usually happen because one or both of us gets overheated. But she was waiting for me to wake up this morning.... D's middle name is Joy. It seems like there's a scripture verse, a song and a book that say "Joy comes in the morning".

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    #91 littleguy3, Oct 10, 2022
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    Day 5

    D allows me a very, very generous 30 minutes of cuddle time in the morning after her alarm goes off as long as she's slept well. I tentatively spooned her this morning to check her "temperature" and we stayed in that position for awhile just resting and warming up. It's cold in the mornings as we transition into colder weather. She did quite a bit of yard work yesterday while I was painting outdoors taking advantage of some nice weather before it gets too cold. I decided to give her a massage today for the first time and could tell she enjoyed it. That gives me another tool that we haven't tried in the morning previously. She finally rolled over and moved me into a position to tease me and proceeded to work on me until I couldn't take it any longer. At that point, she exclaimed "Our 30 minutes must be up". I checked and we still had 7 minutes left. I love how luxurious that half hour has become! This left me more than enough time to turn my attention to her pleasure. She gets aroused quite a bit from teasing me, hearing my moans and feeling me twitch and strain for greater sensation where it matters. So it doesn't take long once she's done teasing me to bring her to orgasm. And she's taught me how her body speaks so I know the right areas to focus on. I don't know why she passes up on that many times after teasing me. Today, she didn't stop me even though she would have if we didn't have plenty of time. Things moved along very quickly and left us with a couple of minutes just to cuddle once more and come down from her orgasm and my denied orgasms. I hope this never gets old!

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    Day 8

    Ever so gradually, D is losing her inhibitions. Nothing kinky. But not just plain vanilla. A win - win for both of us.

    I was listening to an audilble book today - Unwanted by Jay Stringer. He made it clear that we've taken the greatest gift God gave to man (Sex) and it's been tarnished as something shameful to be kept secret. I'm determined to make it something we can always talk openly about as a couple and hopefully discuss freely with our friends in a healthy, positive manner. And there is no reason to keep chastity a secret.

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    Day 10

    Yesterday morning, just after getting out of bed, I went to the bathroom while D went to get a cup of coffee. I found a pair of her painties on the bathroom floor. We agreed that any I find outside of the hamper are fair game for me to inhale the sweet scent she leaves behind. It had been a long time since she teased me in this way so I suspected she had slipped up. I quickly pocketed them in my pajama shorts. After she left for work, I texted her thanking her for the treat she left for me. She was very busy and didn't reply to me text. So later that evening, I asked her about it and she smiled, thinking it was pretty funny. She joked, "Can you imagine a woman wanting to smell a guy's underwear?"

    I woke up early this morning craving her touch, hoping she would tease me. My desires have changed dramatically over time from wanting to pleasure myself / craving orgasms to now just craving her touch. I learned that other parts of my body are erogneous zones through experimenting by touching myself and making myself more sensitive to touch in certain areas.. In my mind this morning I was begging "Please play with your toys!" She answered my prayers even more effectively than I expected! She left me a quivering, moaning, whimpering, and dripping mess! She is so affective at teasing me that I have no trouble restraining myself from self-stimulation because she is sooooo much better at it than I am. But the cage is definitely a necessity during her teasing sessions because I'd be straining to hump something seeking relief.

    Afterwards, as we hugged and kissed in the kitchen while getting coffe we had the following interchange:
    Me: "You don't realize the power you wield! After a teasing session like that, you could ask me for anything and I would get it or do it for you."
    D: "I'll have to remember that!"
    Me: "Be sure you don't forget!"
    D: "Ohhhh... you'd like me to ask you for something? (slightly astonished)"
    Me: "YES"
    D: "(Smiling) Hmmmmmm....... what..... do.... I.... want?"
    Me: "Anything!"

    I suspect completing her request will induce a significant dopamine rush in me as I recall the passion that trigggered her request. And hopefully that will keep both of us coming back for more.

    She's already asked me to take her on an outing with the grandkids tomorrow, one that I was hoping we could skip since I've spent quite a bit of time with them this week already.

