Wife likes denying my orgasms now

Last night my wife and I were playing and as she was reaching climax, I started feeling like I was about to orgasm in my cage. She could tell by the way I was bucking my hips and breathing hard that I was about to orgasm and she did something that took me by surprise.

She grabbed my balls firmly and pulled enough to make me stop bucking, and said "No, sir!". I kept rubbing her and as she started getting close again I couldn't help myself and started bucking again and she did the same thing. She grabbed my balls and said "No, sir!" a little louder and firmer.

We kept going and kept my hips still and she ended up cumming twice and we fell asleep. It was great, but she has never tried to prevent me from orgasming. I was really surprised. Considering how infrequent caged orgasms can be, it was kind of hard to obey her. I haven't came in months I though she would let me since I was caged and in the past she has let me.

She had mentioned a couple of weeks ago that she likes that there's no ejaculation to clean up anymore, and maybe that's why she forbid me to orgasm. I didn't discuss it with her yet.

 

Last night was a little different in a good way. I did something yesterday that I rarely do, I unlocked while doing some yard work due to comfort reasons. It was also my oldest daughter's birthday so I was super busy with all of the birthday stuff. Then my wife's brother hung around till almost 11:00. I wasn't exactly angry at him for hanging around so long, as I do enjoy conversing with him, but I really wanted time with my wife and he was monopolizing our evening.

Anyway, between the birthday stuff and my brother in law, I never got around to locking back up. At about 11:00 my wife and I finally got into bed. My wife could tell I was agitated and asked what was wrong. I told her I had really wanted time with her but now it was getting very late. She said that we should set a timer and just play for a little bit.

I started the stopwatch on my wristwatch and we started fooling around. Eventually her hands wandered into my shorts and she discovered that I was freerange. She was nervous about it at first and asked why I was unlocked. I explained about the yard work and all the other stuff. I said I didn't want any mess from ejaculation to clean up, so just don't get me too close to orgasm and I would be happy. This made her feel better, as she knew that if I wasn't wanting to orgasm I wouldn't be wanting intercourse.

With pressure of intercourse off of her, she felt okay with knowing I had an erection and we kept playing. She found that she actually found playing with my erection fun, because she could tease me in new ways that she couldn't when I'm locked. She seemed particularly fond of rubbing my glans against her clit and vagina, reminding me of what I couldn't have. This drove her absolutely wild, she was getting wetter than usual and she reached orgasm much faster than usual as I was fingering her clit.

She had a great orgasm, and even told me so. She cuddled up next to me and said her orgasm was one of the best she ever had, but wondered if I was okay not getting one. I said I could tell it was good because it felt good for me, too. She asked what I meant. I told her that I felt her orgasms in a sort of way and it's why I love getting her to climax. It's the best part of sex for me. She was surprised and said felt absolutely nothing when I used to orgasm. She gave me a passionate kiss, looked me in the eyes and smiled, then rolled onto her side and had me spoon with her as we drifted off to sleep.

I think we found something new that my wife likes. We'll see how things progress, but I have a feeling I'll probably be having the cage off during play more often.

 

Oh, and I have to say it was really exciting to get to have an erection again. It felt great! I had to lock back up this morning right away because I was really starting to enjoy getting erect again and wanted to touch it and play with it. I will definitely have to exercise some self control if my wife ends up letting me loose more in the future.

 

It's not about dominance or submission for us. Chastity is something I do for her, not something she does to me. In effect I actually am in control of it all, but that's the way she wants it. She doesn't want to be in charge of it.

Chastity for us is about me not having intercourse or ejaculating. She hates intercourse, and really doesn't like the mess or smell of semen. If you're bored or have insomnia some night, you can check back through my posts and read about our history. Basically, since I agreed to forego intercourse for her sake, she doesn't feel there is any reason for me to orgasm or ejaculate anymore because in her mind those activities are inseparable from intercourse.

All of this is completely voluntary on my part. I do it because I love her and our sex life has improved beyond measure since we started this journey. I am not submissive, or a sissy, or a cuckold, or any of that stuff. I'm just a horny guy that loves making love to his wife in the way that works best for her. Aside from her proclivity for chastity, she's as vanilla as can be. We're as normal as can be (if such a thing really exists) besides chastity.

 

Not offended, just want to make sure people understand why I can just decide to unlock. My wife loves my chastity, but she wants me in charge of it. If she has to manage it, then it's just another burden for her and one more thing she has to do for me. If I am keeping myself chaste for her, it seems more special to her.

 

In a broad sense, that seems like something we could agree on. However, for us, this is the only way my wife can really enjoy sex, so for me it's a practical decision. I could either go back to having very infrequent intercourse with a miserable wife supplemented by lots of masturbating, or I can have lots of sex with a happy wife who enjoys sex but only get to give orgasms and never receive them. I made the choice to have a happy wife who enjoys sex.

 

I don't think so. Over short periods of time I can do it, but long term no. Even though I have ready access to the key for hygiene purposes, just having the device is a great barrier to masturbation. It makes you stop and think before you act because I have to go get the key rather than just reach down and start wanking. I think it's more psychological than anything. But there is something about not being able to get all the way hard and erect that makes the urge a bit more bearable. The "need" to orgasm isn't as strong as it is when I'm fully erect. When I'm locked up its more of a longing than an urgent need.

 

I am the same. A day or two max. After my wife played with me unlocked I fell asleep but as soon as I woke up in the morning I had a raging erection and it took all the willpower I had to stop myself from masturbating. I actually started stroking it and was starting to masturbate and I made myself calm down and lock up.