Who put the cage on you?

I voted for her idea, even though I am the her.. So my idea would have also applied. We got involved due to my liking the looks of a cheap knockoff. Although we have been together for a while, our sex lives were pretty much nonexistent 3years prior to chastity due to numerous surgeries. Now, we are enjoying each other again.

 

My idea, but where this has taken us has been just as much her idea if not more, than mine.

I was just into her locking me up until she was ready to use it, and have her be in charge of sex. She did so much research and Internet browsing on the subject that FLR really appealed to her.

With that she discovered a dormant kink of discipline and being in charge. So once she actually knew of all of it, she was on board and not looking back. Although I get turned on by whatever she wants, some of them were things I had never thought about in a sexual manner, yet now that I know she wants them, appeal to me.

 

Had to vote my idea.
My queen absolutely hated if found out I was masturbating. Internet let me stumble onto chastity and we talked about it. Now she has learned to love knowing I can't play alone as long as I am locked.
Until recently she wouldn't let herself enjoy using any toys on herself. She has discovered how to ride me cowgirl style and holding a magic wand on just the right spot achieving multiple hard orgasms. She also enjoys felling me shooting inside, but she also enjoys keeping me horny all the time. Now to wait and see which enjoyment wins out if I keep getting to make messes or if she rises until she is satisfied and stops.

 

Had to vote my idea.
My queen absolutely hated if found out I was masturbating. Internet let me stumble onto chastity and we talked about it. Now she has learned to love knowing I can't play alone as long as I am locked.
Until recently she wouldn't let herself enjoy using any toys on herself. She has discovered how to ride me cowgirl style and holding a magic wand on just the right spot achieving multiple hard orgasms. She also enjoys felling me shooting inside, but she also enjoys keeping me horny all the time. Now to wait and see which enjoyment wins out if I keep getting to make messes or if she rises until she is satisfied and stops.

 

Whilst my wife knew that I was extremely self conscious we only realised by accident how much more intense and enjoyable making love was for both of us when she took control and how naturally submissive I became in this situation. One evening a few days later my wife said she had found a site on the internet that had short stories about female led relationships and suggested that we read some together. We both found these extremely erotic and enjoyable particularly when my wife suggested that she would continue reading aloud whilst I stimulated her using my tongue and fingers. She was so aroused that she climaxed before finishing the story then stated that as in the story I would have to wait until the next night before she would allow me to have an orgasm.
It wasn't long before we found female led relationship stories in which men were made to wear chastity devices so that their orgasms could be strictly controlled by their wives, girlfriends or key holders which we both found even more enjoyable.
One Sunday morning after a very entertaining evening reading a couple of stories then being told how my wife wanted me to bring her to a number of orgasms before I was finally allowed my release. She suggested that as I was so submissive, had previously enjoyed being refused an orgasm and obviously enjoyed reading the stories she should get me a suitable chastity device. Later whilst I was preparing lunch my wife was already researching which devices would be most suitable.

 

Well ours is a bit of a story...

 

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Who came up with the idea is a tough one... I mean he suggested it but I wouldnt say was his idea.
I had some how stumbled upon orgasm denial and ruined orgasm porn... the more I started watching it the more I found then stumbling upon chastity.

We never talked about it.

He had let out to me about how much he was masturbating.
We talked about it though text alot.
One day as a joke he said maybe I should lock it up. I giggled and said yes maybe we should. So thay started it all.
Now I know he frequently would snoop through my phone so I imagine that's what spawned the idea in his head.

 

I had seen them and the thought excited me. But when she saw someone wearing one she said I think this is what you need. I was excited but hesitant. But I told her that I wanted to give her all of my orgasms, and that it was a form of cheating when I masterbate. She agreed. So I am basically self locked to supplement my inability to break a very old habbit.

 

I've always had kinky desires and over the last several years we've been expanding our play more and more; some things I was slow to bring up such as pegging out of fear my Wife would think I've gone to far, only to find out She had always wondered about that and come to find out She loves the control and reverse dynamic - She was naturally assuming the Dominant role which works out perfectly.

I started lurking here and having fantasies of being caged & denied. Finally one day at work during some flirtatious text I cryptically but very clearly brought up chastity - She replied with "I've wondered if you would do that for me" - that text response was incredibly exciting and a bit scary as I wasn't sure what to expect.

 

My idea but not because it was my fantasy. I had upset Elle with the results of my genital modification and needed to cover it up. She agreed instantly when I suggested me wearing a device as a way of helping her. Neither of us had any idea where it would go. She absolutely loves the control it has given her both in terms of my chastity but also in the way we have formally recognized that our relationship is an FLR.