    D - 3, Me - 0
     
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    D is not multi-orgasmic, at least she isn't interested in repeating the effort once she's had one. There have been only one or two days in our 43 years of marriage that she's had more than one orgasm in the same day. So when she had 6 orgasms in the first 7 days of accepting the key and starting this journey together, that was really significant for her. I just realized this post above marked 7 months to the day from our start and documented MY 6th orgasm. :+1:
     
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    I mentioned this - 6 O's in 7 days vs 6 O's in 7 months - to her over coffee this morning. D's response: "As I recall, you owe me a WHOLE lot more!"

    Yes..... I do.
     
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    Day 14

    D seems to be settling into a rythym of teasing me every other day. This morning we slept late... it was cold and dark which contributed to it. I noticed overnight that because it was so cold, she was sleeping in close contact with me until I finally got up around 3 am and turned on the heat.

    Not long after we awoke and scratched each other's backs, I asked her if I could give her a full body massage. Her reply: "we don't have enough time for that." So I asked if she was ready to get up and have coffee. To which she replied, "I know what you want. You want to be teased." I replied, "not necessarily." We cuddled for a little while longer and then she started to roll me over into position but I kept rolling to get out of bed. Her hand reached over to restrain me ever so slightly to which I complied. MAN, I love her!!! I can't believe how fortunate I am to have her.

    She teased me in a way she usually reserves for release days. I was tempted to ask if she was going to get the key out just to see what she would say, but I couldn't bring myself to verbalize it. Besides, she clearly was leaving the door open for a happy ending for her to which I happily provided her.

    D - 4, Me - 0 (I've GOT to figure out how to get her number much higher before my next release day in 2 weeks)
     
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    Day 15

    I was reading @John&Ann 's post from yesterday which started me to thinking about our journey. We are about 5 months behind them but D seems to be on a similar trajectory as Ann. She hasn't verbalized it though. I think she sees the many benefits. She likes that I can't play with myself, she likes teasing me without giving me an orgasm, she likes rolling the dice to choose when my next orgasm will be, and she likes that it's weeks and not days between O's. She loves my changed behavior. But I think she'd really like all of those benefits without the cage.

    I wonder if that would change if we went for a time without the cage. I think my device fits so snuggly that it limits the amount of pre-cum I produce. I know that would be a big turnoff for her if she was experiencing that in bed when we cuddle together or when she teases me. She loves sleeping naked together and it would be very unpleasant for her if she had to deal with the sticky oozing frequently. Would that negatively impact our dynamic and our level of physical intimacy?

    I wonder if I would be able to control myself. Not touching myself would be a real challenge. I frequently reach down to touch the cage, scratch my scrotum, adjust things, etc unconsciously now. Would I slip back into masturbation? I'm afraid the answer would be yes.

    The last few times I went uncaged for even a night were extremely difficult when I awoke at 1-3 am with a raging erection usually the night after making love with my wife. I had to use an assortment of tactics to calm things down temporarily before he sprang back to life. I didn't get much sleep and twice resorted to putting the cage back on so I could get some mental relief. Would I be able to get used to not wearing a cage after awhile, the reverse of those who struggle wearing a cage thru the night at first? Or would the lengthy denial with frequent teasing keep me always craving an orgasm?

    Or does the cage make the difference keeping me simmering throughout the days and nights? Would I have as constant a state of sexual energy without the cage even if I could control myself? Would I continue to simmer between O's as I do now just from the intimacy D and I share?

    Would D be able to deny me during one if her incredibly arousing tease sessions? I keep thinking I'm going to have a nipple orgasm one if these days but it never happens. I think even a little bit of felt stimulation to my penis head would drive me over the edge. It's easy for both of us to keep me under control with the cage on. Do we want to risk the balance of things as they are now?

    I don't know that I want to risk finding out the answer to these questions. Unless things start to change for the worse, I don't know if either of us will try to upset the apple cart. This has been too good for both of us. She may not reach the place Ann is at without trying to go without the cage. Only time will tell. At this point, I think I'll just keep my mouth closed and let our experience dictate the course we take. D will let me know if a change is necessary. I guess I just need to remind myself frequently to remain focused on pleasing her mentally, emotionally and physically and quit thinking about my caged little guy!
     
