Wives and Girlfriends.

Hi

The solution to chastity is NOT cross dressing or anything else.

Why the two seem to be linked in terms that you could put definit numbers or statements to ,I nore have I read any of plausible explanations.
However in a lot of cases it just happens.
As far as leaking just wear what ever you want pants knickers shorts swimming trunks . Just anything that is easy to wash comfortable to sleep in and keep tissue paper or a pad in place.

Why so many folk end up at the mansion is because we are such a broad church . Unlike some sites where it seems one if about 5 words has to appear in a post or its off topic .

So we encourage members to post on any topic that we feel will interest members.
Some sections are under represented such as gay sub dom relationships , just for instance.

However other groups seem to find CM a good place to chill out .

Xx Wendy

 

After finding the Mansion and discovering a lot of useful information, I naturally tried to get my GF/KH @MissBritt to join thinking she could benefit too. After some convicing she enventually joined and even made a few threads asking for advice from other more experienced keyholders. While she did get some good general advice, she said it would help her more if she could just have a one on one conversation with some of the other women here. She is very shy around New people, so it took her a lot of time and effort to build up the courage to try and reach out to another keyholder. After one or two short replies she never heard back from her and basically got ignored. One the other hand almost every time she logs in, which isn't much anymore, she's bombarded by fellows asking her to be their virtual long distance keyholder. Between the rejection and the nagging she prefers to just lurk occasionally from time to time when I notice something interesting she might want to read. So a keyholder section only might be beneficial. Just my two cents.

Also if any outgoing keyholders here would like to conversate with her and become someone she can talk to about this kind of lifestyle, I know she would appreciate it.

 

That must be very annoying. Does this happen to many women users of the site?

 

It's very much a part of the site yes. A hideous fact.

 

One tip is to have a nickname that doesn't include the words : Miss Ms Mistress or Goddess

 

"We"?
Chastity Mansion encourages people to post threads relating to chastity.

 

MascaraSnake - why so are such communications not prohibited then? This is spam no?

If you want to be contacted by such people, than maybe a separate and permanent part of the site where you list yourself as open to it.

I read this conversation as trying to understand why people (I guess a bit like me, interested but not lifestyle) aren't here as much. What I mentioned about CrossDressing is no where near as serious as women coming on to the site and getting the equivalent of 'dickpicks'.

 

I've been paying close attention to this thread because it is very relevant to my situation, and I figured I'd throw in my two cents for what it's worth.

I'd describe us as a relatively vanilla couple for CM. My wife keeps me locked and we enjoy ropes and restraints, but neither of us are into humiliation, sissification or the like. I signed up for CM a few years ago when I fist started to experiment with chastity. I know she checked out the site because she asked if I was into cross dressing. I'm going to have to make an assumption here, but I think she ultimately decided not to join because the site didn't seem relevant to her. The gap between where we were at the time and the typical content on CM was too wide.

One of the things I like about CM is the wide range of kink and acceptance. I wish my KH would join, but I don't see it happening right now. I think too little of the content/discussion is relevant to her, there would be too much clutter. However I do keep suggesting she joins, maybe one day she will.

 

I just thought i would give my thoughts on CM first I think it is a very very good run website and and I think that the moderates should be happy with the job that they do.
My only problem I have is that for new comers' it is very heavy going trying to find the small bit of information that is relevant to you and you reading about things that are were totally foreign to you maybe a few weeks before that. And on top of that you are still trying to come to terms with what you or your partner want you to try.
just my 2cents.
P.S sorry to read that members are receiving unwanted e-mails.

 

Agreed, but the volume of information on this site is by leaps and bounds the best on the 'net

 

Spider, have you tried using the sites search facility?
A few key words in the search bar or a more comprehensive search might save you a lot of time.

With regard to reporting unwanted advances or written abuse, that opens up a whole new can of worms. You could find yourself and the offender being investigated in depth and exposed to and discussed by several people. The whole thing might get blown out of proportion. Which is worse than the original unwanted approach.@maid_carrie ......

 

Are you saying its not a good idea to report abuse? The 2 hours worth of edits to complete the post show you gave it a great deal of thought. What should members do about abuse?

 

Members should report abuse. That's clear. But only if it is actually abuse. If it's just personality tittle tattle as it in some cases recently, then that is a different issue all together.

 

Nonetheless it's a fact that female members are reluctant to report abuse because of the potential fuss it will create. Whether or not you agree with it, that is a fact.

 

I Just posted on this thread quoting Mascara snakes post. I asked the question what should should members do about abuse? My post has been removed and Mascara snake came in to mini chat and threatend me.,
My post would have been above subverity's

 

Your post was removed and reported since it was a deliberate attempt to derail the thread and make a public scene.

 

In what way is asking a question about what members should do about abuse making a public scene?

 

Not at all jasmic.

 

It's likely that it would have been moderated by one of us regardless Lockit. I thought your post was out of order, and I might easily have removed it myself. I think this sort of posting does nothing for Chastity Mansion or it's members and I believe it would be a good for all of us if a. wasn't conducted in the open forum and b. didn't happen at all.

 

I would be most obliged if you could point out in which part of my comment on this thread, where I said, I wanted to censor anyone or anything.

My main point in the comment was to answer the OP's original question.

The Mansion has always embraced everyone with an interest in chastity, and all the little add-ons that go with it. I sincerely hope that this will always be the case.
I am not opposed to having a section devoted to the more vanilla side of chastity and I hope that if it appears, it will prove popular.

You seem intent on disagreeing with anything I say.

 

I asked a question how members should deal with abuse. the post was removed and then @:subverity answered the question.
If you answered the question why was it removed?

 

Well I thought you were being facetious. Obviously someone else did too. Actually I dont think CM needs that kind of posting, and I might delete such posts in future - depending on future advice from Admin on the matter.

 

Actually - I'm locking this thread. It's gone far enough.

If Jens wants to unlock it again then of course he can do.

No more posting here, from Mods or anyone except Jens.