Hi, We are in a bit of a downturn in our FLR right now for a variety of reasons. Ever since we started with female dominance, I have really discovered that I have an intense fetish for my wife's orgasms (if there is such a thing!). She is very aware that I would pleasure her in any way and as many times as she wishes. She can't climax through missionary sex without a vibrator. That was our main sex activity prior to exploring an FLR. I have never minded this but we don't do that much anymore. Now, most of the times she climaxes through me "playing with her" and if I orgasm, it is after she is satisfied. Most often it is through me using various vibes on her. She seems to like it best when I apply the vibe to her clit and I stimulate her G-spot with my fingers - no cock stimulation. We do that at least once per session. Next most common is cunnilingus. However, she does not always climax that way, and sometimes she tells me to stop and then we go to the vibrator technique. I also bring her to orgasms by fingering her clit, which works just about every time. She can have some INTENSE climaxes through the woman on top position. This is by far my favorite: I can't come that way (I have super endurance); I love the sensations; I love watching her ride me; the focus is on her getting off, and I am sort of just a human dildo; and when she does come, it is intense. I am pretty sure that her best orgasms are through the cowgirl position. In all other activities, if it's "not happening", it's no big deal and we just default to me fingering her and applying the vibe to her clit. But with woman on top, if she doesn't climax, the session is as good as over. She has even cried, she's so upset if she doesn't get off. She won't let me do anything to her - she is done. She usually "allows" me to finish off in the missionary (I don't think she has denied me, but that would be OK also!), which usually only takes a half minute or so because I am so turned on by that point. It truly sucks for me because she just wants me to get off her and she is just not into it at all. Finally: my question. I can't relate to this at all. Can the ladies explain this to me? Why is it so traumatic that she fails to climax when she is on top? My attitude has always been that sex is "adult play time" and sometimes the game doesn't work out as you expect, but you grin, laugh about it and finish off with us both being "winners". For reasons I can't explain, the rules are totally different for this one act. She rarely does it for this reason. It seems that it is a "high risk/high reward" activity. Things can be fantastic or terrible. Can anyone suggest why she does this? Is there anything I can do to help move the odds closer for her climax?