What if every time your kid started a fire without permission or stuck a fork in a light socket you immediately gave him candy, ice cream, and a hug? Over the course of a year what kind of behavior would you expect from your child? (Sex trains people better and qucker than candy, ice cream, and hugs) When men jack off to porn they make connections between pleasure and porn. After a few repititions the brain associates porn to pleasure. If you haven't talked about if it's ok with you for him to masturbate then he is likely thinking he is doing something he should not be doing but doing it anyway. That's another part of the association, that is doing something HE thinks he shouldn't be, keeping it a secret is a pleasure. The behavior is massively rewarded at climax. If you let him jack off to porn he learns sexual pleasure can come from ANY woman AND as soon as he looses interest in one woman he can instantly find another one. (It's as easy as a click of the mouse) So now his brain is learning "doing something he thinks is wrong" is rewarded. He also learns keeping secrets from his woman leads to pleasure and rewarded. He learns doing something he thinks may be wrong leads to pleasure. He learns he can provide himself pleasure anytime he wants and his wife/girlfriend/mistress is not important. In fact he learns that any woman can provide him pleasure and that woman are easily disposable for another the second he looses interest. Also he gets a surge of prolactin at climax that pushes all his goal seeking achievement chemical (dopamine) out. Until it builds up again his brain isn't interested in achievement or pleasing his female but rather becomes uninterested, lazy and apathetic. His body goes into recovery mode after climax and he just wont pursue his female until the dopamine builds back up. Climax pops the cork and let's all the magic and motivation out. He is learning all of his bad behaviors leads to the highest reward a man can get, which is sexual pleasure. Over time this shapes a mans brain to be a lazy, unmotivated, overweight, slob. In contast if he ONLY gets sexual pleasure from his woman (the one) he will build up a neural pathway that tells his brain sexual pleasure comes from his wife/mistress/girlfiend ONLY. If she is a part of every sexual experience he soon equates his wife/Mistress/girlfriend with the highest reward his brain can get. If a woman has the means to make sure that sexual pleasure is ONLY possible with her being involved she should use that means. Why wouldn't you take that option? Why have his devotion divided? Why would a woman share that with anyone? Should you just let your man manage it himself? Women make the mistake of thinking they know all about a mans sex drive. If you think he doesn't jack off or that he can be trusted to make his sexual associations in the best way then you need a reality wake up call. ANYTIME a man gets sexual pleasure he should be seeing his wife/mistress/girlfriend so the positive associations he builds up is that SHE ALONE=sexual pleasure. All other women DO NOT equal sexual pleasure if he can't jack off to them anymore. Women need to be sure to be involved any time men receive sexual pleasure SO THAT THEY ARE ASSOCIATED with sexual pleasure, and no one else. It's needs to be something only she can give, it's not something he can just give himself anytime old time he wants. His woman needs to be special, to be his one and only source of sexual pleasure. "There can be only one" - The highlander If he is jacking off without his woman involved in it he is learning she isn't nessisarily nessisary for sexual pleasure. Is that the kind of thing you want a man to learn? Women who let men go jack off without being involved are training men for all kind of bad habits. Sexual pleasure makes a huge impression on the brain. Do you think those impressions that shape the brain and set the stage for future behavior are important? What if every time your kid started a fire without permission or stuck a fork in a light socket you immediately gave him candy, ice cream, and a hug? (Sex trains people better and qucker than those three items combined) if you don't control what he associates sexual pleasure to then someone else will. He's going to be trained by pleasure how to get the pleasure. If pleasure comes from bad behavior he will repeat bad behavior. If pleasure comes ONLY from pleasing his Wife/girlfriend/mistress he will repeat that behavior. (That is keeping her happy) If as a woman you are only one of the many possibilities to obtain sexual pleasure then you are unimportant and disposable. If however your involved EVERYTIME a man gets sexual pleasure and you are THE ONLY WAY for a man to get sexual pleasure (if your lucky enough to arrange it ) then you are indespensible and the most important person on the planet to him. His brain is going to learn where the honey is and he will wear out a trail going to where he finds the honey. If ANY woman can lead to that honey... If doing something he thinks is wrong leads to the honey... If your not nessisary to get the honey... Then that's the way he will get his honey. On the other hand if pleasing you, his woman, becomes the only way to get honey... If you become the only source of honey in his world... If no other woman can possibly give him honey... If he can't even get honey all by himself... Then he will get his honey from you. A bear is a Bear after all and they will get honey where it is to be gotten. If you don't teach him about honey someone else will. Think about it.