Where do I start...

at the beginning I guess.

So I've been married for 6 years to my wonderful wife. I'm 8 years older than her (I'm 45) and we have two kids (4 and 20 months). Figured I'd include that info so people in similar situations can relate. It seems much easier to be kinky as hell if you don't have others in the home. Anyways, I digress.

So earlier this year I got the idea in my head that I'd like to see what chastity felt like. I purchased a plastic device some on online store and would play on my own. I'd wear it to work a few times and no one was the wiser. I was even able to wear it around the house without the wife knowing (I typically have to initiate all sexual contact in the marriage). After a week or so that device broke and I ordered a metal one. At this point I figured I'd introduce the wife to my newly found kink.

After talking to her about it she wasn't freaked out but she wasn't sure about her "role." When I first gave her the keys I make plenty of mistakes where I was pretty much trying to top from the bottom. Her thing is she didn't want to feel like doing this was work. She already has two little kids she has to take care of most of the day and didn't want to feel like she had to take care of me too. I initially became very frustrated and moody that she wasn't teasing me, that it felt like she could have cared less that I was wearing it. I was frustrated that it still seemed like any initiation of affection was solely up to me. I eventually stopped wearing the device after a couple weeks.

So a couple months later we talked about it again and I told her I learned from my mistakes and so far it's been good. I don't expect anything from her as far as teasing goes. I wish like hell that she would take a more engaging role and some days she does and those are the best. I've gotten a better fitting device, a cheap metal device (see avatar), and I've been wearing it pretty much 24/7 since July 13th with a few days out of it while on vacation.

One interesting aspect is she prefers normal sex...missionary. I can typically give her 4-5 orgasms with normal sex versus when I give her oral, she orgasms and needs me to stop all contact with her clit, just like a guy it becomes too simulating to continue contact. I'm not sure if all women are like this but it obviously isn't shown like that in porn (which is hardly ever reality). Now she loves that I give her oral and it feels really good, she just likes a good fucking (who doesn't).

One thing I'd love to hear from others if my wife isn't really that sexual naturally. She isn't really fond of her body (see two kids) and was always self conscious even when she was thin. She probably couldn't remember the last time she masturbated. When discussing any fantasies she has, she always says she doesn't have any. She wonders if that is normal since I have so many fantasies swimming in my head. I assure her it is.

So I guess that is it. My birthday is coming up in a couple of months and I've already asked her for a month of lockup with complete denial. I've also asked for at least one tease/denial once a week. Hopefully I get what I ask for. Until then I continue to try and be a better husband to her. I rub her feet almost every night and will please her orally anytime she wants. She decides when she wants to have sex and if I get to cum (she pretty much always wants me to cum so far).

Thanks for reading and I look forward to any comments.

 

Definitely should have proof-read that better.

I meant to say that I'd love to hear from others if they have a similar SO like mine where my wife isn't very sexual by nature.

Anyways, since I've been locked I've been at home for my job. Well, this week I traveled away and it's the first time I've been locked on the road and it'll be interesting. I can't remember the last time I didn't masturbate in my hotel room when I was on the road.

 

Been quite a while since I updated this, in fact, I don't think I really have updated it since I started it.

I was locked for much of October and then as November rolled around I kind of was feeling neglected by the wife so I went ahead and removed the cage. My birthday was back in November. We had talked about her giving me a month of being locked with her being involved as her present to me and she agreed. With the holidays upon us we agreed that life would be way to busy to try something like that until at least January.

At this point I'm going to be traveling quite a bit during January so I'm not sure it'll be a good idea to do it then since I won't be around as much to give my wife foot rubs, massages, and oral.

 

Mine doesn't hate intercourse, it just isn't something she thinks about much.

 

Been a while since I've had good reason to update this thread so here it goes.

I mentioned before my wife was going to give me my birthday present by locking me up for a month. Well, we finally did that and started at the end of May. I spent the best part of July, except for a couple short work trips, locked up. Didn't orgasm at all even when I was unlocked and away. Didn't have a ton of teasing going on but that is okay, we live busy lives. On my last trip which was the week of the 4th I asked her if she would rather I just lock up when I get home or wait for her to tell me to lock up. She answer she wanted me to just lock back up when I got home without having to wait for her to tell me. Awesome. That weekend we ended up having sex and she let me orgasm. No talk about locking back up after and since it had been a month, I thought we were done with chastity for a bit.

So this past week I go on another trip. And since we were done I enjoyed some self abuse while I was in my hotel, especially thinking we were done. So I come back from my trip and last night we were in bed, not messing around or anything and she asked me if I locked back up. THIS. IS. HUGE. She never brings up me being locked up on her own. It is me being up the subject. I told her I wasn't and she reminded me what we discussed. She let me wait until morning so I could have a uninterrupted night of sleep (I get woken by the 5am pee induced erection all the time).

So I am very excited that she brought it up. That means she was thinking about it and is hopefully enjoying the benefits that come along with her taking control of her property. I'll try and temper my expectations still but I am excited!!!

And no, at this time I haven't elected to tell her about my self abuse while unlocked. I don't think I will offer up that information but I won't lie if she asks. I might break down and tell her though. I don't wish to keep secrets.

 

It's the little things.

So back in early October (the 8th to be exact) I texted the wife and said I think I'd like to be locked up again. She agreed and I was locked up for pretty much 24/7 except for some times when I had to travel for work. This wasn't for Locktober or anything like that, just wanted to get back into it because I found myself masturbating way too much (not multiple times a day mind you but certainly daily).

