Your best tips for ensuring a perfectly ruined orgasm?

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    #1 chasteta, Apr 17, 2018
    A recent thread about ejaculating quickly made me think of this - I'd post a question in there but I'd rather not hijack it and derail the intended discussion.

    After more than 5 days to a week of denial, it doesn't take much to bring me to orgasm. That would be fine and well and all but my KH does enjoy PIV. We have a strapon I've used but she sometimes wants the real thing, and I want the ability to perform without my sensitivity getting in the way.

    There are several options available I'm aware of for addressing this but I want to focus specifically on ruined orgasms. They've always been sort of a mystery to me personally to get right.

    Specifically I've noticed:

    If ruined properly I do not "spurt" at all. It's much more like a continuous dribble. I remain completely erect and aroused. Swallowing my ejaculate, which normally I cannot bring myself to do, is very appealing and I love the taste and texture. Most importantly there is no post-orgasm dropout. It feels nice but nowhere as strong as an orgasm. I'm able to continue afterward and could have another ruined orgasm or a full O, but I am not so sensitive anymore that it would happen in seconds. So my stamina has increased.

    Then there's an improperly ruined orgasm which I guess I'll just call a bad orgasm. If I have a bad orgasm I will spurt ejaculate but it's much weaker than a full O and I don't ejaculate as much. It's not nearly as pleasurable as a full orgasm but I do still get the post-orgasm dropout and loss of libido. I want to avoid these at all costs as they seem like such as waste of sexual energy. I have a normal refractory period after. My KH does not like when these happen either. I would rather have no sort of orgasm whatsoever than these.

    We've used a ruined orgasm successfully before to increase my stamina before PIV. This way I can perform as normal and with much less risk of having an accidental orgasm. Unfortunately just as often we end up with a bad orgasm and I'm unable to perform (and am no longer very interested in) PIV. :/

    I'm looking for any and all advice about how you have been able to find the way to consistently produce a ruined orgasm. The edge and let go method is all I've been using and it seems to be inconsistent. Sometimes I'll edge 5 or 10 times and ruin perfectly, sometimes the exact same process gives me a bad orgasm. Tips? Tricks?
     
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    #2 LesterBallard, Apr 17, 2018
    Yes, I agree that, for me, the best ruined orgasm is when it comes out in a slow dribble, rather than spurting. Spurting suggests some form of ejaculation, however weakened. The slow dribble is intensely frustrating. It's hard to time it right.
     
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    #3 Sexy Slave 69, Apr 17, 2018
    Yes I have had post orgasm blues and are keen to learn more about avoiding it. My keyholder doesn't like it at all
     
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    #4 LockedPom, Apr 18, 2018
    Feedback/communication and KH watching the signs of impending orgasm help. There is minimal margin for error, so expecting a perfect ruined orgasm every time is not realistic.
     
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    #5 chasteta, Apr 18, 2018
    Yeah realistically I think that's ubderstandable. I'm just close to 50/50 right now and being able to get to 90/10 even would be awesome.
     
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    #6 Breathe, Apr 24, 2018
    Sound advice! It truly is a microscopic line to skirt. I've been successful by watching him like a hawk and picking up on his microexpressions.

    I know the feeling. For Me, I've been wanting to rack them up after I get a successful one... Most I've gotten so far in succession is three, but it's always that last one that 'gets' Me! Just one stroke too many.

    Perhaps I should be satisfied with administering just one ruined orgasm, but ... I know Me. And I'm not. :rolleyes:
     
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    #7 latexbound, Apr 24, 2018
    Aren't the terms "perfectly" and "ruined" never supposed to co-exist in a sentence? LOL
     
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    #8 Breathe, Apr 24, 2018
    It appears most of us around here are fans of 'oxymorons' such as this. ;)
     
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    #9 jemima, Apr 24, 2018
    well if youm milked it always comes out like a dribble. it never ever spurt.
     
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    #10 Truly Tasty, Apr 24, 2018
    My KH lets me edge myself when she feels I deserved it, I find that because of this when she does want "the real thing" I have the ability to get inside her so she can orgasm because I have so much practice at edging with out ejaculating. I am then required to lock myself back up
     
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