Ok, many of you would ask why I would want to, but I do, and I simply cannot, and that is driving me nuts right now. Very brief background: chastity was my wife's (GF then) idea. Shortly in, when I was digging the kink and attention she laid down the "only" rule (she, of course, makes the rules). I agreed, nee promised, but also said "this is your gig, if I can sneak one out I will. She promised not to punish me so long as I was truthful with her. Fast forward 2 years and some. 4 months into what she promises is a year orgasm free. Not what I bargained for (but a promise is a promise). Im a horny mess. She takes the cage off for a CT scan (nurses later said I could leave metal in my pockets bc it was for heart, nowhere near groin). On the way home we get into an argument (long story there but suffice it to say I wouldn't have stood up to her if it wasnt important) and leaves to go to her son's. So here I am, on my own, uncaged, horny, for 2 days. But I just can't "do it". By our rules I have every right and opportunity. Trust me, I have tried several times - but it only gets half hard. I cannot focus or fantasize except about her, and that brings me full circle back to the angst. Is this ED? But she can milk me in under a minute? Or is long term chastity really this powerful? Im hoping she will be delighted to hear the news when she comes back today and that it helps us move forward. But in my head I feel like I have lost another bit of my manhood. Damn this stuff is powerful.
I think it shows how much you want to submit to her and have her approval. Even given the opportunity, you feel guilt and can't focus your desires. For me that would be a good thing, cementing your relationship with her. Being totally focused on her and wearing a cage for her is a special gift. Enjoy. Maybe she'll be so impressed, she'll give you a quickie before lock up. If not, use that stored energy to please her.
Can't speak from experience, but temporary ED following a long period in chastity isn't unheard of. As far as I know it will fade.
Being 24 / 7 for over 3 years now . I have found that it becomes difficult to masturbate . We are trained not to touch ever again, only they are allowed to touch. That might play with our heads a little to the point That we feel that we are cheating on our KH'S ?
That's pretty common. It happened to me. I couldn't get hard after 18 months locked and erection free. Best advice: lock back up and forget about it.
I can fully understand and appreciate your dilemma. You have the opportunity to enjoy a few moments of self-induced pleasure. While it’s technically within the bounds of your agreement, I think there’s a part of you that recognizes your wife would be disappointed should you decide to do so. This seems to be a case of the temptation being great while the flesh is weak. Hopefully she will be delighted. It doesn’t mean she’ll grant you an orgasm but she may may make it up to you in other ways. It would be interesting if she were to edge you and see how hard she can make you before locking you up again. If she does and you can, take comfort in the fact that everything still works and you are indeed beholden to your wife.
I can’t say what’s going wrong n with you, but will say that my mentality changed. From what I hear, there is a big connection with what’s going on upstairs and what’s going on downstairs. I had a pretty vivid imagination, in fact one of my ways of falling asleep was to come up with a fantasy and just keep running with it in my mind until I nodded off. Over the years I think I stayed pretty open minded with characters, plot development, scenarios…until we started chastity. Now when I do this it always lands on her as the main character, and the scenario always seems to be her in charge. My dreams are similar. I can’t remember the last time I dreamt or fantasized about anyone else. Fantasy is harmless and has endless possibilities, yet I end up focused on one person. The only thing that changed me being locked, and her holding the keys. I’m sure if you gave up chastity and went back to your normal routine, you wouldn’t have any issues with getting yourself there, as is, you’re focused on someone else.
Thanks all for some good feedback. I still can't believe that I couldn't "climb that mountain". She came back yesterday and we made up. She gave me a 10 minute shot at PIV but had rubbed EMLA cream instead of Hydrocortisone on my sore cock. I deserved that so I took defeat with a laugh and was locked back up. This morning she chained me to the headboard, took the cage off, and proceeded to edge me while she wore the batteries out in her bullit. I was rock hard in seconds and every time she came I leaked. It was about then that I realized I was enjoying this far more than my last PIV (as was she, of course). So, Yes @Open2njoy , she most certainly made it up to me I think @Nicoftime nailed it by saying my many fantasies, indeed my subconcious sex triggers, have been replaced. I only experience such sexual highs at her touch now, and almost always restrained, so my brain seems to be rewired. Indeed, I have noticed that if I see a sexy woman it is my wifes image that pops to mind if I feel any arousal. I am really being reprogrammed, and I love it so much there is nothing I can do to prevent it.
@Headtrip I would say based on your experiences this weekend, that your wife has quite effectively turned male chastity into your kink as well as hers. Your inability to masturbate (not for lack of trying I presume) and her ability to edge you while restrained to a full, leaky erection in a matter of seconds pretty much seals the deal. You love the lifestyle and are addicted to your wife. Congratulations.
Wow. That's some powerful magic in action. I'm sort of jealous how things are going with you. I have had some issues with the skin of my (her) penis and I've been unlocked for a week or two. As it so easily happens, the flesh is weak, and I've been watching "cock hero" vids hour after hour. However, the mind is not completely without power, and I have been able not to have orgasms (save for couple of ruined accidents, both types: just a few drops of semen and "the whole load but no great pleasure"). So, I'm not there in the same magic land as you, but it sounds like a nice place to be. Then again, I seem to be somewhat poly, and I guess the same magic would need to apply for all the women I keep happy.
