I am a relative new comer to this lifestyle but I am trying to understand why I like it. I know the excuse I used (to stop my chronic masturbation) but it's not just that...I actually enjoy being caged, restricted, in discomfort....but why?I don't have a kh and since I have removed my device, to let my balls recover from the soreness, I have no desire to masturbate....job done then...but no I want to put it back on. I have seen some of the really short metal devices and I want to try them...can someone explain where this desire or fetish comes from? on a slightly different point..do women like to be in chastity like we do???