 

It was my idea. I came across chastity on tumbler, had never heard of it before. Our sex drives are at very much the opposite ends of the spectrum. I want sex at least once a day, her? Not sure. So we compromised. We have sex less often than i want and more often than she wants.

In my teens I played around with tantric yoga, so I had some experience with not orgasming every time I wanted.

Soooo, I thought chastity would help to curb or stop my masturbation habit while at the same time giving her the opportunity to have intercourse only when she wants.

So how has it worked out?

We've been at this for just under 2 years, with the last year being 24/7.

As far as I'm concerned we are still just getting started. At the moment she's letting me out for intercourse about once a week. I'm not complaining

When we play it's still more about me than her. She says oral does nothing to her ( not just me and my technique, same with old boyfriends) so I get to do oral as a treat for me not her. She's not an anal fan either.

So I'm trying to slowly make play times about her and in the meantime I'll just have to suffer by having sex with her. and how am I doing this? Well I'm trying to allow her to be comfortable with what we are doing. Letting her decide when I get to come, and letting her be comfortable with her decisions.

 

It was my idea. I stumbled across chastity and orgasm denial during our engagement. I bought a cheap plastic one to try it out before even thinking about bringing up to hereceive. Once I tried it I found I actually liked the feeling of being locked up. On our wedding night just before going to bed,I told her she had the key to my heart and handed her the keys as I told her she also has the keys to my cock. We both laughed and played around with chastity for a little while. She never really got into it until just recently asked me to get her a book on male chastity. Fingers crossed (I think).

 

My told me that she didn't like to revive oral also, but.it was more because of the way people made her fell about it, like they were just doing it for her and they didn't really want to do it. After a couple time of nothing happening,she was able to relax more, and she sees that I like it. Now she loves it.
Before girls started shaving down there it was not as nice there were always hairs getting stuck in peoples throat.

 

I think the quote about doing it for her, is a big part.of it. For the most part.men jerk off and woman don't like it, it a type of cheating. So in this way we can give ourselves to them, and them only

 

Zeb6 - You're dead on correct. My Wife stating about doing it 'For Her' created a massive emotional high, it still warms my heart and brings a smile to my face - saved the text string with some others for posterity.

 

I admitted to my g/f about how much I was masturbating while she was at work, we had opposite work schedules at the time. I introduced the chastity idea to her and she agreed to try it, even though she is more on the submissive side. It wasn't two weeks and she was taking over and coming up with ideas for ways that I could earn a release. Now things are much more simple, the tube comes off when SHE wants and not a minute before! She is ruthless in her control of those keys and I couldn't have asked for anything more.

 

My chastity was a mutual idea that came as a result of several long discussions about Her taking control. We did it on the honor system for a couple of years until She ;earned that I was not being totally "honorable" which is when She introduced the cage.

 

I originally introduced it to help me stop masturbating (2-3 times per day). It was effective at that, but it had an unintended consequence. My wife has always suffered from vaginismus which makes intercourse very painful. She had grown to hate sex and resent my cock over the years.

After I had been wearing the cage for a few weeks, I really wanted sex one night. My wife told me she was menstruating, and suggested I could stay locked up and we could do "everything else". She had the first orgasm of her life that night and was hooked on the idea of keeping my cock caged.

She really wanted permanent chastity for me from the start, but felt guilty about the idea of me never having any erections or orgasms again. So we experimented with increasingly longer lock ups, along with me failing at different points. We have currently agreed that I will be locked up until at least our 10th anniversary in November 2018. At that point we will discuss whether I should be unlocked for anything or just kept chaste permanently.

 

It isn't always easy (hence my occasional failures to stay chaste). I find this forum helpful. It's good to know there are others out there who live this lifestyle either out of choice or necessity.

Although chastity for me has been challenging, it has been rewarding. My wife literally cannot become aroused if I have an erection. Just the possibility that I could penetrate her causes her anxiety. The difference in her demeanor when I'm locked vs unlocked is night and day. I love the way she acts when I'm locked, but not being able to use my penis is incredibly frustrating sometimes. And knowing that she would love nothing less than for me to be like that permanently causes some friction. Friction for me because it is very difficult to accept permanent chastity, and difficult for her because she wants it so bad and knows I struggle with it. She feels betrayed when I have a failure and stimulate my cock.

 

I was & am the 'her' And it was my idea.

 

The majority answer is obvious for anyone who has read about chastity. Even the books I bought for my wife after I was locked up will say that 99% of times, the man will ask to be locked up. Over the last 5 years that is what I have heard from guys in chastity and just about every website online. Some of the BDSM and cuckold website will show you that the Dominant one or cuckoldress is the one that brings it up, but having been into both fetishes, it really was my idea or suggestion that later came back to me as an order to do so.