Hi guys, Just have a quick question. My locked boy (@Thatguyontheinternet) and i Have finally been seriously discussing getting him a PA piercing. We were thinking of starting at a 10 gauge and then of course stretching to the minimum of 8 gauge once it heals so he can wear a PA cage. My question is this: I honestly prefer the look of a barbell piercing as opposed to a captive bead ring - If i get him pierced with a barbell, would he still be able to wear his MM JB as he heals, or would he need to remain cage free? Thanks in advance!
There are several issues: Can you maintain hygiene during the initial healing? Can you avoid putting stress on the jewelry during the healing? I tend to say that it is not worth it to game either of these issues. But, if his cage fits well such that you can handle these issues, you might be okay. Also, I would suggest that 8 gauge is too small a gauge for a chastity anchor. The optimal is 4 gauge. My PA is 2 gauge, and my device uses a 4 locking post. I began with 10 gauge stretched to 8 gauge at the initial piercing. It took about 9 months to heal and then stretch up to 2 gauge.
Let me also point out that the piercing will be tender for at least a few weeks. Being in a cage during that period strikes me as torturous, and not in a good way.
I would definitely not make him wear it if he was hurting, i just wanted to know if he could just wear the barbell once he is not so tender.
from my immediate experience, being caged would have been a bad idea. A cage will really interfere with the after care. Even if there is no pain, the irritation will only serve to prolong the healing process. I do daily soaks and at the minimum, attempting a soak with a cage on will be a real pain in the ass.
PA heals relatively quickly. But it remains sensitive for sone time. It can start to bleed with even small disturbance. I got mine almost 20 years ago. And 5 years ago I 'upgraded' it to apadravya. But I'm not using mine for chastity.
I got pierced at 6ga after lengthy discussions with my piercer about the pros and cons of stretching. I let him know that I intended to go to 4ga and his advice was to skip most of the stretching and start at 6ga. He reasoned that though the intial healing time would be marginally longer, I'd be able to stretch to my goal sooner. He also warned that the actual piercing would be slightly more painful with the 6ga but as it is tnhe first time I've been pierced, I didn't really have anything to compare it to... 2 days of minor bleeding with minor pain followed by 4 weeks of tenderness and a further 2 weeks of "settling time" and I'm already trialling my 5b for short periods. I went with a 2 ball ring for my jewelry as a captive bead ring requires special tools to remove. With the ring I have, the jewelry can be easily removed and replaced with the 5b quite quickly. I wouldn't recommend using a cage for at least 4 weeks after piercing. His johnson will be so tender for most of that time and any form of play will most likely cause him at least mild discomfort so I don't think you need to worry about him relieving himself...
First of all, I want to commend you for taking this step ma'am. With a piercing, he will be 100% secure and you will have complete control! All I know about the PA is that if you can tug on the jewelry and there is no sensitivity, then it's fully healed, it can take up to a couple months, but it'll be worth it for your peace of mind. No matter how much your bf wants to obey you, he's going to give in to temptation once in a while, the piercing will eliminate that possibility entirely. In my opinion, male chastity only works when the man has no way out, that's when it's no longer a game and real submission to her is required. Which chastity device did you have in mind?
The reason why we are most likely going to go this route is because he discovered yesterday while in the shower, that his cage almost slipped off entirely, so now he has the long punishment pin in. We were thinking of going with @TitaniumChastiTi since the build times are similar, and just selling his JB to fund it.
Definitely agree that a pa can be quite sensitive for long time . It's one of the reasons you get a pa is for increased sexual feeling. Xx Wendy
It is a big step, but it makes the whole thing real. The fact that you cannot slip out or remove the device without discovery is very humbling. I speak of this personally.