During that time when she would take off her anklet that holds the key she would leave it laying around. I would ask her if the wanted to wear it and she said she did. This was a pretty common occurrence. I would give her oral and that went on and all the sudden, it was November 9th. We went a month which is the longest we've done this. I had just come back from a work trip on the 8th and was tired that night but on the 9th I gave her a bit of a back rub and got down to business. After I gave her an orgasm with oral she said she wanted me inside her. I wasn't going to last long and I knew it. She gave me permission to cum and it was glorious. She put the cage in a box we lock the keys into and put it in her night stand so the kids wouldn't see it in the morning and we both faded into an awesome sleep.

We went out for my birthday the next night, and she started her period so my timing the previous night was impeccable. That day was a very busy day and the cage was out of sight out of mind. After dinner I asked her if she wanted me to lock back up or if she wanted to take a break. She was surprised I wasn't locked up and told me I would lock up when we got home and I did.

Now for the little things part. When I woke up the next morning she was wearing the key. I hadn't asked her if she wanted to wear it or anything. She showered that morning and there it was again, her wearing the key. Until now I've always had to ask her if she wanted to put it back on but now it seems she is thinking about it and doing it on her own. This excites me to no end. It truly is the little things.

 

Haven't been locked or anything like that since last year around Thanksgiving. I decided to lock myself up on Monday without talking to N about doing so. I wanted to curb my masturbation. I knew I'd have the house to myself for an hour or so on Monday and I knew I was going to masturbate so that is why I locked up. I handed her the keys and asked her to hide them until I needed them again for exercise.

We talked about it some today and I think I'm going to stay locked but we will see. I think that if I wanted to unlock she would give me the keys so it is really up to me but I'm going to try and stay locked.

 

Last week I went out of town for work. I've been traveling a bunch lately. I asked about if she would want me to be locked up and she said yes. So when I got to my hotel I put on my cage and locked her key in a key lockbox with a code she had preset on it. The day I flew home she gave me the code so I could remove the lock. My cage can stay on without the lock so I just put the lock (magic locker) back in when I got through security at the airport. When I got home I handed her the key.

It is now week two and week two is always the most difficult week for me. I start to really feel the physical and emotional effects or being locked up during week two. I am doing my best not to mention anything to her about sex or being locked up. I want to push through this week and see how long I can go. I don't expect to travel again until October. I am hoping I can stay locked up the remainder of September and give Locktober a try.

 

Good luck. I wasn't on this site when I first started to you've got a head start on me. Take it slow and try not to be a pest about it is my advice. It really is all about communication.

 

On to the third week and the submissive feelings haven't really kicked in. I've been doing everything I can though to make my wife happy. I want to talk to her about my being locked up but then again I don't. I don't want to put any expectations on it and make her feel like she is failing if she doesn't do X. So I will continue day-by-day and keep my head down and do my best to please her. That is what this is all about.

 

Doubtful, and I don't think I'd want that either truth be had. It would be like serving someone else and I'm doing this to serve her. I am happy with where we are. Would I enjoy it if she was more active and teasing, yes, but I'm not going to push for it. It'll happen organically or it won't happen.

 

I broke down and asked the wife her thoughts on what control she has over me at this time. She felt that it's been going much better this time because I haven't had any expectations but that she didn't want to put any kind of definition on what is going on. I've just been focusing on making sure she is very happy both sexually and with work being done around the house. I really think she is enjoying how it is going so far this time. This might be leading towards the "be careful what you ask for" territory.

So I'm not putting forth any expectations of being teased or anything like that. I'm just going to continue to be locked and focus on her and trust that she will take care of me when I need it.

 

Last week we had the most amazing night. I don't think I've strained against the bars of my Jailbird that much. While my wife still isn't into teasing during the day, when we are playing she does a great job using her hands and body to tease the hell out of me. I've been able to give her some minor orgasms while grinding her caged cock gently against her before I serve her with oral for a much better orgasm. Last night marks the beginning of 4 straight weeks caged. I think this is the longest we've gone on this journey without me being released or having some PIV with her.

I shared with her a thought I had where she would set a timer and let me see if I can cum and if I can, I have to cum on her feet and then have to lick it up. I've never done anything like that before and I'm so horny it sound like something I'd do but I'm sure post orgasm it might not sound as good of an idea. Anyways, she said she thought that was gross and wouldn't have me do that.

 

After a long layoff I'm back. Been feeling the itch, so to speak. Since the last time I've sold the MM Jailbird since I could never seem to make it work. I was always sore when wearing it no matter what I tried with different base ring sizes or gap changes. I'm sticking with wearing a Fox 3d printed cage that fits nicely.

I talked to my wife about it and she has her hesitations as she thinks she is disappointing me by not being a mean dominatrix. I told her I don't want to make her feel that way and that I don't want her to be something she isn't. I reminded her of some teasing she did while we were first dating. She would kiss me and lick my lips but if I tried to kiss back she would pull back. That kind of teasing and control is something I think she would enjoy at times and that would be awesome if it could be tied in with chastity.

I'm locking back up at this point in order to stop of jerking off. It normally takes me at least a week to get into the right headspace to be a proper mate. We just made love a couple nights ago and I go out of town for a week. As long as I can be good on my trip I should be right where I need to be when I return. That is my hope at least.

 

The MM folks were great. I just couldn’t get it don’t and became frustrated so so sold it and went with 3D printed. I do miss the weight on the Jailbird.