Why do so many guys think being locked up prevents you from orgasming?

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    I can always tell a newbie because they think simply locking up will prevent orgasms. I refer them to chastity porn to see the different ways to orgasm while locked. Not to mention simply sticking something in a cage hold and jerking off with it or even moving your cage back and forth as well as the tried and true vibrator. Plus anal dildo play can also make you cum locked up. No wonder so many chastity devices end up put away in drawers never or seldom to be used again.

    Let's be real and admit we all can cum anytime we want. Therefore chastity means self control. The cage is like a speed bump to give pause about what you are about to do. It is a symbol like a wedding ring but certainly will not stop anyone so why do so many pretend that it does?

    My point is too much emphasis on cages because we men like our sex toys. I am one of them with four drawers filled with BDSM toys, hoods, whips, paddles, canes, gags, nipple clips, etc.. To me, chastity only works if you have self control and the reason why if you come back here in a few months you will not find most of the people you see here today.

    I wonder if guys are pretending that being locked will prevent orgasms or if they really believe it. Even pierced does not stop you from making yourself cum. We see it all the time. Guys locked coming by a vibrator or a pegging so why all the focus on the chastity devices we use? Boys and their toys! :)

    So, what do you think is most important, the chastity cage or self control? I went about 15 years under the honor system. A cage would not have mattered nor desired since I thought it unnecessary. I do wear on now for 12 years because I love BDSM toys. Locked or not, I do not orgasm. The cage and my collar are symbolic like my wedding ring but prevent nothing.
     
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    #2 herluckyboi, May 28, 2023
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    I totally agree that it is about self control. The most striking difference for me being locked is no longer having the ability to simply masturbate. Being locked and not having access to a key makes traditional penis orgasms impossible. And slipping
    Out of my HTv5 nub seems impossible and painful. Our toys are locked by her so I don’t have access to them for wand on cage orgasms or prostate orgasms from toys. I suppose I could simply order my own toys but that is where the self control kicks in. Plus for me orgasms from anal play aren’t a guarantee. They don’t always happen. The cage makes it way more difficult for me to orgasm and therefore gives so much control to her.
     
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    1) Not a newbie, started self bondage as a child.
    2) 1st PA and frenum secured Sterling Silver chastity tube was locked on 40 years ago.
    3) You name the bondage gear it’s in my dungeon.
    4) Yes, I have had many many chastity devices in the last forty years.
    5) I could orgasm in all but two chastity devices.
    6) I can’t orgasm in my current tube device as the restriction ring behind the gland is to damn uncomfortable with an erection (or partial erection), quickly accelerating to PAIN, as I approach orgasm.

    In summary, I can’t orgasm in my device, I expect there is a minority of others who can’t. I love your certainty in the experience’s of others. You are Hilarious! So you keep doing you, I have popcorn.
     
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    I have to consciously do something I have agreed not to do in order to cheat. Guilt is a good motivation not to. The cage is a symbol and a physical reminder of that promise. The security is knowing that she knows when my last orgasm was and I cannot fake my levels of desperation. If I am to be locked for a couple of weeks I might get away with cheating on day 1 or 2, but the desire to do so isn't. If I cheated on day 4 or beyond there is no way I would not be found out. My mood is off and she knows it.
     
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    As someone self-locking, I already knew you could have releases still locked. I am hoping to train myself to indulge later and work more on my self-control while also playing around with some toys of my own.
     
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    I think the only guys who believe you can't orgasm while in chastity are guys who're very new to it. Anyone with any experience knows that, the longer you even stay in chastity, the easier it is for some random something to trigger a, uh, shall we say, unassisted orgasm from time to time.

    Chastity cages are designed to help A) prevent penetrative sex using your cock, B) prevent, at least to some extent, your ability to masturbate, and C) prevent getting an actual, full erection and to make an attempted erection painful and/or uncomfortable (which discourages getting them to begin with). So, by design, they won't deny all orgasms, but they will require you to have any orgasm through non-traditional means, shall we say.
     
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    Chastity cages present enough of an obstacle to orgasm that it gives you time to overcome the temptation in many cases. If it's going to take you 20 or 30 minutes of effort to get yourself off, and the real intense part of the temptation to orgasm only lasts maybe 15 minutes, the cage can help you get past that temptation and push through.
     
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    Happy to read something which relates to my experience in reality.

    Torally true, if you have a certain level of close intimacy. She will find out. In my case she was able to found out even without seeing me.
    And chastity is (for use) more like a tool to build our relationship (plus lots of talking).

    Yes, I can't imagine that my loved one wants a man who is unable to control himself. Even in a FLR the sub should be "strong" enough to reach doable goals. Its a bit like Teamsport.

    Feathers.sub
     
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    It would be very very difficult for me to orgasm in muy cage now after 16 months of getting my Vice Mini locked in. @Vinnyfl your statement reeks of arrogance.

    I've wanted to orgasm very badly from my wife's teasing my erogenous zones for months but can't ever get over the edge. Totally desperate but never really close.

    In the early weeks of my lockup, I managed a caged orgasm with a vibrator. But now that things are dialed in, the anti pullout would inflict too much pain that I think it would be highly unlikely for me to repeat that experience. My wife has gotten rid of that power tool so I won't be tempted to try again.

    The cage design of my device doesn't have enough exposure to allow significant stimulation of my penis head. Cheaper metal cages that I had in the past permitted just enough stimulation from fingers inside or friction from the inside of the device when tugging on it to occasionally reach orgasm. Sadly, the Vice Mini with anti pullout and limited openings prevents both types of stimulation.

    I've read stories about guys on this site who've trained themselves to ejaculate prematurely but I'm never allowed out of my cage that I could get to that place. My wife didn't ever let me masturbate so that option is off the table.

    I could probably, maybe find a way to orgasm in my cage now but at what cost? Physical damage to my anatomy, emotional damage to my wife, a complete loss of personal integrity and significant damage to our marital intimacy! Is irreally worth the effort to prove you right or wrong? I'm no newbie. Who the HELL are you? You haven't even been around here for a month. Who are you trying to impress?
     
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    I can’t say I’ve ever read a post on here by some caged fella claiming that he can’t have an orgasm.
    Where are all these newbies that are claiming they can’t cum in the cage.

    half the fun is learning new ways and different kinds of orgasms, focusing and learning to enjoy the pleasure that is not your typical orgasm.

    some devices are harder to pull out than others, some are impossible without causing damage, but cumming while caged is not so hard for most with the right tools.
    Everyone knows this
     
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    Yes, the important thing is self-control.
     
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    I agree. Anyone that says they can't cum in the cage either hasn't been denied long enough or hasn't tried hard enough :p

    I have orgasmed, of sorts, in the cage, and I hate it. It's uncomfortable and unsatisfying, and so it's to be avoided. It's self control. I couldn't do it without the added discomfort of the cage though.
     
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