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    Day 19

    I felt like I was coming down with a cold last Wednesday night but it only lasted about 24 hours. So D kept her distance and there was no physical intimacy. Then on Friday, I got really frustrated with her while trying to share something with her over dinner. After getting no where with her in 30 minutes even though I was trying to be patient and considerate, I finally lost control of my temper and expressed my anger verbally and by stomping around the kitchen. I quickly calmed down and apologized but it took all weekend to work through the issue we were dealing with.

    How does this story affect my chastity? We agreed that if I got out of control or was caught or admitted lying to her that there would be a consequence - no physical intimacy for 1 week. We quickly realized that this would be punitive for her as well and decided to modify our plan to say "No sexual stimulation for me for 1 week". So that means Denial with no Teasing and definitely no release or orgasms. But she can continue to have as much pleasure as she desires although I suspect it will be less frequent because she gets very aroused from teasing me.

    While Tease and Denial can be frustrating at times, I find that Denial without Tease is far worse to deal with. I'm left wanting stimulation constantly. I'm counting the hours & minutes till Friday!

    When talking this over, I mentioned that I'm going to be extremely cautious not to act out when we get within one week of my release date. I could tell she hasn't been thinking about when that's coming up so she asked about it wondering if I was going to miss out due to the consequence. I told her it's a week and a half away. I don't know if she was glad or disappointed.... likely that latter.
     
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    After last week's blowup, things slowed down considerably. Only some cuddling before going to sleep and after waking up. She had some really busy days and didn't want too expend the energy to have her own orgasm.

    The lack of physical touch this week has affected me. I've noticed the desire to touch myself popping up. While driving to the store listening to an audio book on human sexuality, I reached down to touch my cage. The desire to pleasure myself was really strong. It would have been so difficult to stop myself from going further without my Guardian. I mentioned this to D later and she was really surprised and maybe a bit disappointed because she thought I was going to say I wanted her instead of wanting to masturbate. This led to an interesting conversation about doing it while driving. She didn't get mad so I think she appreciated my honesty and transparency.

    She made it five days until we both had yesterday off. Then she started to get horny without my stimulation. She was making little comments to that affect during dinner. So after a late dinner and watching some TV, we headed off to bed. As soon as she hit the sheets, i started kissing her, pulled her on top of me, and then reversed positions. I proceeded to hungrily kiss and taste her all over. She responded with no inhibitions and had a very different and pleasurable orgasm. After she calmed down and we relaxed, she allowed me to kiss her on the mouth a few times before turning out the lights with her scent still very present on my mouth. That is the first time that has ever happened and she didnt act turned off in the least. Her comments indicated she could tell how much I enjoyed that and that she could smell herself on me. I can tell she feels badly for me that I haven't been physically stimulated this past week so she's been enjoying getting me aroused in other ways. The other day, she left a pair of her panties under my watch and ring on the bathroom counter for me to find because she knows that's a tease for me!

    I guess the one thing I can say I've enjoyed about this week with no physical stimulation is seeing my wife respond and desire me without much physical touch. It feels so good to be wanted because she appreciates how she's being treated! That makes the physical intimacy so much more powerful. Usually I'm the first to fall asleep, but after turning out the lights last night, i laid by her side gently caressing her and just lightly holding her for a long time, relishing the moment and feeling the hormones coursing thru my body . How different it would have been had I orgasmed.

    It's only been 3 weeks since I was released last but it feels like an eternity. 1 more to go. I've got to be on my best behavior now because another outburst would mean skipping my next orgasm!

    D - 5, Me - 0
     
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    So wonderful to read about the good that chastity can bring to our lives. I've been lucky in having quite an active sexual life with my bf - even before chastity. But there is no doubt that what was very good before is now simply fantastic and wonderful

    Such a pleasure to hear about your journey. Thanks and keep us all informed
     
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