Wife seeks a key holder for me!

Discussion in 'Personal ads - Looking for a keyholder or sub?' started by JamesAll10, Aug 11, 2014.

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What permanent or semi permanent item should she add to me?

  1. Piercing under balls

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  2. Bikini bottom tan lines

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  3. Tattoo above penis

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  4. Piercing on penis

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    Hello!
    My wife and I have done this before and we enjoyed it. We are a very happily married couple, love spending time with one another but when it comes to chastity and tasks she is just not into it. My wife doesn't enjoy normal sex so she has little use for me. Vibrators and oral are her items of choice.

    We have tried chastity just the two of us but she gets bored, gives up the key easily and gets stressed. If it's for a day, great, but after that she loses interest. She also does not have a very controlling personality.

    Well I'm not sure if she loses interest or if she's just too nice. She doesn't like to hurt me or put me in any discomfort. HOWEVER... She's does laugh when I do it to myself or someone else does it to me.

    Okay, enough about us. We are seeking a Key Holder for me. We have done this in the past and she's enjoyed having very minimal involvement but watching what things I had to do or the lengths I would go to in order to follow orders. We have agreed to allow almost anything, including adding someone else's name or saying to a dog tag so that is what she and I both see when my chastity is on display.

    We don't care about gender for the Key Holder, just that they are creative and reasonable. We look forward to hearing from you!
     
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    Tattoo above penis and piercing on penis, both are good ideas
    Tattoo is more permanent, piercing can be removed, even cage can be removed
    So to announce her ownership, my wife has tattooed her name on my forearm
    It has a great mental impact, at least on me!
     
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    I'll hold your key, but I think you should torment yourself first.

    Get a shoebox, put the key on a piece of string so you can suspend it in the center of the box (inside a small baggie or you'll never use it again...). Fill the box with expanding spray foam.

    Every day nip off a single piece of the box with a cigar cutter. If you can make it long enough to reach the key, PM me and you can send me your key. Keep track of the days until then.
     
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    I love the tattoo idea, hidden but daily reminder but I don't think my wife is a fan. Trying to think of what she would want tattooed that might convince her. Kink and play aren't really her thing. Hence the reason we are looking for a Keyholder!!! Ha
     
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    At the risk of repeating previous posts because I do not assume that everyone reads every post on this website, your wife sounds like mine. Oral and vibrators only so she could care less about my penis. If I start getting annoying about my need for an orgasm, she tells me to unlock and takes care of me. She does not want the work associated with being a KH. She gives me the key and just tells me to lock up until she tells me otherwise. It works for us because I simply do not unlock myself without her permission.

    I can understand if there is a D/s thing going on and the key has symbolic meaning. In that case maybe one of the online KH services may work for you. I do not know how bringing in another KH will work out as far as being in sync with your wife's wishes. What if she wants you unlocked and your KH wants you locked or vice versa?
     
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    That wouldn't work for us. We definitely enjoy the not having access to unlock aspect.

    My wife would never disagree with my Keyholder when I was or was not locked. She might disapprove of a task I'm made to do but that's it.

    She definitely was shocked and surprised when she finally saw the thong bikini tan lines I was ordered to get that will be around for months to come.
     
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    Why not? Best would be F with sex life elsewhere of her own, but 3rd party KH is an ace idea!
     
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    Maybe it is because I would not tolerate another man telling my wife what to do, that I cannot understand why a wife would be OK with another women telling her husband what to do. Then again, I do not understand a lot of things people in this forum do but I like them anyway. I do not have to understand to be OK with whatever someone does but as someone who minored in psychology, I like to find out the "why" of things we humans do.
     
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    It offloads some of the responsibility when one partner isn't as into the kinky stuff as the other person.

    Plus, there's a difference between having sex and merely directing someone's behavior.
     
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    Hiya
    Tan lines are lovely bottom nice think you should get the top to go with it and definitely post the photos.

