Women's Clothes Shopping While Chaste

We're new to chastity and recently switched to a metal device that's tight and I've yet been able to slip out. Being young with a high sex drive and not having had a release for the past 2 weeks, my wife decided to take me clothes shopping this past weekend for the first time since being locked in chastity. Not clothes shopping for me, but for her. I was to follow her into stores, watch her try stuff on, pay, and carry her bags. We ended up going to several high end female clothing stores where I was literally the only man there, surrounded by some of the most beautiful and sexiest women I've ever seen. While in one store, I saw a beautiful young blonde woman step out of the dressing room wearing a tight and low cut dress, it was extremely sexy and elegant all at the same time. She paired it with a brown pair of strappy gladiator sandals, giving me a view of her immaculate toes. She looked absolutely stunning, high class, and I can tell she was a highly educated working professional from the manner in which she was speaking to the other woman she was with. Needless to say, I began to strain in my cage, but with no where to go, my erection soon subsided. I began to actually pay close attention to her choice in clothing and how it went with the color of her hair, wondering what she's like as a person and where she was planning to wear it to, a party perhaps, things I used to never do before chastity. Before chastity, I would've simply dismissed this woman as a dumb slut that was only good for satisfying my carnal desires. Chastity changed all of that. My strong sexual desire for this woman coupled with the length of time I had been chaste and the inability to masturbate created a condition that forced me to view this woman as she had rightfully deserved to be viewed. I found myself admiring her beauty and several other of her characteristics and felt an ever growing sense of respect for her. It was then that it hit me as I quickly came to the realization that I would never be able to masturbate to what I had just seen no matter how badly I wanted and that I would have to learn how to live with seeing beautiful women dressed sexy while and only being allowed to view and admire them. It was sort of an epiphany for me and I feel as though chastity is forcing me to grow as an individual like never before. I wanted to share this insight into the chaste male mind that perhaps some women practicing male chastity may have never heard before. Chastity, it would seem, is not merely a sexual desire or even a lifestyle, it can and usually evolves to a complete change in mindset of human sexuality and how it positively impacts not just how we view our keyholder, but how we view and interact with all women in society. I'd be interested in hearing what others thought about all of this.

 

Yes, this is absolutely what I was referring to. I don't cross dress or have any interest in doing so, but because I'm a young man who's very horny almost all the time now and can't relieve any of it through sex or masturbation, I'm forced to admire a beautiful woman in the only way that's possible now (her clothing, hair, shoes, accessories, pedicure, etc). Even women that I normally would've never asked out have become much more physically attractive in my eyes, with certain traits of theirs that were once easily overlooked becoming the center of my attention. It's really ironic because I would've thought that being denied the freedom to masturbate for weeks would cause me to be so horny that I would sexually objectify and disrespect women in my mind and manners much more so than even before, but the absolute complete opposite has occurred. I think once I realized that fighting with my chastity device and whining to my keyholder wasn't getting me anywhere, I was forced to accept my situation. This then led to a complete positive change in my mindset towards women and female sexuality that is not even under my control, it's more of a psychological reaction to chastity that is now with me no matter what. While there are moments where I truly wish I can masturbate so badly to this woman that I had seen, I've now found that much of the mental sexual fantasizing I would have done in the past in such a situation has been replaced by thoughts of her clothing, shoes, hair, makeup, job, personality, etc. I find myself respect info this woman so much that I feel guilty even fathoming the thought of masturbating to that lovely sight of her that she graciously allowed me to view. That sense of respect that I quickly developed for this women would've never been possible if I were allowed to freely masturbate away every sexual urge I ever felt. This is the biggest impact that chastity has had on me, this once macho chauvinist who sexually demeaned women has been completely humbled and now respects and admires women more than ever before.

 

There was something so humbling about being forced to abruptly stop watching an exciting sports game on television and forced to watch beautiful women try on sexy clothes while very horny and with absolutely no hope for relief through sex or masturbation. I think if you pay close attention while out shopping with your KH, you will find yourself focusing all that pent up sexual energy energy on admiring the many beautiful characteristics of the women you observe without even trying. Since maturation isn't an option and you can't do anything to relieve the sexual desire you feel, your mind will take you places you may have never thought it would go rather than stay fixated on sexual fantasies that wouldn't do you any good anyway.

