Why do we do it, this thing called chastity?

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    Simple question...why do we do chastity?
     
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    LockedInBama I serve at her pleasure

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    To give complete control to our keyholder. To take away the focus of our “needs” and devote totally to theirs. Submitting to them and showing them that their pleasure is most import.
     
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    The state or practice of refraining from extramarital, or especially from all, sexual intercourse.
    "vows of chastity" Thus Chastity Device.

    MistressS
     
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    Forgetting the piv and concentrating on the oral skills and make the KH happy
     
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    In truth, I often wonder and have no bloody idea o_O:)
     
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    It's more than a month of piv..and I'm happy about it...she too happy her needs met
     
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    I can give you a chemical/hormonal answer if you like.
    But without getting too technical I can tell you this.
    My reasons for getting into chastity in the first place where probably not mainstream for this site.
    My reason for becoming addicted to chastity (or at least orgasm denial) is probably that long term chastity feels much better than i expected
     
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    I for one was always attracted to a woman with confidence that knew what she wanted. Finding chastityi knew immediately she would get to play anytime she wanted and I would always be ready as long as I only got to mess if she allowed and that I could never slip away into the bathroom again.
     
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    I got put into chastity by my Wife who didn't want sex with me and wanted to make me compliant
     
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    Agreed
     
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    I do it because it is a constant reminder to me of my wife. Especially when we are apart. Every time I see or feel the cage I get a rush of love for her and I can't think of anything else that would come close to doing that from me. It is made more real to me because she is the one putting on and taking off the cage.

    As an equally important benefit our level of communication and intimate contact has gotten much better. I am wearing the cage she put on me write now and feel an overwhelming urge to hold her and tell her I love her.
     
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    My wife wanted it so I couldn't masturbate anymore. Then she liked its affect on me and decided to keep me locked.
     
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    Because we want to and it is better this way

    Just saying
     
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    Because it's fun!
     
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    We do it now for completely different reasons than why we started it. It was meant to be a sex toy, no different to handcuffs or a blindfold, to spice things up and try new things. The rush of feelings I felt the first time she left it on for an extended period was so unexpected and so awesome, the only thing better was the way it changed the way she looked at me, our sex life and our relationship. We used to spend most of our time apart from meals doing different things, but now we can’t get enough of each other’s company, and we can’t keep our hands off each other.
    Yesterday was a shitty day at work, but then I got a text of her holding up her key in front of her on its necklace, and my stress went away. I just wish we had done this ages ago.
     
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    Power exchange is an easy concept for humans to fetishise and we've been aware of it for at least a century, but emasculation and sexual control is a relativity new fetish I think?
    I'd imagine it parallels the rise of feminism, in particular fourth wave feminism where social and gender roles for men have become denigrated and laden with guilt, society has slowly realigned with more female values and so there is now a huge difficulty in defining a role for men.

    The complementary trend for sissies is I think an abdication of the male ego out of a desire to identify with and submit to the new feminine power.
    If society no longer supports your male sexual identity then you've technically lost the use for a free penis anyway, so physical chastity is also a symbolic acceptance of this situation.

    As a secondary thing, tease & denial is simply optimising a human males sexual energy, which revolves around proving one's worth until a female accepts and then gaining sexual relief. Except that denial keeps this loop constantly engaged.

    The idea of a female repeatedly paying attention to the male genitals in this way is hugely appealing. If the primary animalistic driver for the male is to reproduce, then chastity is the fetishisation of this male goal seeking reward system.
     
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    Why chastity? Because there are many ways of activating the dopamine reward system in the brain.
     
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    Many reasons,

    It started as a sexual link but it had become a lifestyle now.

    My wife is not overly sexual and we sleep in different bedrooms. This led to lonely masturbation and mentally brought me down dark pathways. Being locked up with no masturbation has helped with mental health and energy. Life is a lot better in chastity.
     
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    For me it's a difficult question, I'm very new to it and my reasons might change as time goes on. For now it's another thrill added to our relationship and a bit of fun, what more reason is there to do something?
     
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    We use to cut way down on masturbation, from daily to weekly or so. Wife likes the effect on me too and we do it off and on.
     
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    Because I want to make life better for my wife both sexually and in my service to her in other daily activities
     
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    I've yet to experience chastity but want to try it. As a long time submissive husband its something we have talked about on and off for years. When she first took over i went yrs without masturbating... became premature from long denial periods and eventually started thinking she deserved longer lasting... as cuckold fantasies started to grow my self control started to wane...
     
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    I felt I was playing with myself too much and it was ruining a lot of intimacy with my wife. I thought male chastity would be a good way to involved her in this as well and that is how I brought it up with her. She thought it was a great idea and "secretly knew" that I was "discretely" playing with myself a lot... So she was on board with giving it a go from the time it was mentioned.

    Where it will end up is another story, just need to wait and see.
     
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    I've always had an orgasm denial fetish. Later in life, I realized that I preferred giving pleasure to having it, and my best piv sex was when I would kind of disconnect from my own pleasure, and focus on the other persons reactions and orgasm. It was an on again, off again thing for 17 years...largely as an orgasm denial tool, and as a marital aid. Eventually my keyholder and I went from friends, to "it's complicated" and I learned to accept chastity as a behaviour modification, and act of obedience and submission, which I came to realize that I needed in my life.
     
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    Well said that is exactly why I do it to! I feel the same about my wife. It is most definitely a good constant reminder of my loving wife
     
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