Why doesn’t your Domme want sex with you?

Well Miss Veronica i was having sex with her girlfriend. She told my Wife i was given an ultimatum locked or else. i chose locked, but i believe this was calculated scheme by them to get me her. If You Miss Veronica have any other questions let me know as i here too as a punishment.

Thank You for Your Time

 

An interesting question Miss Veronica. My Mistress, quite some time ago, decided that she wasn't enjoying our PIV sex. As the head of our relationship that was her choice. I never felt less valued or appreciated. There was no less intimacy. I was not caged back then. We didn't even know of chastity, but I was put in panties as our roles were gradually reversed. She wanted to be in charge in the bedroom.

Once we discovered chastity, now it can't happen, and I'm very reminded of that. I know Mistress misses being able to freely play with her toys, but she does help herself to the parts available. Of course if she wants to play or allow me an infrequent squirt (her word) she simply unlocks it.

Of course it doesn't mean that she doesn't get what she wants and needs. I have a long and useful tongue. ;-)

 

My wife's sex drive is much lower than mine. I'm very kinky and like to explore different things. I came across chastity and it seemed fun. My wife liked the dominant feeling and went with it.

 

She likes the way I behave more when I'm locked she realized that I'm a bummer after I cum. There's a lot more going in under the covers too. Since she's the boss, sex goes at her pace, which currently doesnt include PIV due to her havubg some chronic nerve pain and also we're busy folks. As for how we got here...

We had a vicious cycle in our relationship. She wanted me to make large emotional efforts to connect more in the relationship then the kinky stuff would follow. I wanted kinky sex to grow my emotional connection so I would invest more. We were both wired backwards of each other. We had a chicken-egg situation with no easy answer, then we started doing chastity and (currently) light FLR. She's getting her emotionally connected man so she's fulfilled without lots of PIV.

She doesn't feel guilty for bossing me around. I enjoy doing things for her and taking sex off the table (she initiates on her terms). We talk a whole heck of a lot more and build the emotional connection she wants and I genuinely enjoy it too. Theres not a lot of BDSM currently but sexual frustration is plenty of kink under chastity and is better than the sometimes-hostile lack of sexual contact that we had before.

I think me telling her sex from now on is her's to control and she can pick the kinky level, as well as releasing her from some "barters" we had made over the years really surprised her and made her happy. Her happy, once again, means we're in a good, stable state without lots of PIV

 

Chastity is different for every couple. My wife and KH loves her Penis. When we started out she had me uncage every evening and would play with her Penis.. When she felt like it she would ride it. She would either say you cant come or I would ask and sometimes she would permit Orgasm.

Now, for what ever reason she decided the penis is not as important anymore and she enjoys the cuddles and massages but whenever she thinks of a sexual act she asks fro me to be unlocked. So if you love Penis, take Penis. It should be your choice.

 

Wife has simply been physically "off" penetration for a few years, therefore she doesn't want conventional sex with me. She's also very dominant, so male chastity suits her for practical and erotic reasons.

 

My wife doesn't get much, if any, satisfaction from my smaller than average penis. So she doesn't miss it much when it's locked up. She is naturally sexually dominant and a sadist, so she loves that aspect, and she very much enjoys my submission and servitude and total compliance. And it infuriates her at times just how much I masturbate (hint: A LOT) when I'm left to my own devices.

 

Chastity has ruined my stamina. She laughs at how quick I come from PIV. She still gets satisfied with PIV, just not from me. I satisfy her sexually from oral. I used to have stamina. But chastity ruined it.

 

My wife actually has a very high sex drive. When we started dating, we would have sex daily, mostly initiated by her. She is a bit younger, and I was certainly not used to that.

So the devious reasons for keeping me locked up?
1. It’s not needed, or the preferred way of pleasing her. Since she started to actually believe in and actively live as her role, she no longer felt obligated to include me in her pleasure. I’m quite small, and she enjoys something bigger. We have toys and a powerful wand, and my penis doesn’t need to be unlocked for either. So her pleasure is the focus, and mine is a reward, since my pleasure has little to nothing to do with hers.

2. She has threatened about extended lock ups as a punishment, caught jerking would be a year etc, but for the most part, locked is just a means to an end. A tool to keep me submissive and keep me or anyone else away from her stuff.

Unlike many, she doesn’t use denial, she wouldn’t deny herself, the only reason I am kept locked for long periods is because she hasn’t felt the need to. If I had an eight inch cock and i was well behaved, I assure you that I would hardly ever be in that cage.

 

Mrs Edge isn't very kinky; she enjoys the control she has by locking me up. When she hit menopause, PIV became uncomfortable, which wasn't fun for either of us. She's over that part now, and it's fun (with a lot of lube). Since she prefers PIV, she has me wear a strapon (it's very close to my own shape and size, so it's not uncomfortable). This way, she's not denying herself anything, and she knows how amped up it makes me.

 

Mistress Tina prefers my attitue much better when I am locked. I am very seldom every unlocked. She prefers that I orally worship her ass and pussy before she masturbates to orgasm in front of me. Often times she just tells me to sit across the bedroom and watch. When we do have sex she prefers that I wear a thick strap on over my cage.

On very special occasion when she allows PIV sex I am required to apply a generous amount of numbing cream followed by two condoms so I have no feeling and do not get to have an orgasm.

Since she locked me over 3 years ago are closer and more intimate then we were the previous 22 years were married. Mistress Tina says that having me locked is very romantic and is the best thing she has ever done for us.

 

I think it is a complicated answer for me. she enjoys it very much.

I know She feels this because She has brought it up before. After we bought the full belt
She has the key and I never unlock it. To see locked up is quite a turn on for Her. She loves
to see me like that. As far as intimacy, there is more than enough. she has found multiple ways
to enjoy Herself with or without my help.

I have been out 5 times in 17 months for Os. When I am it is an all day affair. I think She likes
the build up of waiting and uses it to keep Her libido high, which it is. It is wonderful to be Her's
when ever She wants me in any way. So it is not that She doesn't want the sex with me, it is that
she gets more as it is now.

 

My Mistress/Domme loves having sex. What she doesn’t love is the masturbation I do between the times we have sex. So that’s why I’m locked, to save myself up for her.

 

You say "masochist" like its a bad thing?

 

She's mentally topping me way more than she's ever physically topped me. So she's absolutely "playing the game" with me far more.

She has her nerve issues, so once they're worked out, we'll see about the physical side. I'm guessing we'll have more frequent but different physical BDSM elements but what she'll choose to incorporate will be on her; my extreme fantasies (hood, encasement, heavy bondage, etc) will probably be more of a treat.