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Why do you think it is that there are not many female members of CM?

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    It's not dissimilar to other fetish sites.

    One of the issues is that F members often get pestered with unwanted PMs from males - happens to me on FL a lot.
    But the general membership (F and M) trend on CM is upward. This is by far the best and most frequented site of this type that there is.

    But I do think (I have mentioned this before) an F KH only forum would help.
     
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    I only get about 1 message every 2 weeks here, I think I have scared everyone away :)

    The site numbers are always going to go up, they are not going to go down. But the vast majority of members haven't been online for years.

    If no one will verify for a female room it is pointless.
     
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  4. There is such a section at CM.
    It's only visible in the forum section if you have been added to it by Admin.
    There are a handful of members.
    It fell out of use sometime ago, shortly after male moderators were given access to it.
    Lucy if you like you can login as me and have a look.
     
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    Maybe you have scared some away. I get a lot more, many unwanted! But it's not the membership - that of course won't go down: it's the number of hits and posts and visits that make the yardstick. And they regularly go up.

    And while many members have not been on site for years, you'd be surprised how many come back after huge periods of inactivity.
     
  6. Although I'm quite new here, from my limited perspective I would agree with all three of these points. On the first one, the problem isn't unique to this forum. It happens in other subject matter forums as well where experts and long time users can overwhelm those who are new. On the third point, I would hate to have a KH-only forum as I would certainly like to be able to read what women have to say about the various issues. Perhaps something where only the women could post but the men could still read the material?
     
  7. Hi @Mistress Lucy@Mistress Lucy
    I think this is a great question that I think that a few members have given there input, so I am going to give my two cents, so hear goes I believe if you look in the what's new section and it was your first time and you did not know anything about male chastity what you see would make you click away very quickly, what I am about to say is not intended to insult anyone or drive anyone away but here goes with the words like... blisters on sack ... cock Sucking .. Cuck/Bull?Dom/sub..ball stretching...Hubby wearing a bra . I am not saying these words are wrong to use, but if you are not used to using these words it could come over as a little much for a person for the first time, if you want more female members that there must be a way of pleasing both the current members. these words and phases might seem harmless but if you wanted to try and find out some information on male chastity these are an indication to click off and close the page.
    For a website that wants to elevates the role of women in everyday life this website certainly know how to make women feel not welcome. when I click the main page it says nothing about the role of the female and the benefits for female partners and can I say if this was a shop and a woman walked in I would think she was lost. look at bottom of the home page you will see USERS FOUND THIS PAGE BY SEARCHING FOR: I am not going to list them out but it says everything about male chastity and nothing about the role of females or even the words FLR. I would love to show this website to my wife to find out about male chastity but if the did she would think that is as one member put it a "men's locker room"
    I do think that the male chastity lifestyle have a lot to offer couples that want to try and shift the balance of power in a relationship away from the man and to bring it back to the center. I do believe that a couple can be vanilla and also be in the male chastity lifestyle.
    I will not be surprised to get pack in my box, it was not my intent to insult anyone.
     
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    Well said. It is a mens locker room mentality that "anything goes", and those who are less open minded should learn to like it or f*** off and find a vanilla site. So then it's not being inclusive to those people is it?
     
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  9. Women as a rule watch different types of porn than men. They also react differently. Where as a male needs visual simulation. film clips etc. A female is simulated by reading and imagination. That is why they have " women porn" So, women act and think different then some horny caged male. So they pass their time eating BON BONS and laughing at their caged male,
     
  10. My wife would be more interested in reading/joining if there were more posts about enforced chastity without using a cage. That is our arrangement and it makes for a much broader and deeper submission that gives her unlimited powers of control and that makes me completely fulfilled.
     
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    You could always write one yourself and get the ball rolling on that subject :)
     
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  12. Good idea. Will do. Many thanks.
     
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