Why doesn’t your Domme want sex with you?

lol... did you drink cocktails when you were 'masculine, aggressive, selfish sex fiend'? A bonafide Q here. I've always been fascinated to the degree some Dommes go to controlling the lives of their subs. I don't tend to care about controlling everything about a sub - my domination is sexually charged, and I value freedom. I like it when my sub is pro-active, he serves me better that way. )

 

Hm... do you have a link?

 

Haha! I danced backwards in high heels for many years before dancing forwards. (And those who don't dance don't know that it is actually much harder dancing forward in heels. )

 

lol... I wonder if chastity subs ever say 'no'. They have a right to, of course, and I hope they get to practice that right. I learnt today about one particular couple who doesn't use play safety. I think that is dangerous. I know a couple of situations that have backfired on the Dom because he didn't strictly follow SSC.

If you need to (for any reason), do you feel confident enough to say 'no' to your KH?

 

Thanks!

 

Yeah, I've said in a comment above, I don't do sex as a reward. I don't like the idea of that, what it represents. I don't have sex with my sub because he's 'earned it', I have sex with him because he attracts me - his mind, his heart, and of course, his body. I feel loved by him, and that makes me want to be with him.

Do you think you need more sex? ;D

 

Haha! Thank you x

I've read a lot about why marriages end, and a lot of the discussions point to one thing - as soon as one person of the couple feels contempt for the other, it is that start of the end. Really, you only have one life. I think I'd rather three or four fantastic quick-fire relationships, than one that is mediocre over a lifetime. I think people these days are too scared to be on their own.

Haha! Yes, I think I'm more like a dude than a woman. And I think it is clear from my writing that I empathise with men more. I have a naturally strong masculine side - my thought processes and sensibilities. My partners have loved that because not only was I a lover but their bro too...lol.

And, my ideas never seem to be the same as the majority. It gets me into a lot of trouble because I shake things up. But, I don't take it to heart. I've been out in the world meeting and playing with as many kinksters as I can from many different countries to learn and develop my craft, my philosophies. The world needs diversity of ideas, it's how we progress as humans. Darwin, Einstein, Jung...? (To name the famous ones.) I think more than ever ideas about chastity, D/s, sex drive, etc need to be challenged because.... no one is doing it, especially from within. So far there only seems to be one collective thought about how chastity is done. Of course there are slight variations by individuals but essentially they are the same. But what if there is a completely different way of doing it that we haven't discovered yet...? Well, I'm finding that what I'm doing with my sub is unique to most, but that's what makes sharing our journey worth it - so others can see that chastity doesn't have to cage you in...lol.

(You know, I know a Dom who loves wearing a cage when he plays with his sub. He's a sadist but loves feeling the pressure of not being able to get big during impact play. Denial and chastity is not just for submissives. )

Cheers

 

Oh. Cheers

 

Just as long as you are ok, it's all good.

lol... yes, my puppy and I are hardcore. We have been doing this for a while and his ass is very well trained. Oh, but fisting is amazing. I get to feel his body with mine, his warmth and softness, as he hugs around my arm. It's very intimate and sensual. And I love to make him assgasm over and over until he collapses in ecstasy.

Ask away, but I'd prefer that you ask here if it's not strictly personal.

Cheers

 

Yes, I know my povs about chastity are very different from most, and that is why it is important for me to express them. Diversity of thought is a good thing and is needed for progression. New ideas are what turns the world.

Actually, I've never said any relationship isn't 'real'. In fact, thinking back, I don't think I ever used the word 'real' in this whole thread apart from 'really' and 'realise'. Though, there was one sub who said his Domme talked about her 'real man' to tease him and I referenced it to reply to him. I can't help it if people jump to conclusions, invent subtext, taking things out of context, thinking I'm being personal, and taking offense. I say my truth without sugar coating - some people appreciate that and some people don't – that's life and I sleep soundly.

Thanks for your care. Though, I'm a big girl. I fit into my britches...lol. It's actually quite good to be controversial because you can quickly make out the people who are golden and the people who aren't. ;D

 

lol... yes, I suppose most would think this is written by a man, but no. I'm quiet unique, there aren't many women like me in the world. I have a fairly masculine outlook in life, and masculine sensibilities, which I'm quiet proud of. I think this is what makes me and my puppy perfect for each other - he has perfectly feminine qualities.

I have actually forbidden my puppy to view this thread. It's quite controversial and I've always known I would likely ruffle a few feathers. Even though my puppy is perfectly submissive, he is very protective of me. I didn't want him to become bothered by other people's negative comments. But he's around other places... We just put up our first pics on the site of one of our play sessions on the weekend. ;D

 

lol... I think the drink transition is kind of cute. I'm a beer drinking girl myself, but I do like Bourbon.

I enjoy spanking too. The thing I love about it is that I get to feel the sting on my hand. The harder I spank, the more I feel. I believe in balance. If I want to do something to my sub, I need to take responsibility for it. You need to give in order to get and vice verse.

Ooooo. Pegging! Does she fist you too? That way she can tell if you have an assgasm and punish you for it...lol. ;P

 

OMG! I got to the end of all the comments to my post! Whoo hooo! lol. Now my OCD can rest. ;P

Thank you to everyone. xx

 

Just because I’m a woman, it doesn’t mean I side with women blindly. That is ‘irrational’….lol. I look at the point in question and make up my own mind about it.

When it comes to looking after sex drive, women have definitely got it wrong, because they don’t. It is very rare for me to come across a woman who takes action to increase her sex drive. Sure, a good number of women these days (mainly in Western culture, and not enough imo) are taking measures to be sexually satisfied but, increasing their sex drive…? No.

I could pull out numerous studies, articles and accounts but it is general knowledge that most women struggle with their sexuality, especially because of social conditioning. In my opinion, as a sex, women don’t value their sexuality enough. It’s slowly changing, very slowly, but heck, most females don’t know their bodies half as well as men know theirs. Female ejaculate has only recently become common knowledge and that is only because of science, not because women have discovered that on their own. (And science hasn’t even properly defined the difference between squirting fluid and ejaculate yet.) Most females probably have no clue they can, and do, ejaculate near/on orgasm.

Yeah, I think women 'have got it wrong' when it comes to their sex drive, even their sexuality, in that they don’t take measures to develop it. From my study, knowledge, experience and understanding, I do think I 'have it right'. I also think a lot of men would agree with me.