 

Chastity has been instrumental in curtailing my sexual objectification of women while dramatically increasing my sense of respect and admiration of women. Irregardless of what she's wearing, that sense of respect and admiration remains the same. The burden to behave and be a "good boy" is totally on me no matter how horny I am or what type of clothing a women choose to wear.

 

Thank you Mistress B. I have been caged off and on since August of this year and my wife has now had me consistently locked up for the past 2 months or so with about 2 to 3 releases every month. It wasn't hard to convince her once she saw my attitude change while chaste. I'm young and have a very high sex drive, so chastity has not been easy for me, even though I'm the one who initially asked for it. We have had issues with my whining initially, which she found hard to deal with since she's very vanilla in nature, hence the off and on situation. I do love the effect that chastity has had on me though, especially my view and treatment of women. I learned that the way a woman dresses and acts is absolutely 100% no excuse for my past objectification of women and masturbatory practices behind my wife's back. I have read some of your posts and have come to really respect your insights and strictness when it comes to chastity, which I think is an absolute must, something I wish my wife has more of. I look forward to learning from someone as experienced and knowledgeable in this area as you are. Thank you again for the compliment Mistress B, I'm virtually bowing in your presence out of respect.

 

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Thank you Amanda! I am absolutely honored to hear you say that! I never imagined that male chastity would have this sort of effect on me. Until recently, I really had no idea how damaging to society it was to allow men to frequently ejaculate/orgasm through sex and masturbation. It causes men to sexually objectify women and take them for granted, unfairly burdens women with feeling that they need to somehow abstain from dressing or acting sexy, and robs women of the full respect and admiration from men that they deserve. Once again, thank you Amanda! I am so honored by this comment, especially coming from such a beautiful and intelligent woman for whom I have recently come to gain such a tremendous amount of respect for her knowledge and expertise in the male chastity lifestyle.

 

I can't speak for all men, but I believe that a man's sexual desire facilitates his view and interaction with women in society. Think about it, aren't men nicer and more polite to women when they're sexually attracted to them? Aren't men also much more sexually attracted to a larger variety of women (less attractive, overweight, etc) when they're really horny? Don't the sexy clothes that women buy and wear to look and feel great have a bigger impact on men who are horny and haven't masturbated? I think that when we men diminish our sexual desire by way of frequent ejaculations/orgasm through sex and masturbation, we begin to take women for granted. Subconsciously in the mind of many of these men, women become first and foremost a sexual object to satisfy their lust. I know that this is what happened to me and I'm sure there are many men who, like me, would benefit greatly from male chastity. I have a high sex drive and a tendency to revert to my old bad habits, so a locked device is a must because it forces me to remain chaste and reap the benefits that come along with that. It's not that chastity made me respect women, it's that masturbation was, to a large degree, causing me to disrespect women or to word it better, it denied me the ability to realize the full potential of respect I can have for women and chastity woke me up to that realization. I especially had a problem with respecting and taking orders from women I felt sexually attracted to, even if they were doctors or lawyers, almost as if to place the burden on them. Male chastity forced me to learn how to respect and admire all the qualities of a woman even while I am in a very horny state and regardless of how sexy the woman is dressed. That has really been life changing for me.

 

It's not an accusation, it's just my opinion from my personal experience. I think men subconsciously respect women more when chaste. Why am I not allowed to express that opinion without being personally attacked, insulted, and called narrow-minded by people like you? If you don't like my opinion, just block me, but stop trying to censor what I have to say and twist my words simply because you disagree with me. Have you ever heard of respectfully disagreeing with someone? If you aren't masturbating anyway, why do you feel so threatened by my opinion?

 

You take what I say personal and think that I'm talking about you, news flash, I wasn't talking to you, I don't know you and I don't want to know you. I though CM was a safe place to express my views on male chastity without judgment or ridicule from others, I guess I was wrong. I misunderstood how mean people can be on the Internet regardless of the site. It's bullies like you that make me feel unwelcomed and want to discontinue my membership here.

 

Well, you're acting like a rude, belligerent jerk right now, so yeah, I'd say I was right. Maybe you should stop masturbating, it might do your manners some good.