Your Ideal Keyholder

its a trait that goes against what is supposed to be the ideal woman so many good women do not posses it.
like most things, fantasy is just that, and should most of the time remain as such.
the women who can switch between an amazing wife and cruel mistress are the rarities that lots of us covet.

 

Yes. In Western society, at least, Woman is the icon of selfless, nurturing love. Little girls are conditioned from early in life to aspire to this ideal. A woman who is genuinely selfish and cruel (rather than "cruel to be kind) is the antithesis of this ideal and thoughts of her live in the imaginations of more men than polite society will admit.

Decades ago, I asked a good friend who made her living as a Pro Domme to take me in for a session in which she played the role of the selfish, cruel, pitiless Woman. There were no safe words. It was her role to make me scream and beg for mercy - and to not provide that mercy. (Julie, if by virtue of some one in a million chance you are reading this, I thank you again for the terror. You were a REAL sport and could not have done a better job. On that evening, you made Elizabeth Bathory blush and the Marquis de Sade take notes.) I will say that it was an experience I will never forget, an experience I never want to repeat, and an experience that I still fantasize about to this day. In other words, I had no idea what I was asking for, I was in WAY over my head as it was happening, and even though it was by far the worst pain I've ever experienced and I was terrified from the first lash, it is still hotly exciting to remember it. What IS it about the male libido that thrives on this paradox?

So, are there really very many men who answer to the purely selfish and cruel Woman in real time and not by virtue of controllable role play or fantasy fulfillment? If so, what is that like? Are there any women here who ARE the selfish and cruel Woman? If so, what makes YOU tick? What makes your sub tick?

Curious Minds ...

Jamie

 

You just made me VERY curious what happened in that session.

 

Your life partner provided all else is well with you both
AND
she is interested in you both exploring the role of her being key holder

 

Ideally, my keyholder would be British and a few years younger than me. I would deeply admire her and she'd be the one I love. I would therefore find her extremely attractive and beautiful and impressive. She'd probably scare me a little bit too.

 

You can drop to your knees. Just say you are praying . Lol

 

My fantasy KH would be my wife, but in and after conversation with my current excellent Holder as to, in my Holder's words, "enjoy me more".

 

Before starting on this path, I used to fantasize about other women, but now I just fantasize that my wife would assert herself a bit more. So maybe my wife how she might be at some point in the future is my ideal? While we are fantasizing, we'll give her a flat tummy and a perfect ass. But honestly, at the moment I only fantasize about her taking command of me, and demonstrating that command for some of her friends.

 

Like Emma Peel for example! Now I know she's in her 70's now (and still attractive), but she wasn't in the 1960's. Ooo, sends a shiver down the old spine!!!

 

Morticia Addams
Ann-Margaret

 

Have to admit I also found her very hot at the time.
As were quite a few others ...

Some do say what ever type of person you first 'get into', hair, looks, figure, clothing type, even personality etc and of their age at the time remains a favourite for life for a lot of guys.

Some aspects of attraction do remain the same or similar I suppose. I could not tell you if its the same for women.... I tend towards doubting that but who knows.

 

My fantasy KH would be Geena Davis.

I think anyone who has seen the film "The long kiss goodnight" will understand

 

I know!!!!

 

My wife is naturally dominant, delightfully sadistic, and a great keyholder, and I can't really see how chastity would work for me with someone I'm not connected to and subservient to in the first place. Chastity fits within our overall framework of her being sexually satisfied while I am denied, rejected, and humiliated. So, again, my wife is very much my ideal keyholder... even if I sometimes think there are opportunities for her to do more.

That said, there is one women in particular -- a younger friend of my wife's who is quite pretty and has shown some tendency toward dominance over me, e.g., making flirtatious threats to hit me with her riding crop -- whom I wouldn't mind my wife sharing the key with on occasion.

 

I can't imagine anyone I would rather have control of the keys to my device, than the one who has them, my most precious wife...

 

Perfection at its finest. That’s the way it should be for everyone.

 

You naughty boy! I would say you need a good hiding, but you'd probably enjoy it!

 

The one I am with.

Exactly as she is.

 

OK I get that the real answer is our wives or KH's, but have a little fun with it. I cam back because I thought of another. I was a comic book geek as a kid and I loved the Avengers. Anyone remember Tigra? She's the new number one fantasy KH for PPL.