Why does Chastity do what it does?

For me, I think it's two things. First, as I get older I want to experience new things. I believe that's what drove me first to exploring cock rings and then wearing a cage.

Second, I think having my cock constrained "forces" me to search out other ways of obtaining some of that type of pleasure, whether it's physical or just mental.

 

If you’re lucky, it doesn’t end. You continue to grow more open minded and accepting of pleasure in any form. The penis is like a set of blinders. When it’s unencumbered by restraint, it demands attention. However, once restrained you are free to explore other avenues of pleasure. I think the surprise you may be experiencing is that there are so many other ways to find pleasure and joy.

 

okay, hold on a second. My chastity has neither of those affects on me. So if you are talking about yourself, okay, but don't generalize that to all men.

 

i dont think it is cos of the cage really. it just that men that cant spurt get very very excite by Ladys. cos the men that can spurt just go and watch tv and drink lots of beer and get fat tummys and dont want to do no work in the house cos that what make Ladys go mad at them and want to stop them spurt.

 

Dan lions, I dont agree with what say, I love being denied by my wife but I dont want to dress in female clothing and I dont really think it has anything to do with chastity and denial, I think that wanting to cross dress and pretend to be female must have always have been part of you, I dont really understand what chastity has to do with wanting to be female, I do know most women dont want locked away from sex ?.
You can explain if you want.

 

Chastity can be a lens, taking the interests and desires you had (often subconcously) and bringing them into focus on the other side.

It's not much of a stretch to understand that many guys who want to control their "manhood" with chastity would also be into feminization, as suppressing conventional male sexual expession is a logical fist step (practically and symbolically).

However, it should also be obvious many guys exploring control of their "manhood" may have no interest in feminization, and may simply be exploring self control or enhancing a relationship dynamic (especially one with an explicit power dynamic).

 

Men embarking on chastity mostly out of curiosity.. wondering what happen if the very act of spontaneous reaction upon stimuli ie the penis erection is restricted.. and then..? Nothing happens, no action, no drama and the interest drops off or prefer masturbation/sex anytime just like the good old days..
or in another way, once erection/orgasm is denied/deferred.. suddenly there seems to be a buildup of energy/libido or .. hornier feeling ok…what are you going to do to distract/channel your newly found stamina.. then theres denial of needs for her.. how is she being fulfilled then when you are out of action..then sometimes the reality sinks in.. the male ego comes.. why am i doing this where shes is getting all pleasured.. why should she be a mistress whereas you are the servant.. whats in it for me? The possibilities seem unlimited.. some may be self denied, some may be sub-male, some may be cross-dressed, some may be cuckolded.. some of these happen to me.. some do not.. theres no ultimate end.. what happen to me may not be the best for you and vice versa.. the male chastity is not a gospel. If you have found happiness/satisfaction/joy along the male chastity journey.. do share with us..

 

I love this! So perfectly put.

 

Mine started with a view that it was a sex toy attached to my penis offering constant stimulation. It was only upon further investigation that I discovered what chastity and orgasm denial could lead to.

I started with a hiss and a roar, hoping Mrs Sen would become a sex craving demon demanding oral and orgasms constantly, reality was far from that.

We have been on/off chastity over the last 18 months or so, back on for now and each time we go back, she is more comfortable denying my orgasm.

 

I am just getting started on being locked on a cage and I have been thinking about it. I tried different devices with different materials, sizes, etc. and at some point found one that worked great.
Even with that, the first 2 days with it were not great. I got a pause, a relief and then got back to the cage. This new sequence is feeling so much better!

And then to my conclusion: After getting to a point where I am getting used to wear it, am I screwed (in a good way)? It looks like it brings a kind of addiction and you really stop thinking about masturbating every time you want to relax you know? And I get thinking about meeting Miss and submitting to her. It's a crazy but very nice feeling!