Wife/KH with a valid question

I don't do a load of extra housework (at least not consciously) when locked.

I'm certainly more affectionate or attentive to her though.

 

You don't know what you have until it's gone. Men take their sexuality for granted until it's taken away, then they realize the value of it and are willing to things they wouldn't have before in order to earn it back.

 

I am the same and to be honest, my wife is doing more for me now than before. She told me that she liked me just the way I was. She enjoys taking care of me so she wants me to need her. When I started to do more around the house she accused me of trying to take over her job. It has always been that I earn the money and she is mistress of our home.

The only change would be that I make her feel like the most desirable woman in the world since I am always aroused and letting her know how much she turns me on. She likes that at her age when she is feeling bad about her aging body that used to turn heads wherever she went. Other than that, life goes on. Our girlfriend was the sadist to my masochist during sex. She would cause me a lot of pain and yet once outside of the bedroom, I was in charge of our poly triad and she no longer dominated me. We bumped heads a few times because she is alpha, but it was my house and money that supported her. We have always believed to not let sexual fetishes bleed over to the non sexual parts of our marriage which take up the greater part of our marriage. Chastity was an exception due to me wearing a cage all the time but other than that, my wife is still the old fashioned wife she always was and I am still the alpha male she married and wants to stay that way.

I sometimes think that guys new to chastity sell chastity to their wives by making it sound like they get all these great benefits and it is all done for them. I did that too and felt obligated to feel like I read I was supposed to feel. However, once the initial excitement wore off, we returned to our normal lives. It was fun being feminized for a few months or being my wife's servant after dinner each night but ultimately that was not who we are and discarded that stuff to be just us who play fetish in bed. Everyone gets different things out of their fetishes. We have been fetisihist for a very long time and know this.

 

Dominant mindset doesn't take as much time to consider how you can please other people. Too busy acting on instinct.

There's really no way to be (as) dominant toward a person who literally has a key to your penis around their neck. The less dominant mindset, I feel, comes hand-in-hand with a greater propensity to think about what other people, or at least the one person who managed to trick a leash onto you, may be wanting / needing.

Then there's also plain old self-interest. Do what you know they want, get to cum. Or at least get to feel like you've got a chance.

We're just animals. Only a strong hand tames a wild beast. The cage / key is a pretty strong hand.

 

Whoopee, It's sunk in. Once, slinking off to masturbate is no longer an option, everything changes.

 

Truth.

I don't really "get" the sissy house slave thing. Neither does my other half. My mindset towards her certainly changes when I'm caged though.

 

I don't expect you do. We are all different, thankfully.

 

I assume that was there all along rather than something that developed through chastity play. Is that the case in your experience?

 

yes, it is. Chastity can certainly bring out the more caring side of males but even if their releases are severely restricted, I doubt they will turn into Tinkerbell.
jemima had gender issues at a very early age.

 

It's because you don't really care about her unless you have a piece of metal clamped around your genitals.

 

Well, it's actually really simple. It's not that we men don't care about the ladies in our lives or that we don't want to do those nice things for them. It's that we don't have the same level of motivation as we do when you have control over our orgasms. Call it a bit of selfishness, but yes, the discipline you ladies instill in us by way of enforced chastity is a very powerful motivation to be more expressive of our love. It can take the most self centered, selfish man and turn him into a master of cunnilingus waiting on his wife hand and foot. Think of it this way, a hungry man will work more urgently and with much more attention to detail than a man who's full, it's only natural. It's a never ending attempt to gratify his pent up sexual frustration that manifests itself through generous and romantic thoughts and actions.

 

I am also very sure that Romance is born of sexual frustration. In the early days of any relationship he tries his best to court and to please and romance fills the air. The next stage is him conquering her in the bedroom. Normally this sparks a change in dynamic that leads him to lay on the sofa picking his nose while watching golf and drinking beer and going fishing all day having left the toilet seat up.
Displays a lack of willingness to assist with anything domestic coupled with incoherent, disinterested and mumbled replies.

If you are lucky and it works for you then you can use male chastity to wind the clock back to a certain degree, trapping him in the courtship phase where nothing is too much bother oh and he bought flowers again and hid theatre tickets in my coat pocket and wanted to kiss whenever his gaze caught mine.

 

LOL, what a visual explanation!

 

Very well said Miss Amanda. I consider the lovely ladies who've discovered and enforce male chastity upon their men to be among the smartest women in the world and a chauvinist's worst nightmare come true.