My Queen has trained me in the past seven years on not getting hard unless she wants it hard. I can touch it out of the cage n front of her and it wont get hard. If Mistress touches it instantly gets hard. She will allow me to masterbate in front of her but only with our neo steel wand to milk myself in my pink nub. My Queen has also taught me not to cum during piv because of this. She can ride her little cock or use it for hours because of the mental training i recieved. I would rather masterbate and orgasm anally anytime over stroking a little cock for 2 min of pleasure.
That sounds absolutely wonderful! Can I ask what kind of training you have had to get to this? I would love to be able to do this. Best wishes.
Wow..thats good relationship..she is pure dominant mistress While u are maybe a bit vanilla?... Its opposite of me..me pure kinky and my wife is vanilla... But best of luck...i wish had such pure kinky wife...
If i came to early i got paddled and wasnt allowed to be unlocked again for piv first time 2 wks. The second time a month. 20 wacks on my ass with the paddle. So then when we had sex and iabout to cum she made me pull out and lock her little cock back up. Mistress had finish her with my mouth. It took at least 6 months to train my brain.
Yeah, it is "being reprogrammed". That is a great way to put it. And it's addictive as fuck. I have zero desire to resist. Tonight, in front of some of her family, she just flat out said that I always have to do whatever she says. She was pretending to just be joking. But she's right. And I love her even more for it.
My experience is that it is psychological reprogramming. I do attempt to become erect with my device on, which of course is futile. In the rare instance that the device is removed, I simply do not become hard any longer at all.
It's behavior modification. Your behavior has been modified so that you no longer achieve an erection without her being present. I did this to myself and it helped curb my Masterbation a lot. Now I can only get an erection when she touches me. Iso
ED has many causes. Stress, age, Meds. I know I take a few meds that ED is one of the side effects. The only way my Wife(KH) allows me to cum is from masturbating. Sometimes she will do it, but most of the time, she makes me do it and just watches. I know, after a long denial period of no orgasms. I have be deny for as long as 3 months. When given the chance to masturbate and cum, I rarely get a full erection. In fact, most of the time I'm so excited, I stay very soft. My Wife gives me 15-20 second to cum, if it takes longer, she stops me and I'm locked back up. So I don't have time to get hard. When my Wife wants to see my cock hard, she will have me take my cage off and give me a few minutes of oral. I still get very hard from this(and I can't cum, or else), but once she stops, I go limp pretty fast...For me, when my Wife does do oral on me, and lets me go limp, she thinks it's funny that she can now put both my balls and my cock in her mouth. She actually stopped and told me to watch her do it. She thought it was so funny and kept doing it.
It makes me feel very very submissive when my wife makes me masturbate in front of her and then lock back up without touching me or PIV.
When I was younger, I would masturbate a lot. I always hid someplace and would jerk off quickly. Go into the bathroom, lock myself in my bedroom and never did I ever do it in front of someone. Even before we got into MC, I never masturbated in front of my Wife(KH). I always thought I was doing something dirty or wrong. So now when my Wife makes me do it in front of her, I find it very humiliating and submissive. She will have me stand beside her while she is watching T.V. or on the computer, jerk off into my hand and then tell me to go and clean up, showing no interest in me at all. Now, to me, that's humiliating.
My wife bought a chastity lock one day to control me. Don't let me masturbate. That is painful. I have been masturbating for more than ten years. This is the chastity lock it bought: https://acmejoy.com/collections/penis-sleeves/products/stainless-steel-chastity-cock-cage.
Had to use the em-key a Ball was slipping out. Tought of masturbation did nothing to my penis.... Adjusted my balls put the cage backon locked and it remaind flaccid.... So i feel you. Think if i went to laydown with some porn it will worked but i didn't it did not feels good to do that....
I think for me it is why WON'T I masturbate? Before chastity, I was always trying to time when she would want sex and work in an extra session (or two) alone that wouldn't interfere with being available to her. I never told her about it and always made sure I said yes when I got the nudge from her. Some call it the "drop" or the "letdown" but I used to marvel at people who claimed to never want another orgasm. Surely they were either broken or lying about their situation, I thought. The longer we practice her control over my orgasms, the more I see the wisdom is either having very limited orgasms or perhaps for those that can... simply go without. I crave her attention and her touch these days which she says she notices and loves. My desire to be with her most of the time is strongly tied to the how long it has been since I had an orgasm. She is my wife, I love her and I want to spend time with her but chemistry being what it is... I'm less inclined to be close and loving when I don't have an urgent desire to get her attentions. When I'm unlocked for whatever reason, I absolutely hate it. Despise it. Dread it. You could say I'm not a fan. I want that reminder that I'm hers, I need the help of not getting erect and stroking when I have a hormone spike. I have proven that self-pleasure is something will eventually happen if I'm unlocked. I applaud those who are chaste without the cage, I can do it for a few days or a week but not much more. My restraint is only because I WANT to crave her attentions, I want to have that flaming passion for her at all times, I want to feel the restraint of the cage when my desire swells; all of that is lost in a few moments of weakness. So now I have said that I can and will masturbate and that I won't masturbate in the same post. I want to orgasm and I don't want to orgasm; such is the fine line of being chaste. I chase the orgasm sensation but I really would prefer not the catch it. When I do orgasm, I want it to be because she has decided it is to be so and not because I was horny in my own thoughts. Last weekend my wife asked me "what is the longest you've gone without cumming?" I warily reminded her we once went three months in the early days just to see if I could do it with my cage, but it was my idea. Why? "I have a plan." Even with access to a Hitachi Magic Wand that I know will make me come even when I'm caged, I'm not going to screw up her plan. No way. I love it, all of it.