I'm sure by now all of you little, bored chasties have seen the drama, my very new to the site Goddess received in another poll thread from a longtime member today. In me, I was just sort of saddened, because in it, one of a few reasons women don't participate here, is that they come in very optimistic and hoping to learn, and wind up a bit thwarted by the bombardment of several factors that I see. (as listed in my poll choices) As I am partly female, I get it. Coming here at all is daunting for a woman, particularly a budding Domme, still gaining a foothold, a loving partner, hoping to find information, and being bombarded with a shit ton of bullshit alpha male crap, in a place where that's not supposed to be. There are bullies here, snarky, bored, chasties with nothing better to do than nitpick their responses. They say mean things, do mean things. It can be abrasive. Wolfpack mentality, if one person picks up on a lack of confidence. There is always, with every single new female member brave enough to introduce herself, some moron who says "you can verify if you contact Lucy", not knowing, Lucy has politely asked them upon joining to do this very thing, to help us, the chastized know if we are dealing with a catfish, or not. Or 'that guy' who calls them out as a phony? Belittles them in their responses. It can be overwhelming for them, as a new member suddenly hit with stray DMs, junk pics, begging, random crap. New members who join, and essentially contact every Domme on the site in a weird, gross btw, horny anxiety at actually talking to 'any' female even remotely connected. Did you chasties know that in one day, a new female member can get up to 50 notifications? Think about any female you know, do they want this much attention from any site they join? I dunno. I would love it if the females who do actually read this to chime in. Lucy, Apex Predator of Dommes, has built a wonderful thing here. Why aren't you using it? I would guess she wonders the very same. And to the dudes here, and I do use the term loosely because you are just as pathetic as I am at your core, read it. Consider it. Don't take offense. Let's have some feedback. Why is there basically 1-3 females who interact for every 50 males?