    The piercing should be the one behind your balls and nice place for a dog tag . Especially if you can go naked below the waist around the house so it jingles .

    Xx Wendy
     
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    That's got to be the way for you then. Any offers yet? BTW it might help if you said where you are geographically. Or are you considering cyber?
     
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    Well we are located in Boston, MA. The wife would hate the top tan lines but she does enjoy the bottom ones. We have been talking with multiple people but so far the two that seemed the most serious disappeared unfortunately. We would be happy to use Carlilock or Emmalock.

    By the way, we love your shock collar. We have the same set up except I drilled holes in a chastity ring and it connects through that. Lovely device, my wife just never uses it.
     
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    Hi

    I am Mistress Alex, and my sub is John.

    We play a bunch of bdsm games, however chastity is quite new to our playroom.

    As in your case my husband is also very convincing when he had enough of his cage.
    So I have decided that I am going to find a reliable person or Kh that I can mail the keys too.

    And allow other people to mail their keys to me, with some basic rules.

    Ideally its a couple that I can confirm by skype or phone that it is a couple.
    But if its a single person, i will also be the Kh.
    Video confirmation that its locked and mailed.
    Always more than one key is separate envelopes, in case one is lost in the mail.
    Never in the same country due to one bad experience.

    So if you are still looking we might be able to turn it into a solution.

    Regards

    Mistress Alex


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    Best wishes.Got to be a great way to go. You have a 3rd party KH for hubby, so he's no way out; and you BE a 3rd party KH for others.

    BTW if keys are sent in mail make sure they're in padded or jiffy bag or they may cause envelope to tear and keys get lost!
     
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    Hi Mistress Alex,
    My wife is not looking to be involved. She wants someone else to own me basically and control my lock. She said she's not interested in being a kh. More or less she is looking to say constantly- "sorry, I have no way of unlocking you but you better please them since they control you"
     
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    Sounds good to me. Or as a variation your KH (when you get one) lock you, then put keys in lockbox, then give your wife the lockbox key. Especially if it's to be a single KH.
     
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    Ill hold keys. Weekly assignments begin the day i get the keys and proof of completion would be required each week.The more quickly you complete all assignments the quicker you are released.I am located Mid Florida USA
     
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    Sorry it has taken a little while to reply! Do you use Emlalock? We are interested.
     
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    Hi

    If you are a couple let me know you are a couple let me know you skype details and we will make this work/.

    Regards

    Mistress Alex
     
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    Sorry I am not a couple and I do not have/use skype. But I like your idea, and I'm sure it could be made to work. Good hunting and fingers crossed!
     
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    #21 MistressL, Oct 20, 2014
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    "We are a very happily married couple, love spending time with one another but when it comes to chastity and tasks she is just not into it. My wife doesn't enjoy normal sex so she has little use for me. Vibrators and oral are her items of choice."

    This is similar to our relationship.
     
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    But
    But other woman needn't be telling him what to do. She only needs to tell him what NOT to do, aned to make sure he can't! If she's the right perpective she won't want him sexually for herself. Her prime remit will be to ensure he doesn't get any: whether with his wife (who doesn't want it anyway) or anyone else.
     
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    But
    But other woman needn't be telling him what to do. She only needs to tell him what NOT to do, and to make sure he can't! If she's the right perpective she won't want him sexually for herself. Her prime remit will be to ensure he doesn't get any: whether with his wife (who doesn't want it anyway) or anyone els.
     
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    @Joroincharge , wow thats harsh! lol Are you one of those who feel there is no good reason for a man to cum? :eek:
     
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    #25 Joroincharge, Oct 20, 2014
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    One man in particular - YES!. And he doesn't.
    Others: not my decision. All depends on the individual. If it's what the OP's wife wants, why not? It's clearly what OP envisages as well - his wife (who doesn't want sex at all) can then also know he's not 'playing away' if he's got the right KH. And if she wants to be doubly sure, KH can have the cb key in a lockbox, and wife the key to the lockbox.
     
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