Why do you lock?

Discussion in 'Chastity in vanilla life' started by bobolink, Aug 10, 2021.

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Do you...?

  1. Lock up yourself without interest in a KH?

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  2. Lock up yourself becuase your significant other doeesn't want to play?

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  3. Lock up yourself and are actively looking for a KH?

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  1. bobolink
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    I have wondered how many folks lock up and how they deal with the desire for a KH?
     
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    I lock because she says "bring me the key". But I couldn't find that option in your poll :oops:
     
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    Exactly. On a couple of occasions I have locked myself because I knew I was masturbating too much and that she wouldn't be happy -- so I locked up and then let her know and hoped to get her approval.

    But almost always I am only locking myself because she told me to.
     
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    My wife is really only now getting to the point where she is thinking about wanting me locked in advance of when she really wants me locked, i.e. to start getting my brain back to where she wants it so that I'm all putty in her hands by the time she wants that. This could be a very dangerous realization from my point of view, since my currently-common unlocked time may be about to largely disappear. (On the other hand, I seem to quite enjoy being locked for her. Weird. Why would anyone enjoy that? The logical part of my mind is still not understanding any of this.)

    It's her show, though. I support and encourage her (and of course, I always obey and serve her), but I don't want my own desires around this topic to be driving her decisions, because that kind of defeats the purpose of the whole thing ... at least in my mind it does. I do see her confidence growing, and that is wonderful to see. (It's also shameful for me to see, because I realize that her lack of confidence previously is almost certainly my fault, because as soon as she had space to grow, she grew more confident. That conclusion is painful, but fairly obvious. It also means that I was probably a far shittier husband than I would like to think.)
     
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    Initally I locked because I masturbated too much and wanted help saving myself for her.

    Now I lock because it is what my KH desires. We probably make love as much as before, but I'm locked, by default, inbetween, and I don't always get a full orgasm. More and more often I am denied, edged, or ruined.

    I'm locked also now because it is what I know I need to be a better husband and the feeling of denial and horniness can, for me, be more intense, and certainly longer lasting than an orgasm, that switches off the feeling for a few days.

    I'm locked because it's comforting

    I'm locked because I don't own Little Jah

    I'm locked because it's addictive

    I'm locked because I don't have access to the key

    There are so many reasons, but none of the above.
     
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    I relate to most of that.
     
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    I guess I was curious about the self lock folks. But, I now see my survey is a bit flawed.
     
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    I could tell it was directed at self lockers. I answered like I would have back when I was looking. I always wanted to find a strict Keyholder that would push my limits. Fortunately, I eventually found my wife! It is far better than I imagined. Even if nowhere near as kinky… :D
     
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    There is a forum section specifically about self-locking ... try reposting your poll there?
     
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    I lock up coz im a horny little slut and I cant keep my hands to my self. My wife dosent like it but im doing it for us to have a better sex life.
     
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    I like the question but the poll options are terrible, lol…

    But to answer the question… it just seems like it makes life so much easier. Little problems don’t feel like problems, there is better communication with my wife, and it helps me stay focused on what is important.

    There is just so little stress when it is part of our lifestyle, I guess it just gives me something else to focus on?
     
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    I’m locked because I’m told to!
     
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    Ditto. (I'm locked because that's what she wants.)
     
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    I lock up because it fits my submissive and sissy needs. Would love to do so for a KH too.
     
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    For my wife, PIV is painful at the very best, so that is not an option. She finds giving me relief a duty rather than a pleasure. I don’t like DIY but resisting temptation is a terrible distraction. If I do have an orgasm I go into a slump for days. If I’m locked and she has the key, I get turned on and start to give my wife more attention. That tends to make me even more turned on. She won’t give me any relief and I can’t do it myself, so I have to stay like that for days or weeks. It’s a bit uncomfortable and may end up doing me some harm, but she is happier and I feel great.
     
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    I'm locked for behavior modification. Being locked removes my penis from the relationship until she wants to free it. She likes when I think of her with my brain and not my penis.
     
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    cannot cast vote, no viable option...
     
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    At first when I joined the forum, it was a choice I made to see if this was for me or not. I quickly found out I really love being chaste; it's not only for the orgasm denial but what it does to the mind. my KH/Domme is a very Dominant Woman whom has agreed to have me in long-term lock-up once the Jailbird arrives. As much as it was a choice, the power She has over me is very real, and lovely.
     
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    Me, too.
     
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    I get that, but for me, the penis straining against the cage to get erect turns thoughts to my wife-mistress. I think she is starting to really appreciate that, especially when I know there is no orgasm on the other side of my attentions. In a way it forces me to use my brain (and emotions) even if it starts with my dick. :)
     
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    Iv just ordered 3 cages to try it out. I know chasity pics and videos turn me on. So why not try it myself. Not necessarily looking for a KH but maybe. Self locked. And trying to get an idea if it will increase pre cum production I see videos of people dripping Hella pre cum. Plus I want to train myself to cum in different ways. Not just by jacking. If that's possible. Have a hard time someone else getting me off. This isn't quite what everyone else does because I don't have a partner. I'm gay too. If anyone is in the Minneapolis area hit me up.
     
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    Like most of the above mentioned, I started it because I didn't have as much sex as I would like and masturbation was leading me dipper in to depression and away of my beloved wife.
    After a few days she realised the change in my attitude and so did I. She felt that everything I was doing was not to gain sex. I felt closer to her and more affectionate.
    By conversation she told me that most of the times we had sex she didn't want it. So in the beginning it was like a small rape, going on her mind. During the act and after she started to turn on, she enjoyed it herself but with these feelings to begin with, it was not an act of love, it was unwanted sex.
    Now because she feels safe that she won't be rapped and taken anyway, she likes to wear all her sexier underwear that I always liked to buy for her.
    Or she is changing in front of me to tease me. She starts to understand that I really like her for what she looks like or what she makes me feel like and do not only want to fuck her.
    In my poin of view, I absolutely love the way she smiles when I bring her flowers. She even saying "this isn't going to get you layed big guy" and I respond like "I know, I brought them just to see your smile", she through her self into my arms.
    This makes me feel great and I can not exchane it with any orgasm.
    I truly love her and if it takes a cage to make her feel it, I am willing to wear it permanently.
     
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    I couldn't merely "like" that comment because it deserves a round of applause. Very nice.

    I'm also quite (selfishly) horny, so I can't quite claim the same level of virtue. But one of the really awesome things I've discovered about chastity is that it makes me more attentive and selfless than the uncaged me--all the while still feeding my lust. I don't know why, and I've said many times, I don't really care.

    The agony of the potion that is love and denial is... exquisite.
     
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    Control the Dick Control the mind.
     
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    This 100% I lock because my wife and I love to play. It's one of our favorite kinks.
     
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